Tomei splits her time between homes in New York and Los Angeles and until recently had a long-term relationship with actor Logan Marshall-Green (Prometheus), 12 years her junior. Asked if she has any comments on younger men, she allows that “variety is the spice of life” and laughs. As for marriage, which hasn’t yet been part of her life script, “I feel differently about it at different times,” she says. “Basically my pattern is that I’ve been in long, monogamous relationships—12 years, four years. I’m really just interested in true love and intimacy, and whatever package that comes in is OK with me. I haven’t been that focused on marriage as a goal in and of itself.”

Not that there hasn’t been opportunity. Before ending our conversation to go back to shooting Martin Scorsese’s The Wolf of Wall Street, Jonah Hill, 28, has a final request: “Will you ask Marisa if she’ll marry me?”

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