I am writing to make a few suggestions about the anti-aging advertisements in your magazine, More. It seems as if every kind of these ads has negative statements about maturing women and their appearance. One of your ads from the April 2011 edition reads: "Say hello to the real me"...eb5 brings out the real you by helping reduce the impact aging has on our skin.....Leave the signs of aging to masquerade parties-and show the world the real you." How in the world is a mature woman supposed to feel good about aging when they see an ad such as this? As a woman of 28, I even find it offensive that it seems as if I or any other woman with crow's feet isn't "real" without this cream. Whatever happened to beauty from the inside out? Another ad in the same April 2011 edition states the same kind of thing..."You are beautiful. Stay that way with Ceramide restorative capsules." I understand that the aging process can be a harsh kind of reality for us women, but it would be appreciated if the ads were uplifting, not degrading in saying that one must use cream, capsules, Botox and so on, in order to be beautiful. Outside beauty may fade naturally over time, but inner beauty lasts a lifetime. After all, is that not the kind that ladies should focus on foremost? Just a suggestion and an eye opener. Does a mature woman have to use these products to be smart, wise, and strong? I suggest things in your magazines that boost natural beauty. Face it, we all get old, but anyone can be beautiful on the outside like a rose and be cold as ice on the inside. Media encourages women to be vain about appearance, rather than focusing on becoming a strong, kind-hearted person. Sure, there are some positive images about that, but not nearly enough, and there should be more advocates for inner beauty. That is my focus in this e-mail to you...I would certainly appreciate any feedback that you and/or your team may have. Thank you very much for your attention in this matter.
"Fat? Who Cares!" is one of those counter-to-everything-else-in-the-issue articles More runs consistently. Losing weight is hard. WAH! Just quit trying, you poor thing, and have a cookie (or a dozen).
Read the statistics put forth by Linda Bacon carefully. They're not great news for overweight/obese women. We, as a country, need to get moving and stop overeating. That's how you lose weight, folks. Keep with it and it'll work. (I say that as someone who achieved a 50+ pound weight loss and have maintained it for nearly 25 years.)
When are we, as a country, going to reassume embracing what is difficult instead of opting for the easy way out every. Freaking. Time? And making up excuses to justify taking the easy out? What example does that set for our ever-fatter children?
Ms. Bacon has an agenda, and you gave her a(nother) platform to further it. Yes, yo-yo dieting is bad. Dieting itself is bad, because it implies that you will go off it. Embracing eating in moderate quantities and exercising--a lifestyle commitment--is the key to successful weight loss. Yes, it's that easy.
Grow up, folks, and stop whining. Just do what you know you need to do.
--MaryEllen Smith, Columbia, MD
I enjoyed your letter in the October edition, "Ending the Beauty v. Brains Debate". I'm a litigation attorney where women are making their mark in what was once an area of the law dominated by powerful men. The area of law I primarily practice--intellectual property litigation--is even less populated by women. I see the conflict women face when trying to work within the walls of this male-dominated area of the law. Some take the path of abandoning all femininity in the hopes of being taken "seriously". This comes at a price, however, because as in every aspect of life, you get more flies with honey. I and a number of other women in my law firm take the approach of being strong and powerful coupled with feminine sweetness. The impact is profound--with opposing counsel, third party witnesses, deponents, etc. It truly is possible to practice law shoulder to shoulder with powerful men without abandoning feminine attributes in an attempt to be considered a formidable team member and opponent...which is liberating, as I enjoy donning a pretty suit and lipstick while kicking butt!