Boost Your Pleasure by Practicing Mindful Sex

The channel you need to change to is mindfulness – a total immersion and focus on what is happening in the moment. Mindful sex is sex in which you are totally and completely absorbed in the physical sensations of your body.

One of the best ways to achieve mindfulness during sex is to practice it throughout the day. Indeed, we can be mindful during any activity. You can completely immerse yourself in the feel of warm, sudsy water on your fingers while doing the dinner dishes. Eating mindfully can enhance the delight of a meal. This state of complete absorption can be invoked during vacuuming, showering, or talking with a friend. The more practiced you are at achieving a mindful state during daily life, the easier it will be for you to get there during sex.

It is no coincidence that the phrase “mind-blowing” is often associated with sex. To reach mind-blowing sex, you have to engage in mindful sex. To have sensational sex, you have to focus on the sensations and not on your unfinished work project. Mind-blowing sex means that your mind is not working; only your body is reacting. Busy brains are not for the bedroom.

Focusing your thoughts on sex outside of the bedroom can, however, enhance your interest in sex. A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex dedicates an entire chapter to such mental foreplay. One strategy recommended is taking an hourly, five-minute sex break to think about an exciting past sexual encounter or an enticing sexual fantasy.  Another is purposefully thinking positive thoughts about sex, such as “I love sex!” throughout the day.

While a few rare women can think themselves to orgasm, most can’t.  But, you can still make the most of the sex organ between your ears by thinking sexy thoughts when you are not in bed and focusing on the sexual feelings when you are in bed!