Given the importance of sex to our lives, it is interesting to note that while most of us occupy a good deal of time sharing with our partners the many ways we want to spend our paychecks, parent our children and enjoy our vacations, we devote little or no time to confiding what we would like from an erotic point of view. Why do we sit, lips sealed, hoping some magical GPS will guide us to our goal, instead of expressing what would make us feel satisfied? Be honest. Are you being authentic with yourself in expressing your sexual desires? If not, it’s time to start.
And keep the conversation going when the foreplay begins. The brain is stimulated by the sounds of excitement, so be open, reveal yourself in bed, and let your manopause man hear what you are feeling. It can take him to new heights and stir him to try new techniques. Remember, boredom is the death of good sex, and by midlife it can easily set in for your man, and for you. All of us crave variety. In midlife, your manopause man is becoming more ready to listen, so disclose your desires and get him to tell you his. Make this stage of life a time when you both become more secure and move beyond your inhibitions.
Reprinted with permission form Manopause: Your Guide to Surviving His Changing Life, by Lisa Friedman Bloch and Kathy Kirtland Silverman.
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