Dear Dr. Romance:
I need your advice. When I was hired one of my colleagues asked me my age. I remember casually saying was thirty-eight. I did not even have a hint of what was going on. After a month people were celebrating somebody’s birthday and then I came to know that they write everybody’s age on a calendar and they celebrate the milestones. That sent me into spin. Now this year, as per calendar, I am forty but really forty-one. Somehow I managed to avoid the celebration and took a vacation, but when I came back right after two weeks, I was surprised they had arranged my fortieth. I am feeling so embarrassed and hurt you can’t imagine; I had no idea a casual answer would land me in this situation. Now I don’t feel like eating or going to work, but I don’t want to quit this job, this is vey good job. People can really see the disappointment on my face. It is not easy to admit this, but it really will hurt my image. What do you suggest to help me? I am a very down-to-earth, humble person. I have learned my lesson. Is there any way out of this mess, is quitting is right thing to do?
I understand that you are embarrassed that you said you were one year younger than you are, but I don’t see why it’s such a big problem. What is hurtful about this? You’re making a very big deal out of a small problem. Either decide to tell the person who arranges the birthday celebrations that the date is off by one year, or let it go. It will be nine more years before the topic comes up again, and you might not even be there. It’s only a mistake, not a crime. Of course it’s not necessary to quit your job. It’s up to you whether you correct the mistake or not. No one will be upset. Please read my article “Your Primary Relationship,” which will help you to take better care of yourself.
You might also like It Ends With You, which will help you build your self-esteem.