More: I read a review that stated, “McCarthy delves into the things that have both made him the man he is and kept him from becoming the man he wants to be. He writes about his distant and once angry father as well as his old insecurities and doubts.” That is quite a change from the hopeless romantic you play in many films.
AM: Oh yeah, that! What can I say, acting is acting. If anything, I want people to read the book and see I am also human. I want people to nod their head and say, “Yeah, I feel that way, too.” This book is really me revealing that I am human and why I travel. I wanted to have a moment where I can really connect with people in a way I never did before.
More: Did you accomplish that?
AM: I wanted to create the feeling of hope, possibility and connection in a way where you don’t have to escape. We escape situations when we tend not to feel good about ourselves.
More: Is traveling the globe your form of escape?
AM: No, it is my form of connection. Travel is how I feel most connected to myself and the rest of the world. I grew up in New Jersey and have lived in New York for over 32 years. Yet I would not call myself a New Yorker or consider myself to have roots anywhere. I find my home and my roots lie in that connection we were just discussing.
More: What is so ironic, you played a character named Kevin in the smash hit St. Elmo’s Fire, and the only things Kevin wanted were to be a writer and find the meaning of life.
AM: Yeah, I really connected with Kevin and identified with him on many levels.
More: Besides being in a relationship, you have two children. How do you juggle having a family and still find time to see the world?
AM: I am constantly jet-lagged. I am always racing back all of the time or taking my kids with me when I can. I took my son to the Sahara and Morocco. My daughter has also come away with me. We travel together as much as we can. It is a juggling act I am not sure I do very well, but I do my best to be there for everyone as well as my career.
More: Not easy, huh?
AM: It is mayhem, but it works.
More: This particular title has quite a few meanings. It is your journey around the world, but it is also about your journey to finally settle down. Without giving too much away, I understand congratulations are in order.
AM: Yes, I got married a year ago. And they said it wouldn’t last! [Laughs] The event of the book was the internal journey to this moment.
More: If your kids decide to read this book one day, what do you hope they will learn from it?
AM: I suppose it is just a letter to them. While some people say it is a love letter to my wife, which to some degree it is, I also think it is a letter to them about who their father is. It is not so much a book about what I have done but rather who I am and how I operate emotionally.
More: Will you encourage your children to read this book with you and watch some of your memorable films so they see Daddy in full circle?
AM: My kids know I am an actor, but acting is not a huge part of our lives. My daughter is much more interested in her gymnastics class than in Daddy’s old movies.
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