I really enjoyed the article by Janice Kaplan about Ghida Talal, princess of Jordan in your November issue. I read a book by Jordan's Queen Noor, Leap of Faith, and I am intrigued by what I hear of Jordan's first family ever since. King Hussein was a great humanitarian and did so much good for Jordan. When so much negativity comes our way about the Middle East, it is nice to hear the humane side of that part of the world and all the good some of the region has done, Jordan specifically. Ghida, you are royalty in my eyes.
Just when it's getting harder to read small print, my favorite magazine seems to have shrunk the text in More. Can you pump it up a bit for us?
I did not see where to comment on Dr Sheri Phillips post, "From DR to Advocate" but I wanted to share my thoughts on the post. It was an excellent post and very inspirational. Reading how Dr. Phillips' life changed and how she made life changing decisions to move forward for her and others was truly powerful. The post meant a lot to me since I too have had life changes when I lost my hearing in my 50's and took my time of isolation and started painting. Working through my loss gave me a new career. Since that time I have received a cochlear and I am back in the hearing world. It has been a true miracle.
Thank you for More,
I just wanted to thank you for your article about flying. I read it and preceded to ripe it out. It’s in my purse. I have read it at least twice a day since. I am terrified of flying and will be flying in December to have Christmas with my son, daughter-in-law, grandson and granddaughter. I am very excited about spending Christmas with them but my fear of flying keeps me panicking. I live in New Hampshire and they live in Oregon so it’s a long trip. I did go out by myself in June of this year and it went really well, so I thought it would be easier this time. I was abused as a child and have severe panic attacks and anxiety. I have a really hard time with trust and need control so I am sure this is not helping me with flying. I read your article and it helps give me strength to say "I can do it". If you have any other bits of advice I would love to hear from you. Again, thank you for your article. Jenny
I was so excited standing in the supermarket line to buy the November issue of More. I've always loved the articles and was drawn it by the article about Mariska Hargitay. Lovely to open up the issue and read about women rebuilding their lives, discovering themselves and the importance of female friendships and bonding. Then I started to read Ms. Kaufman's article. "Ok, I'll give this one a try," I thought. We all make mistakes in our 20's right? I finished the article and was appalled. How could this article about a seemingly still self centered woman be included among articles of female friendships? Ms. Kaufman, now a married woman herself with grown children of her own has no revelatory moment of "Wow, what would it feel like if my husband cheated on me? How would I feel if he brought my children to meet his girlfriend?" To wax nostalgic about an affair that very well may have played a big role in the ultimate break up of her lover's family, without any remorse for any damage she may have contributed, is honestly very distasteful.
I am aware that I am reading this through the lens of my own experience, but I can't imagine that I am alone in my reaction. Five years ago my husband had an affair and left me for the other woman. My children, two boys, were ages one and five. The fallout was incredibly painful for everybody. My children and I have rebuilt our lives with the love and support of family and friends. I know many other women (and some men) who have experienced similar situations. The breakup of families is nothing to be glossed over and I believe the change can start with women not interfering with other women's relationships, even when they believe somebody else's husband is their "soul mate." In my opinion finding one's soul mate should not and does not include inflicting pain and damage on others.
I don't think this article belonged in a magazine of this caliber. I will have second thoughts the next time I see a new issue on the supermarket shelf.
--Stefanie Kahn, Los Angeles, CA