Why Isn't Perimenopause Accepted?

The same people who tell her she can’t have a fruit allergy insists perimenopause doesn’t exist.

by Peri-freakin-menopause • More.com Member { View Profile }

Besides the hormonal imbalance, the array of emotions and other side effects of perimenopause, the one thing that bothers me the most is the lack of acceptance and understanding of it as a legit condition.

I have a fruit allergy. I’m allergic to "tree fruit"... so apples, peaches, pears,  etc. When I tell people that they automatically don’t want to believe this is possible. For the life of me, I don’t know why this is so hard to believe. It’s especially predominant in older generations."In my day we ate what we were given and we liked it!" They proceed to try to feed me fruit because the allergy must be all in my head…. Whatever! Tell it to my Epi-Pen.

Anyway, where am I going with this you say… the reaction of disbelief in my fruit allergy is the same one I get when I say that I am going through perimenopause. Total disbelief, the assumption that I am making it up or looking for a reason for my symptoms.

Why is this concept so hard to believe? Medical science backs it up. Doctors are aware of it. All the symptoms are there. So why the mental obstacle?

Folks should take a minute to reflect back on their mothers between the ages of 40 and 60. Do you think she could have benefited from some hormone therapy or some doctor’s advice or any other help to get her sanely through that time? Come on, I bet if you thought hard about it, you’d notice that she may have been a little "off".

It’s also funny that we have to convince our own family doctors to explore this as a possibility. I’m slightly annoyed that I have to go to the doctor armed with print outs and books to back up my conviction in this.

One day the stage of perimenopause will be as common place as adolescence and menopause. It will just be a regular, accepted stage that we’re all aware of and we’re be ready for it rather than confused for years and years before finally sorting it out.

Until next time.

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