Mika's Do-Over
Brzezinski, Joe Scarborough (right) and MSNBC’s senior political analyst Lawrence O’Donnell (left)
Peter Ross
During Brzezinski’s six-week maternity leave, WABC in Manhattan hired her husband, television journalist Jim Hoffer, as an investigative reporter. This meant that when Brzezinski returned to work, both parents were pulling crazy, intense hours, commuting from their suburban Westchester home and working flat out at their respective studios. “Jim never slept. I never slept,” she says.
Two months later, Brzezinski’s exhaustion took a horrible toll on the family. She hurried home to relieve her nanny so she could take the afternoon off. “I rushed upstairs and grabbed my baby. I was talking a hundred miles an hour, and I walked right off the top of the stairs. I fell down the complete flight.”
Brzezinski landed on top of her daughter. The baby was not moving from the chin down.
Instantly, Brzezinski began to repeat: “ ‘She’s got to be OK. She’s got to be OK,’ because I knew Carlie wasn’t OK,” she says, tearing up even now, years later. “Her cry was all wrong. I thought she had a head injury. I took her straight to the hospital.”
There, doctors strapped the baby to a board and began tests. Brzezinski realized they thought the child’s back was broken, which meant she might have made the prognosis worse by moving her. “I fell apart,” Brzezinski says. “I slid down the wall. My face was on the floor, and I wept.” It took eight hours for the medical team to determine that Carlie’s main injury was a broken femur.
Still, the incident was serious enough that child protective services investigated Brzezinski on suspicion of child abuse. She felt so guilty that “when the social worker came to our house,” Brzezinski says, “I told her, ‘Put the hand-cuffs on me.’ ” The social worker interviewed her nanny and husband, inspected the home and examined the children. Then she recommended that Brzezinski get some rest and closed the case.
That was it. Brzezinski told her husband she was quitting her job. “I had it all worked out,” she says. “We would downsize to an apartment, and I’d be a stay-at-home mom.” Hoffer agreed a huge change was necessary but believed if she up gave up the work she loved out of guilt and exhaustion, she’d be miserable. “We’ve been cheap,” he told Brzezinski. “Now we’re going to get all the help you need. If after six months you still want to quit, you can, but you can’t quit like this.”
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I just don't see the "good role model" in the story. The story I read was one about a woman who admittedly puts her family on the "back burner" to advance her career. I quote, "There were times when her kids were on the back burner." Another quote, "Kids can see that their mother is more than a mom or wife, that she has things that make her happy and bring her joy, and they want her to be able to have those things." I assume the "thing" she is talking about is her job. My favorite quote in the story is this, "If I were trying to do it the way I used to, without enough support (i.e. nannies), I couldn't either. I'd rather spend one good hour with my kids a day than eight bad ones. It's called restraint, transferring power and control, and admitting what I am not good at doing." She's admitting she doesn't think she's good at raising her kids. Thank you, Mika. I have been waiting for working moms to admit that...it's really hard to do both, have a high-powered job and be a mom.
Okay, maybe i went overboard and talking about her being a "super-mom" but i wasnt saying that she was the super-hero in essence, but that she's a super mom in not letting her past judgements bring her down or even make her weaker. She was better for her family to step back and re-organize her priorties and despite CBS canning her, she's found stronger footing @ MSNBC.
Mika's successful career, her many accomplishments, and the journey that she took to reach her current position is an inspiring story and this is what makes her a good role model for all young women and especially for her daughters. Mika is very honest in sharing her story and unfortunately this opens her life up to much judgment. Few people are this honest with themselves, much less with outsiders, As women we need to support each other rather than pass judgment.
I read this story with a much different perspective. Mika is not telling us that she is a great parent. Quite the opposite, she is admitting her failures as a working mom is admitting she can't do it all. I think it's a pretty "ballsy" article and I thank her for her candor. She definitely is not a "mother" role model so I am not sure what Rhonda is saying when she uses that term. She's not a super mom either. She admits in the article that she doesn't do much mothering at all. She did not want to even divulge how much outside help she has with her children. So thank you Mika for being honest with us.
totally agree, Rhonda. Mika's story has that affect on you and she's the kind of person to tell it like it is and not mince words, especially when it came to getting fired from CBS. I enjoy her and although she feels differently about soda consumption in the US (a morning joe topic), i still enjoy her. ann



