Fast-forward eight years – now executive producer in New York City, but still single, (ouch!) in the worst place in the world for a single woman in her forties. I had all but given up on finding a life partner. The problem was not meeting a man, but keeping him. Most were just too unavailable and focused on their careers for a long-term relationship. Besides, there were just too many fascinating women in New York City. Numbed by the pressures of my job and acute loneliness (and not burdened with any mortgaged real estate), I began seriously researching how to maneuver a permanent move to Costa Rica, alone.
The important thing to remember when making a life change, such as moving to a new country and starting a new career, is that you have everything you need to succeed, right here, right now.
I know some of you are rolling your eyes and making mental lists of all the things you don’t have: enough money, a supportive partner, security, courage. But don’t focus on what you don’t have; critically examine what you do.
You have skills, experience, relationships, possibly some assets, probably some debt, and definitely more expenses than you should. Start with the obvious: scale everything back. Do you really need that big, beautiful house or expensive rental apartment? If your home is a smart investment or if you can’t sell it, rent it out. If you live in a cool place, consider swapping residences temporarily with someone in your country of choice. Or keep your home, and house- or pet-sit in your destination country for free or at a reduced rent until you figure out a more permanent situation. The Internet is the obvious place to look for all these opportunities. Sell you stuff on Craigslist, have a garage sale, and donate anything you do not really love and need. Then take another critical look at all your expenses, and slash, slash, slash.
I’m not suggesting a move of this kind is for everyone. Obviously, if you are heavy in debt, have substantial family obligations, or a partner who does not share your dreams, you are probably better off just taking a vacation — or better, paying off your bills. But if you are struggling to justify the purpose of your life, consider seriously re-evaluating your choices and assess if a major life move is for you.
