I’m writing all of this to say thank you for the magazine, and the things you do in an effort to touch the lives of those of us 40 and over. In the most unexpected ways blessings can come, and seeing your sweepstakes advertisement reminded me how lucky I am to have such wonderful friend in Tamara to share things with.
At 47, I am definitely not as ambitious as I was 10 years ago, but I don't consider that to be a negative change at all. I have simply come to realize that it matters very little to me what my job title is or how large and expensively decorated my office is. My boss's opinion of me carries far less weight than those of the people I love and care about. It is, after all, just a job. What brings me joy and fulfillment is spending time with my husband, helping my daughter plan her wedding, and watching my son grow into a young man just beginning his career. That job could end tomorrow, and it wouldn't be the end of the world for me. I'd much rather be thought of as a great wife, mother, daughter and friend than a terrific employee. I wouldn't call this change so much a loss of ambition, as a realigning of priorities.
When my father passed away two years ago, he was a successful and respected executive, but what really counted were those of us who were gathered around him...and it wasn't his business associates.
I am worth much more than just the size of my paycheck!
Reading "A Date with the Man that Got away" sure brought back some memories. Mine are a little different than Joanne Kaufman’s, however, since I was at the receiving end as a wife who got cheated on. I'll never forget the devastating disappointment and shock when I found out. I was unable to function normally for many months, and then came the anti-depressants, therapy and near-destruction of my marriage and sanity. Seven years later, my heart races and my hands shake as I type this.
Reading the article, I looked in vain for any sign of remorse for the damage she undoubtedly caused this woman and two children. I suppose she considered the husband fair game, since their marriage seemed to be going through a rough patch (assuming she thought about it at all). Bad times in a marriage can be addressed and dealt with; infidelity, not so much. The truth is that cheating changes the marriage forever, and not for the better. I wondered how I could ever trust my husband again, and the answer is that I can't.
I am disgusted by Kaufman's cavalier attitude. And even though she seemingly came through this unscathed and unpunished, maybe just being herself is the justice.
I think the POST ON MORE.COM is the most brilliant feature created by a magazine.
FABULOUS IDEA - thank you so much for this opportunity to be able to write and submit.
No complaints from me - MORE IS ONE OF THE MOST CREATIVE MAGAZINES AROUND.
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