It’s every parent’s nightmare: One minute you’re strolling to school with your child on a sunny day and the next, your child has been killed in a car accident. That’s the tragic turn of events in Lee Woodruff’s first novel, Those We Love Most, out today (September 11).
Woodruff co-wrote the best-seller In an Instant with her husband, Bob Woodruff, a television journalist who was embedded with troops in Iraq when he was hit by a roadside bomb that left him with traumatic brain injury. Those We Love Most takes a close look at a family tragedy—and the grieving process —through two generations: the parents of the child and the grandparents, exposing secrets and betrayals along the way.
We spoke with Woodruff last week about delving into such a heart-breaking subject, how her own experience with a family tragedy informed her writing and why she thinks there’s a place for books about real experiences in the midst of the Fifty Shades of Grey fad. An edited version of the interview follows.
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Lee Woodruff: Somebody once said to me—and I think it’s true—that, as a fiction writer, your story finds you. It actually came from a real-life phone call from a friend of mine who has a son my child’s age (he was then 17) and who had hit a child on bike. The child had a brain injury and the parents wanted to talk to someone about what that meant. I remember thinking, wow, in-an-instant all those lives it impacted – the child, the child’s family, the boy who was driving the car, his family. And I thought that would be a really interesting to take one event and then look at it from 360 degrees, how one intersection in time could affect all these people for the rest of their lives.
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LW: When I think about some of the great books that women tend to hop on board with, a lot of them deal with tough subject matter—loss and grief and all the things that we as human beings have to deal with. Women will go through so many things in life, caretaking their own parents, raising their children and watching bad things happen, as they invariably do. A lot of those stories are, in the end, stories of how people work through them.
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LW: I think every fiction writer does, to a degree, write about what they know. I certainly was on a really familiar basis with grief and what it felt like to be scared and not know what an outcome was going to be like. So, absolutely, there are little bits of me laced in to all of the characters.
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LW: I think one is that we are not alone. In every experience, someone has been there before. There’s probably somebody down the road who can offer helpful advice. I think the other is that in your very worst moment, you can tell yourself that it will never get worse that this. And I think, in the end, most humans are built to survive. We’re built to overcome and work through and get through pretty amazing things. We’re resilient.
MORE: The families in the book struggle to make their marriages work after the tragedy, even though they weren’t exactly in a great place before the boy’s death. Can so-called good things result from a tragedy?
LW: I think they can, and in so many ways that’s our family’s story. Obviously, they’re very different situations, but in terms of Bob’s injury and recovery, we had gone on and tried to turn some spotlights on service members and their families. It sort of became the basis for where I wanted this book to end up, which is not all tied up in a bow.
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