Dating After Breast Cancer

Our expert on dating after 40 offers advice to a cancer survivor who wants to get back in the game.

By Sherry Amatenstein, MSW

Lori is once again healthy, but even if things hadn’t worked out so well, Tom would not have regretted his choice. The 42-year-old sound mixer shares, "Once I let a woman I cared about go because she told me it was impossible for her to have kids. She now has four children with another man." Tom had an even more emphatic brush with the randomness of fate when he nearly died in a surfing accident. He concludes, "There are no guarantees."

The only sure bet in life is this: Not taking chances leads to safe but potentially sterile outcomes. Taking a risk can, for the very lucky, result in what we all want at heart — lasting love.


About Sherry Amatenstein

Sherry Amatenstein, MSW, is the author of Love Lessons from Bad Breakups and Q&A Dating Book. She runs dating seminars around the country and does private coaching — not to help singles marry in 60 days, but to uncover their blocks. She has given relationship advice on the Early Show, Regis, Inside Edition, CBS News, VHI, BBC, and many other programs. Her philosophy is that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.

Originally published on, August 2007.

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