We Hear You! Letters from Our October 2011 Issue

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As women in business we have to manage against these competing stereotypes but cannot let ourselves fall into the trap of choosing one Star-bellied Sneetch camp over the other. Buried deep within my own professional subconscious was a comment made about me as I walked through a squad room at 22 years of age. When I was introduced as the new criminal analyst, the senior detective across the room not-so-quietly whispered to the other detectives that I was "cute". (The next day after that episode, of course, I returned to work wearing a navy pants suit.)

Now, at 38 years of age I decided the best answer was to strike a balance. While I opted for the skirt suit/bright shell outfit I wanted to wear, I put the red pumps on hold. I decided the shoes might be too much for a new environment to handle. But after reading your magazine I also decided that I will introduce them Week 2.

Thanks for allowing me to share and keep up the great work. More is a terrific balance between serious topics and fashion fun. After all - isn't that what most of us want? I can enjoy reading an article on healthcare reform just as much as I can enjoy an article about "4 Easy Ways to Get Thicker Looking Hair." The latter doesn't make me a beauty school dropout, and the former doesn't make me a healthcare economist. We are far more complex than that.
--Stefanie G, Austin, TX

"Thank God! It's about time you got those things taken care of”.

These words, we are to believe, are from the mouth of writer Amanda Robb's 10-year old daughter upon learning of her mother’s upcoming surgery the next day to remove wrinkles.
She is ten! And "those things" that need to be "taken care of" are the natural features of her mother's face!

One hates to think of in what environment this girl is growing up, what she and her friends watch and talk about, how they view women and on what scale they will value themselves.
Amanda is now a happy 7.
--Eva Nyqvist, Nyack.

Since you issued an invitation in your most current editorial, I thought I would accept.

As one of the few women (1978) in Engineering Technology - Manufacturing Processes I can attest to the beauty and brains part, frankly for all of my schooling. I graduated, 1980 second in my class and went onto my first job working with a bunch of welders designing pressure vessels, mud tanks for the Alaskan oil fields and vacuum cooling units for California produce.

It is something that I learned through experience to manage my presentation finding the "middle way" from trying to become "one of the boys", to, realizing I am not and asking to be treated as who I was, the engineer working with them to design the products, whatever they were to be the best. I'll never forget the salesman who asked if I was a "draftsperson" trying to be PC and I corrected him with, "yeah and they let me do the engineering too, how can I help you?"

Later, as a Business Consultant working in high tech companies with brilliant people, I again learned to manage my presentation of strength and confidence to not be misinterpreted as sexual energy/attraction. Plus when working with my husband, I also had to manage my "energy" to be equal to his, because the audience could react negatively if I did anything less. They would misinterpret the imbalance as him "dominating" me and that could wreak havoc during a training session with men and women. Very dicey if you know what I mean.

I continue to subscribe to your magazine because it is representative of women world-wide being first and foremost great human beings who happen to be woman. After all, we are still just one of the species on the planet and it is important to find a sustainable "place" on this growing smaller kind of world.

Keep up the great work of offering hope, and pathways that "real" women have created for themselves and others,
--Barbara Parton

As a former migraine sufferer, I was interested to see what progress has been made since my last, horrible, 3 day "event" over 15 years ago. I am not sure why I was so surprised to find out that there are at least 30 drugs to try and that alternative treatments only got a paragraph in the whole multi page article.

First Published September 26, 2011

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Kiyomi Irihara11.19.2011

THANK YOU for selecting a lovely woman of color as your Grand Prize Beauty Search Winner. She and all the other women exude beauty from within as well. My first More Magazine was purchased from the newstand as I was attracted to the cover picture of Ann Curry. She and I share similar backgrounds and it was great to read about her. What I (and many other of my friends) would like to see is an increased number of women of color on the COVER of your magazine as featured bios. There are a plethora of talented and accomplished women to choose from in the entertainment industry. Be Brave, Lesley, do it! You'll be amazed at the results.
A faithful reader,
Kiyomi

Julie Watters10.26.2011

I just received my very first issue of More. I subscribed after hearing several friends speak favorably of the magazine and the fact it's geared towards women my age.
On page 142 of the October 2011 issue, in the article entitled "Death and the Maidens" the author states Rebekah Adams (one of the "Maidens") "studied communications in college and did stints in the air force and the Minnesota Air National Guard..."
As an Air Force daughter,wife and mom, it is important to point out one does not do "stints" in our nation's military. A person takes an oath to uphold our constitution and obey the orders of our President. That same military member, no matter how long or short the time served, is laying his/her life on the line in service for our freedoms. It is disappointing to me More chose to say someone did stints in the military. One does stints working in the service industry, retail, etc. Also, the words Air Force should be capitalized as were Minnesota Air National Guard.
All our service members, past, present and future, as well as our branches of service, rather or not you agree with with the mission, should have our utmost respect.
I thought long and hard about making this comment and have come to the conclusion, in light of our Nation's current situation, it's important my voice is heard.

