Having a Baby Over 50
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As one of those women who had a baby afer 50, I just want to say that it was a good idea for me. None of us knows the length of the life we have ahead of us. My grandparents all lived into their 90's so I can only hope that the genetics are on my side. But, I'm not living my life as if I'll die tomorrow. In fact, I routinely have to urge my 30 something mom friends to get out and go to the gym. Everyone has to make their own decisions about when it's right for them to have a child. Some children grow up resenting their parents for having them when they were only kids themselves. Others resent their parents for other reasons. My child knows that she is loved and provided for, something other children sadly don't know. If anyone here is interested in persuing parenting after 50, please come join us at http://pregnancyafter50.com.
I am an avid reader of More and I've always wondered when the magazine would feature women who became mothers later in life. As a woman who became a mother last year at 44, I thank you. Since I became a mother, I've experienced some of the happiest days of my life and I'm sure the best is yet to come. The blessings are overflowing. Bernice
My mother was 51 when I was born. She died at 92. She was the most remarkable woman, and I knew every moment of the day that I was loved. She also had a complete life before I was born, so I never felt like "filler" material. She was healthy to the end, too, for which I am grateful. But a woman who can have a baby at 51 IS healthy, so it's no surprise. I just had my baby at 45 and I could not be happier. I already have achieved so much (two doctorates and a successful academic career) so I can spend my time with him. We were both blessed. And I am endlessly grateful.
I would like to share my experience with being married to someone whose mother was 52 when he was born. He was an only child and at age 22 lost both parents within three months. He was devastated and refused to go to another funeral for over 20 years. We have two children because he said he would never put our oldest child thru what he had been thru. Having a baby over 50 is NOT a good idea under any circumstances. You will die when the child is still young and you have no idea what you are doing to your child. Losing a parent at any age is terrible to deal with but you can handle death so much better when you are older.
So you decided to have a baby over 50....What happened, did you wake up one morning and think "Gee, I KNEW there was something I forgot to do! Now what was it??? I know - I FORGOT TO HAVE A BABY!!!!"??? My dear grandmother had a saying: Just because you can doesn't mean you should.....
