Do You Want to Be the Ring Master?
If I started talking with you about juggling and balancing, you might ask yourself, Is this woman a life coach or a recruiter for the circus? Good question! Well I’ve had plenty of people wondering about the same thing for the first few moments of my perspective-shifting presentation and companion workshop.
Juggling vs. Balancing
I want to share with you some of what you need to know to be empowered to make positive changes in your life. This will result in you feeling more productive, less busy, more balanced, and less stressed.
Too many of us live such busy and stressful lives nowadays. So much so that stress continues to climb as one of the primary causes of many of our most serious health concerns. Our lives quite literally resemble a three-ring circus, complete with Get the Kids to School and Get Yourself to Work on Time high-wire balancing act, Pull the Money Out of a Hat magic trick, and the I’m So Stressed I Feel I Could Explode out of a Cannon Clown. Now don’t get me wrong, the circus is fun—highly entertaining even—but sometimes it can be overwhelming to figure out where to put your energy and attention. Well, if you want to become the ring master of your life, then I invite you to follow these straightforward steps:
How to Become Your Own Ring Master
Step right this way folks ...
- Big Picture Goals: Ask yourself what you value most in life and set big picture goals in these areas.
-Separate your life into big picture categories. For example: family, career, partnership/marriage, or yourself.
-Think of what big picture goals you would like to achieve in those categories. For example, in partnership/marriage you might think: I would like to have a nurturing, loving partnership. Or in terms of yourself: I would like to feel healthy and physically fit.
- Action/Activity Building Blocks: Decide what actions or activities you can do that will help you reach your big-picture goals.
-Decide on actions that are doable within a fixed and pre-determined time period. For example in partnership/marriage you might think: I would like to have a nurturing, loving partnership. Your action could be to have date night once a week.
-Only choose a couple actions in each category. Remember, this is to make us more productive and balanced, not busier and more stressed.
- Support Structure: Let people know what you’re up to, and ask for their support.
-Share with your family and friends both your big-picture life goals, and the individual actions you have decided to take to reach those goals.
-Ask your family and friends to join you in doing those activities and reaching those goals. For example, if would like to feel healthy and physically fit, your action could be to take a half hour walk four times a week. You can receive support by asking a friend to walk with you. That way you get some exercise, and a chance to catch up on the latest news.
- Clearing Space: Make room in your life for your big-picture goals.
-Reduce your to-do list by 10 percent. You can do this by crossing off those items which don’t contribute toward your big-picture goals, and aren’t essential tasks for the running of your work and non-work life.
-Reduce your schedule by 10 percent a week. You can do this by consciously deciding if the activity you’re thinking of scheduling supports your big picture goals. If the activity does not support these goals, then consider not scheduling it, and instead making time for an activity that does contribute toward the big-picture goals you want to achieve.