The question about what she wants keeps nagging at her, though. Two weeks later, she raises it again during a phone conversation and then follows up minutes later with an e-mail, in which she finally and poignantly talks about how she was affected by her father’s death. “Not knowing my father always made me feel like a piece of myself was missing or unknown,” she writes. “Not reachable. And growing up, there was this wondering what he would think of me or what I would think of him.”
She says she was troubled by questions: What would they have done together? Would he have been proud of her? It’s important to her that her own children never come up empty when asking the same. “I want them to feel connected to me and me to them. Always,” she writes. “I want them, above all, to feel sure of who they are. That they are safe in the world. And confident and happy people. And of course, connected. To their parents, their friends, their family, the world and themselves. This is the most important goal/dream in my life. Everything else is gravy.”
Leah Rozen profiled Lisa Kudrow for the July/August issue of More.
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