10.16.2011

As much as I usually enjoy reading the articles in MORE, to see the lovely clothes and accessories' descriptions followed by "price available upon request" does NOT make me want to inquire about their(obviously)ridiculously, unrealistic cost.
When did it become accepted practice to fill the pages of magazines with items that perhaps only 10% of the population(if that)could even aspire to purchase?
In today's economy, I think this behavior is beyond
irresponsible...unless your intent is to further depress your over-50 readers, thereby causing them to require even more of the medications produced by the drug makers who provide so many of the ads we must wade through in each issue.
It seems to me that you have lost sight of your target audience: real women OVER 40.
Lets get back to realistic prices, please.

Adele Ellis10.15.2011

I look forward to the diverse issues in each of your magazines. There is always a topic that seems to be a part of my life and appears at the right moment. One of the articles in the October 2011 issue was about the migraine addition link. I have suffered from migraines for many years and finally went to a neurologist last April after begging my PCP to let me go to a specialist. The neurologist did give me a prescription for a triptan drug to stop an attack but what he really gave me that has actually stopped my migraines was a vitamin regime. His office and partnership shares this "cocktail" of vitamins to purchase that for me was a godsend. I was suffering from migraines that lasted at least three days two or three times a month and since April I haven't had one yet (this is mid October.) I maybe "jinxing" myself saying this but having been 6 months migraine free I'm happy enough with that! I am in perimenopause as well and know that the vitamins may be part of the factor as well as my hormone changes but I was curious why this type of solution wasn't mentioned in the article. Is this only offered by few doctors? It's not a cure-all but something certainly worth investigating.

PB Lear10.09.2011

I generally am inspired by the article in MORE magazine, which is why I subscribe; however, I am very disappointed in your Healthy Eating article in the October 2011 issue. It was misleading and full of incongruous statements. For example, the very first paragraph states that the authors of a recent report indicate that “the authors question why doctors and other medical experts routinely counsel overweight people to get rid of extra pounds even though scientists, after decades of intense research, have yet to find a reliable prescription for weight loss”. The idea that medical experts counsel people to lose weight and the idea that scientists haven’t found a reliable method for losing weight have nothing to do with each other. Doctors know that people need to be at a healthy weight to maintain their health, and the solution is actually quite simple - - people need to take responsibility for themselves better by eating right and getting regular exercise.
Being overweight is very problematic, and yet the interview with a purported nutrition professor indicated that it is not nearly as bad as we might think. Wrong! Excess weight leads to a lack of energy, a lack of self-esteem, and a multitude of potential health problems that can be prevented at healthy weights. This is common sense. I have personally been 30 – 40 pounds overweight for at least 10 years, so I know how difficult it is to lose and keep weight off, especially given the temptations in our society and eating habits, but that’s no excuse to encourage people to stay unhealthy.
The article did nothing to encourage healthier eating and/or regular exercise. It didn’t make any constructive suggestions. In my opinion, that article does a disservice to your readers. It should have been better balanced in numerous ways.

AM 10.06.2011

I'm not the biggest fan of your magazine to be honest. I received a subscription as a birthday gift :/ BUT, the article written by Amanda Robb, telling us about her "plastic surgery" and her young daughter telling her it was "about time" was simply offensive. I wish Amanda would have spent her $25,000 on therapy instead of fixing her face. Seems to me she has much bigger problems then not be the prettiest woman around. Her poor daughter is doomed. Shame on you More.


Love your magazine - but what were you all thinking when choosing the photo accompanying the great bit on "Sexist Nostalgia"? Too graphic. I had to rip the photo out of the magazine in order to comfortably focus on the article. Yes, the photo represents the fact that she "thwarts a rapist by stabbing him with her stiletto." Yes, I look to your magazine for the “beauty and brains” features that Lesley Jane Seymour talks about in the Editor’s Letter. However, I’m not looking to your magazine for graphic representation of violence. There are plenty of other media outlets for that.

09.30.2011

Enjoyed all the articles in your October issue but none more than 'Big Love". Touching and filled with kindness and compassion, made me weep tears of joy and hope.
Thank you so much for including this lovely story in your magazine. It's timely and very, very important!

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