Most of us were taught by our parents to try to please other people, not to make waves and to be respectful and polite in our behavior. Being respectful and polite are qualities we should express. However, we should not constantly worry about the fact someone may not like our ideas, or us, when we are FOCUSED and know the direction we are taking.
For example, some people may be critical of our behavior if we are self-directed when we stand up for what is right and are not afraid to voice our opinions. The naysayers are often times jealous. They might want to make the thoughtful individual look bad for being creative or taking a risk. The person passing judgment does this because she has neither a strategy nor any ideas, so she wants to tear the self-directed person down.
You should completely understand and be comfortable with the fact not everyone is going to like you or how you think, even though your mother thought they should. Be firm in knowing and understanding that Some people Will like you, Some people Won’t like you, and it really does not matter, so you say: So What, Next. This is the SWSWSWN principle.
Don’t take rejection personally. It is just negative energy that needs to be brushed off and kicked to the curb. In your personal life or at work, when you understand the SWSWSWN principle you will be free from thinking everyone is going to like you. People who participate in recreational drugs might not be individuals you would want to have lunch with or do anything socially. Why would you care if they liked you or not? You shouldn't, so you can certainly understand how not wanting to associate yourself with that behavior allows you to move forward and look for the next friend.
- In moments like these, when you begin to feel inadequate or start to question yourself, apply the principles of SWSWSWN!
I have a very strong business personality. If someone was involved with me in a transaction and they were not doing their part of the deal, I would, in no uncertain terms, tell them what they were doing wrong. If they did not take responsibility after letting them know, I had no problem telling their boss. This behavior did not sit well with many associates and so there were agents who did not like me.
