As an ardent More reader, I was disturbed by the story written by Amanda Robb. Even though she was talented, with a healthy relationship and child, she appeared consumed with the need for approval in order to finally feel "OK". Giving the message to her daughter, that wrinkles and fine lines at age 35 is somehow not normal, and then going under general anesthesia with all its inherent risks to become someone who could be noticed, and she could finally feel like a "7" was nauseating to me. Everything in this story reeked of the narcissism rampant in our society. Forget feeling at home in our bodies as they graciously age, letting go of the illusion that beauty is external and coming home to the source of our innate value as demonstrated through what we leave our children and the world. I felt sorry for her. I am not saying that doing what you can with what you got is problematic. But basing my worth on how I perceive the world as seeing me raises many flags.
I kept thinking while reading the article that she was going was going to make peace with her value as a talented, gifted woman, mother, writer, wife... but it never happened. I don't know. I was disappointed and as such, will find other gentler, more authentic magazines that support my journey into the next decade, loving myself as the beautiful woman of SUBSTANCE that I am.
I picked up an issue of More for the first time a week ago. I'm in love with this magazine. Beauty + Brains! Yes!
The letter from the editor was beautifully written and made me feel good about being a UCLA graduate who enjoyed journalism as much as my performance art career. I'm a belly dance teacher and performer, so that gives me a chance to tell stories and share culture through art.
I am also writing to you, Lesley, because my girlfriend Jenelle is the first openly gay contestant in the Miss Long Beach pageant. She will also be the first beauty queen contestant in the history to wear a tuxedo on stage. Miss California directors and Miss Universe directors have a lot of interest in her. In fact, they follow-up to make sure she is registering for their pageants. Jenelle has an amazing story growing up, with losing a father to AIDS (which he contracted at a dentist's visit), to getting threats from school because of it, through getting past depression and drug abuse to change her life and become a mentor on her days off from being a hair artist at a salon.
I think your readers would appreciate her story. She's an inspiration to many young women who have become fans of her "Vote for Jenelle" fan page.
And thank you for this magazine I can relate to :)
Is 40 Really the New 20? (And Who Are We Trying to Convince?)
I was online today and a headline in Yahoo! caught my eye: “Julia Roberts wows in mini-dress.” Wow! She is all of 43 years of age and ostensibly, we are to be gob smacked that Ms. Roberts can actually carry off a mini-dress. And then I consider the often-uttered palaver that 40 is the new 20…huh? Let’s please consider this: major network television series in the ‘70s that were carried by strong female leads were fronted by actresses at least in their 30s. Angie Dickinson, in fact, was that staggering – gasp -- 43 when Police Woman started airing in 1974. All of Charlie’s Angels were over 30 with the exception of Cheryl Ladd. Diahann Carroll was 33 when she starred in Julia. These are just a few examples. Oh, and does anyone remember a little show called Mary Tyler Moore?
During this same period, major cosmetic companies routinely employed models well into their twenties and kept them often until their forties…case in point Karen Graham, the face of Estee Lauder from 1970-1985. By the way, she quit as spokesmodel at age 40. She was not summarily ushered out the door. Open any magazine in the gloriously progressive year of 2011. Cover Girl, Maybelline New York, L’Oreal (some exceptions here, but the older gals are relegated to the “mature” lines), MAC, et al. all employ models that are far younger than their predecessors in most cases.