We Hear You! Letters from Our October 2011 Issue

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As an ardent More reader, I was disturbed by the story written by Amanda Robb. Even though she was talented, with a healthy relationship and child, she appeared consumed with the need for approval in order to finally feel "OK". Giving the message to her daughter, that wrinkles and fine lines at age 35 is somehow not normal, and then going under general anesthesia with all its inherent risks to become someone who could be noticed, and she could finally feel like a "7" was nauseating to me. Everything in this story reeked of the narcissism rampant in our society. Forget feeling at home in our bodies as they graciously age, letting go of the illusion that beauty is external and coming home to the source of our innate value as demonstrated through what we leave our children and the world. I felt sorry for her. I am not saying that doing what you can with what you got is problematic. But basing my worth on how I perceive the world as seeing me raises many flags.

I kept thinking while reading the article that she was going was going to make peace with her value as a talented, gifted woman, mother, writer, wife... but it never happened. I don't know. I was disappointed and as such, will find other gentler, more authentic magazines that support my journey into the next decade, loving myself as the beautiful woman of SUBSTANCE that I am.
--Teri Murtha

I picked up an issue of More for the first time a week ago. I'm in love with this magazine. Beauty + Brains! Yes!

The letter from the editor was beautifully written and made me feel good about being a UCLA graduate who enjoyed journalism as much as my performance art career. I'm a belly dance teacher and performer, so that gives me a chance to tell stories and share culture through art.

I am also writing to you, Lesley, because my girlfriend Jenelle is the first openly gay contestant in the Miss Long Beach pageant. She will also be the first beauty queen contestant in the history to wear a tuxedo on stage. Miss California directors and Miss Universe directors have a lot of interest in her. In fact, they follow-up to make sure she is registering for their pageants. Jenelle has an amazing story growing up, with losing a father to AIDS (which he contracted at a dentist's visit), to getting threats from school because of it, through getting past depression and drug abuse to change her life and become a mentor on her days off from being a hair artist at a salon.

 

I think your readers would appreciate her story. She's an inspiration to many young women who have become fans of her "Vote for Jenelle" fan page.

And thank you for this magazine I can relate to :)
--Masa

Is 40 Really the New 20? (And Who Are We Trying to Convince?)

I was online today and a headline in Yahoo! caught my eye: “Julia Roberts wows in mini-dress.” Wow! She is all of 43 years of age and ostensibly, we are to be gob smacked that Ms. Roberts can actually carry off a mini-dress. And then I consider the often-uttered palaver that 40 is the new 20…huh? Let’s please consider this: major network television series in the ‘70s that were carried by strong female leads were fronted by actresses at least in their 30s. Angie Dickinson, in fact, was that staggering – gasp -- 43 when Police Woman started airing in 1974. All of Charlie’s Angels were over 30 with the exception of Cheryl Ladd. Diahann Carroll was 33 when she starred in Julia. These are just a few examples. Oh, and does anyone remember a little show called Mary Tyler Moore?

During this same period, major cosmetic companies routinely employed models well into their twenties and kept them often until their forties…case in point Karen Graham, the face of Estee Lauder from 1970-1985. By the way, she quit as spokesmodel at age 40. She was not summarily ushered out the door. Open any magazine in the gloriously progressive year of 2011. Cover Girl, Maybelline New York, L’Oreal (some exceptions here, but the older gals are relegated to the “mature” lines), MAC, et al. all employ models that are far younger than their predecessors in most cases.

First Published September 26, 2011

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Comments

Kiyomi Irihara11.19.2011

THANK YOU for selecting a lovely woman of color as your Grand Prize Beauty Search Winner. She and all the other women exude beauty from within as well. My first More Magazine was purchased from the newstand as I was attracted to the cover picture of Ann Curry. She and I share similar backgrounds and it was great to read about her. What I (and many other of my friends) would like to see is an increased number of women of color on the COVER of your magazine as featured bios. There are a plethora of talented and accomplished women to choose from in the entertainment industry. Be Brave, Lesley, do it! You'll be amazed at the results.
A faithful reader,
Kiyomi

Julie Watters10.26.2011

I just received my very first issue of More. I subscribed after hearing several friends speak favorably of the magazine and the fact it's geared towards women my age.
On page 142 of the October 2011 issue, in the article entitled "Death and the Maidens" the author states Rebekah Adams (one of the "Maidens") "studied communications in college and did stints in the air force and the Minnesota Air National Guard..."
As an Air Force daughter,wife and mom, it is important to point out one does not do "stints" in our nation's military. A person takes an oath to uphold our constitution and obey the orders of our President. That same military member, no matter how long or short the time served, is laying his/her life on the line in service for our freedoms. It is disappointing to me More chose to say someone did stints in the military. One does stints working in the service industry, retail, etc. Also, the words Air Force should be capitalized as were Minnesota Air National Guard.
All our service members, past, present and future, as well as our branches of service, rather or not you agree with with the mission, should have our utmost respect.
I thought long and hard about making this comment and have come to the conclusion, in light of our Nation's current situation, it's important my voice is heard.

