As I matured, my mother, aunts and female relatives never spoke to me of menopause. I heard about it and never thought much of it. I now know that I had been betrayed by the very women I looked up to for guidance and advice because they never forewarned me about menopause and the awful side effects on my body and well being.
At age 40 I was having multiple periods. My doctor checked my hormone levels and told me I was in early menopause and put me on the birth control pill to regulate my periods.
In my mid 40’s my sex drive was still strong but I noticed that I would have a hard time staying lubricated. I tried K-Y jelly and a few other brands and they helped somewhat. However, with each year sex became more uncomfortable.
Since my boyfriend at the time had suffered a stroke, my sex drive was unimportant. I just forgot about it. Because sex became so painful from the lack of lubrication, it became the last thing I wanted to do and a thought I loathed. I found myself pushing my man away. This is from a woman who LOVED sex and enjoyed the pleasure it gave me and my partner.
She gave me a long talk, showed me medical pamphlets and advised me that I was perfect candidate for Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) because I was so healthy. (HRT can cause cancer or stroke in women who have excessive body fat, smoke, drink or don’t practice healthy lifestyles). I decided to give it a try. She promised me that in 6 months I would be thanking her.
Seven months later I met a wonderful man. We started dating and that first time together I was honest and told him I wasn’t sure I could have sex. Well, my Manila doctor was right. It was like I was 18 again and haven’t stopped to look back. I’m well lubricated, my sex drive has returned with a vengeance, my hair has stopped falling out, I have lost body fat, my complexion cleared up, skin is so supple, less dry and I’m HAPPY!\
