We Hear You! Letters from Our November 2011 Issue

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MORE • Editors

Congratulations on a job well done - I very much enjoy receiving More Magazine. I have had a subscription for a year now and I look forward to each issue. I am inspired by the articles and I enjoy the fashion as well. I love the diversity presented within the magazine. However, the covers offer less diversity than I would like to see. The covers of the magazine are the one aspect where I would love to see some change. I am an African American professional single mother of two. I would love to see more women of color featured on the covers of More. There has not been one woman of color featured on the More covers since I have been receiving the magazine. I have also spoken to other women of color who have been receiving the magazine longer than I have and they report there have been very few women of color featured over the last few years. I would love to see more women of color on the covers so that I can be inspired by them; just I have been by the women who have been featured since I started receiving the magazine.

Thank you for your consideration.
--Alexis Adams

In recent years I have become an avid reader of MORE MAGAZINE, after being introduced to it by articles and covers of Mariska Hargitay. Of course, I bought it the day before it was supposed to be available at newsstands.

The straight reporting of history and events of Mariska life was done very well by Amanda Robb and informative.

BUT the unnecessary asides and comments by her were rude and demeaning and I am sure not welcome by the legions of her admirers and possibly herself as well...... In the first paragraph she mentions that she thought she had the wrong address because of a” beat-up Spider-Man scooter by the door.” “I ring the bell and a woman screams “just a minute” When the door finally opens I am greeted by a baby’s butt.” “She offers me her free hand. I take it but step back.” She describes Mariska in less than flattering adjectives. To me, Mariska is a down to earth person despite her fame and trophies and loves people. I will not recount the entire asides in the article. You are the Editor...please read it.

I don’t think any famous person would want Amanda Robb to interview them. I, certainly, will never read her writings again. Maybe the fact that she was not wined and dined and treated like visiting royalty, she decided to be witchy.
--Dee LoCascio, Cape Coral FL 33914

This is such a random email but after I saw the Girlfriend's Getaway sweepstakes in the magazine, I sat in the bathtub (yes your magazine is my bathtub reading material :-) ) and cried thinking about my Best Friend and the joy, fun, pain, and support we shared over the past 13 years.

I never knew what having true friends really meant until my late 20s, I was facing my second, yes second divorce when I met Tamara. She came to work, and one day she was walking down the hall in knee high boots, and a sweater dress. I was like a guy- wow who is that girl. Ha ha Then a few days later she asked me if I knew how to treat dry cracked heels, and this was the beginning of our tie that has continued to bind us through ups, downs, and sideways days.

We've shared so many things, wonderful and exciting that friends bring into your life. We also had the absolute most gut wrenching experience January 25th of this year when Tamara's 3 year old daughter died as a result of a genetic disorder, that we knew from birth would take her early in life, but no matter how prepared you think you are- guess what? You’re not. Larsen died on the operating table during a Heart Catheritization procedure to stretch her tiny blood vessels because they would not grow properly on their own. She had Alagille Syndrome, and her fight for survival was evident from day one. Larsen like her mother was full of life, joy, and passion. Supporting my friend through this loss has been at times so difficult but at the same time I've learned so much about her, myself, and the value of true friendship. Tamara's class, strength and perseverance through all of this is a testament to all women. She is beautiful, strong, resilient, and continues to be an amazing friend.

First Published October 31, 2011

Share Your Thoughts!


Lynn Lunger01.05.2012

Wow! I know I'm late to this, but I read "A Date with the Man that Got away" while waiting in the doctor's office, for not surprisingly, depression.
Joanne Kaufman’s article was read by me with horrid fascination, as I hoped it would be a denouncement of past mistakes, or at least profess regret. I am still recovering from my 42 year-old husband's affair with a 26 year-old co-worker. I am still with my husband, but it has been a very, very difficult time. We have an 8 year-old and a 12 year-old who never knew about the affair, but sure know that Mom has been a wreck for the last year.
It may be mean-spirited, but I hope Joanne gets to have her world and foundations rocked in the same manner as so many of us have had. I hope that goofy grin she gets on her face when her husband enters the room is forever wiped away. She has that grin only because her beliefs, and confidence, and surety have not been shattered.
Boo hiss!


There was a letter to Dear Abby once asking what the definition of maturity was. The answer was that maturity is the ability to control our impulses, to think beyond the moment, and consider how our words and our actions will affect ourselves and others before we act. Clearly Joanne Kaufman, her affair partner, and others like them are not mature individuals. The fact that she helped dissolve a marriage with young children doesn't seem to be of any interest to her, just knowing that she stills matters does. It is disturbing that MORE printed such a self-absorbed, all-about-me article. Will you have an article from the wife about how she put her life back together after her husband found his "soul mate" while he was married to her? Reading about the strength of that woman would fit MORE better than the story about the selfish woman. Or maybe a story about the woman who fell for a married man and ran in the other direction! As it is, though, the November issue should be called LESS.

Joanne Kaufman's article describes a narcissistic, insensitive woman who gave no thought to the heartache her affair caused the man's wife and children. I'm disappointed MORE chose to publish such drivel. MORE encourages women over 40 to have a positive self image...unfortunately some women are CRUEL to each other. Shame on them. Joanne hasn't learned anything as she doesn't regret her affair

Jianni 11.14.2011

The article by Joanne Kaufman was disturbing, to say the least. Just because he made her feel good (and vice versa so it seems) is NO reason to pursue a relationship with a married person, period! There are lots of people "out there" who can be one's soul mate, as evidenced by the fact that she met someone else and got married. The pain and devastation of her married lover's wife is overwhelming and continuing. Infidelity completely changes the betrayed partner's life. I can only hope Joanne does not have to go through this if her current husband decides to do the same thing with another woman who thinks he is her "soul mate." Only then will she truly understand the pain she caused. Just because she wanted something does not mean she should have pursued it. She should have and could have ended it, even though he said "he would love her till he died." They were both in a fog of unreality. How could they know they loved each other when they hadn't shared any of life's less than ideal moments together. Ugh, Ugh, Ugh - this kind of thing gets too much glory. For those who wrote relating to her, here's hoping the same thing doesn't happen to you.

Peggy Grimmius11.10.2011

I really enjoy most of the well written, useful articles in MORE. I find it inspiring and exhilarating to read about women who have great ideas and accomplish so much while contributing to humanity. I am disturbed however, by the Nov. issue article by Joanne Kaufman. From the tenor throughout the article, there is the sense that somehow having sex with a married man is inevitable if the attraction is there. I don't judge Ms. Kaufman personally. But her writing is dishonest, selfish, and insensitive, if not just plain juvenile. When we take what we want, we become desensitized towards those it affects as well as to how it affects us personally. The topper was going back for more... just to know that "I still matter". It isn't okay. It's creepy.

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