10.16.2011

As much as I usually enjoy reading the articles in MORE, to see the lovely clothes and accessories' descriptions followed by "price available upon request" does NOT make me want to inquire about their(obviously)ridiculously, unrealistic cost.
When did it become accepted practice to fill the pages of magazines with items that perhaps only 10% of the population(if that)could even aspire to purchase?
In today's economy, I think this behavior is beyond
irresponsible...unless your intent is to further depress your over-50 readers, thereby causing them to require even more of the medications produced by the drug makers who provide so many of the ads we must wade through in each issue.
It seems to me that you have lost sight of your target audience: real women OVER 40.
Lets get back to realistic prices, please.

Adele Ellis10.15.2011

I look forward to the diverse issues in each of your magazines. There is always a topic that seems to be a part of my life and appears at the right moment. One of the articles in the October 2011 issue was about the migraine addition link. I have suffered from migraines for many years and finally went to a neurologist last April after begging my PCP to let me go to a specialist. The neurologist did give me a prescription for a triptan drug to stop an attack but what he really gave me that has actually stopped my migraines was a vitamin regime. His office and partnership shares this "cocktail" of vitamins to purchase that for me was a godsend. I was suffering from migraines that lasted at least three days two or three times a month and since April I haven't had one yet (this is mid October.) I maybe "jinxing" myself saying this but having been 6 months migraine free I'm happy enough with that! I am in perimenopause as well and know that the vitamins may be part of the factor as well as my hormone changes but I was curious why this type of solution wasn't mentioned in the article. Is this only offered by few doctors? It's not a cure-all but something certainly worth investigating.

PB Lear10.09.2011

I generally am inspired by the article in MORE magazine, which is why I subscribe; however, I am very disappointed in your Healthy Eating article in the October 2011 issue. It was misleading and full of incongruous statements. For example, the very first paragraph states that the authors of a recent report indicate that “the authors question why doctors and other medical experts routinely counsel overweight people to get rid of extra pounds even though scientists, after decades of intense research, have yet to find a reliable prescription for weight loss”. The idea that medical experts counsel people to lose weight and the idea that scientists haven’t found a reliable method for losing weight have nothing to do with each other. Doctors know that people need to be at a healthy weight to maintain their health, and the solution is actually quite simple - - people need to take responsibility for themselves better by eating right and getting regular exercise.
Being overweight is very problematic, and yet the interview with a purported nutrition professor indicated that it is not nearly as bad as we might think. Wrong! Excess weight leads to a lack of energy, a lack of self-esteem, and a multitude of potential health problems that can be prevented at healthy weights. This is common sense. I have personally been 30 – 40 pounds overweight for at least 10 years, so I know how difficult it is to lose and keep weight off, especially given the temptations in our society and eating habits, but that’s no excuse to encourage people to stay unhealthy.
The article did nothing to encourage healthier eating and/or regular exercise. It didn’t make any constructive suggestions. In my opinion, that article does a disservice to your readers. It should have been better balanced in numerous ways.

AM 10.06.2011

I'm not the biggest fan of your magazine to be honest. I received a subscription as a birthday gift :/ BUT, the article written by Amanda Robb, telling us about her "plastic surgery" and her young daughter telling her it was "about time" was simply offensive. I wish Amanda would have spent her $25,000 on therapy instead of fixing her face. Seems to me she has much bigger problems then not be the prettiest woman around. Her poor daughter is doomed. Shame on you More.


Love your magazine - but what were you all thinking when choosing the photo accompanying the great bit on "Sexist Nostalgia"? Too graphic. I had to rip the photo out of the magazine in order to comfortably focus on the article. Yes, the photo represents the fact that she "thwarts a rapist by stabbing him with her stiletto." Yes, I look to your magazine for the “beauty and brains” features that Lesley Jane Seymour talks about in the Editor’s Letter. However, I’m not looking to your magazine for graphic representation of violence. There are plenty of other media outlets for that.

09.30.2011

Enjoyed all the articles in your October issue but none more than 'Big Love". Touching and filled with kindness and compassion, made me weep tears of joy and hope.
Thank you so much for including this lovely story in your magazine. It's timely and very, very important!

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