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5 Cougar Myths That Drive Me Crazy

Linda Franklin, founder of therealcougarwoman.com, debunks the top five myths about older women who love younger men.

Cougars are getting a bum rap – but you don’t need me to tell you that. The media is having a field day portraying women over 40 as predators with only one thing on their minds – prowling for “Grade A” choice beef. Of course, this cartoon characterization was undoubtedly conceived by some immature male in the midst of a juicy, X-rated fantasy – but too many people are buying into the hype and believing it's true.

There are so many myths circulating about cougars, and there is nothing I enjoy more than debunking them. Haven’t we worked too hard and busted through too many glass ceilings to sit quietly by? In my opinion, we need to flaunt our achievements. It’s time to show that we won’t be relegated to the category of man-hungry, sex-starved females on the attack.
 
Let’s show the world who we really are and what’s important to us.  
 
Here are my Top 5 Cougar Myths:        
 
1. Cougars are on the prowl. That’s ridiculous. In fact, it’s the younger men that are actually doing the chasing.  We are busy with our careers, family and friends. Prowling simply isn’t on our agenda.       
 
2. Cougars don’t want lasting relationships. Show me a woman who doesn’t want to be truly loved – it’s in our genetic makeup. All of us want the right partner to share our lives with, regardless of age.
 
3. Cougar are Sugar Mamas. We’ve worked hard for our money and we are not ready to squander it on the first kid with washboard abs that asks us out We understand the importance of being financially independent, and we want the man in our life to have that same commitment.
 
4. Cougars are sex-starved cradle robbers. It’s time to let go of the Mrs. Robinson stereotype.  We love sex but we are very careful about who we allow into our beds. We have the benefit of past experience and watch out for the red warning flags that signal trouble.
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Your Beautiful. Do all Cougar's look like you? I could see why you have no problem.
12.11.2009
Chiva
I'm 45 & my man is 39. I was always attracted to older men & said I would never be caught with a younger man! lol My ex-husband was 7 yrs older then me. We have 5 beautiful children & 5 beautiful grandchildren, but at 37 I got a divorce. I still wasn't attracted to younger men. However, living in a small town where everyone knows you... needless to say I couldn't "date". So, I went on line. That's when I was bombarded by men in their 20's! I was shocked, seriously. Then I asked my children what they thought about me dating younger men. Unanimous decision... no one younger then my son, who is the eldest child. So my dating began & I kept it at a 10 yr difference. I found that I had more energy than most of them! But I did find a keeper! Even though we are opposites.. we enjoy the same things! sounds odd huh? Well, we both like football, he's a 49'r & I'm a Raider! All of our interest are just like that! We always have fun though!
12.04.2009
acountrygirl
I'm 69 (look much younger), and I couldn't agree with you more! Age is not an issue with me. What I like about younger men is the enthusiasm, interest, and energy that they bring to a relationship--something that I have not found with men of my age. The negative stereotype of the sex-starved woman is a reflection of male-dominated bias. Time to grow up America and shed our puritanical roots! An older woman brings wisdom, maturity, independence, freedom, and joy to a relationship. Unfortunately, few, not all, older men can match this.
11.27.2009
nicole hawkins
Great list. I find that women age gracefully when their sexual attitudes are open, bordering on spiritual. I highly recommend sending our young men to training to sharpen their skills early. http://tinyurl.com/thxgvg09 I am grateful for my aging body and the attention of evolving men.
11.13.2009
loveroses
I LOVED this article! And it's about time. I have heard the cougar jokes ad nauseum. I prefer younger men, but not 20+ years younger. I require a certain level of maturity that I have not observed in men that much younger. Just my opinion and preference. I agree with Debs94, dating someone my own age is a little creepy! Men my age have more 'baggage' than I care to deal with.
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