More: Last I checked, you are an engaged woman?
KV: I am and have been for, like, four years. We are very slow in terms of getting married. We are really stretching it out.
More: Have you and your fiancée, Melanie Goldstein, decided on a time frame as to when you want to tie the knot?
KV: When it's legal, we'll start planning. If nothing has changed in a year we will just do it. I should note we have also had other things going on.
More: Such as?
KV: What color to paint the living room [laughs]. Since we're already living in sin, we figured, why rush?
More: Does it upset you that you can't legally marry the person you love?
KV: It does suck.
More: When did you know you were attracted to the same sex?
KV: I knew I liked girls when I was seven or eight. But I also liked boys. When I turned 21 years old I asked myself, “Who do you want to look at?” and girls won. But it was a long process until I got there.
More: How so?
KV: It was sort of confusing, hard and yet great. I didn’t really understand it because I had had boyfriends in the past, yet I was also attracted to women. But the way I fell in love with Melanie was holistic. Meaning, it was both spiritual and emotional.
More: How did people in your inner circle react?
KV: I have a great support system and my family and friends knew it before I did. When I told my sister and friends they were like, “yeah.” I was actually with a boyfriend at the time.
More: Because you were attracted to women as well as men, did this have an impact on your high school years?
KV: I knew I was queer back in high school. I mean, I knew I liked girls, but I also liked boys. I remember when a boy I liked told me he was gay and I was like, “No.” I remember feeling that human reaction to change, which people tend to be afraid of.
More: Were you bullied in high school because of your choice?
KV: I was a total uber-nerd and got trash canned and made fun of. But that was because I was a weirdo, which probably being queer was part of, but I did not know that at the time.
More: Did you feel isolated?
KV: Oh yeah, really isolated. This was around the time I found acting. I also turned to journal writing.
More: So what's your relationship with Melanie like?
KV: We work at it, just like everyone else. Magic can take some conjuring. It is good and fun work.
More: Given your past, do you think, “Look at me now!"?
KV: It is very nice. It happens a million times a day. You can take all of those memories and people and say, “Look at me now.” I am living my dream, even though 10 years ago I was in a place where I couldn’t pay my rent.
More: Any thoughts on becoming a mom?
KV: Not right now. We have three pets that are all rescues and they are in various phases in their life. Trust me, we wake up at 3 AM when one of the dogs needs to pee. I say to myself, “How do people do this?” Plus there is my inner seven-year-old that needs some tending to. I can say I act like a kid and there's a lot of childhood spirit in my house. However, I have not shut down the idea, and if I do become a parent I would probably adopt.
More: Is that why you got involved with Alex’s Lemonade Stand?
KV: I was friends with one of the chefs who did one of the first fund raisers. When I got there I fell in love with the idea of helping children with cancer. This organization is really empowering to kids and allows them to help other children. It is so awesome to embrace the people this disease affects. Having been a part of this, I can tell you I also have so much admiration for these children.