How She Looks Great
Hello, Whenever I read an article about a woman—especially a celebrity—over 40 I always brace myself for the "still" as in she "still" looks great or has a great body, etc. This makes me so angry! It is condescending and sexist—as if it is somehow shocking that a woman over 40 could have a great body, great style and a beautiful face. I look and feel much prettier and sexier now at age 47 than I did in my twenties. Then, I was pudgy, depressed and unsure of myself. That wore off and I became a lot more comfortable in my own skin and with trusting myself.
Thank you for NOT doing the "still" when describing Sharon Stone. When I read the Sharon Stone article, I read that she looks great at 52—and how! Women look best when we take good care of ourselves. I love magazines and articles that celebrate being your best in a healthy, natural way. Most people who have a lot of work done such as face lifts and botox don’t appear younger to me. They just look like older people who have had work done! It isn’t natural, graceful or sexy. I have seen women in their 70’s that are gorgeous and elegant. Getting older doesn’t mean we have to look frumpy. Thanks for your magazine.
Stop the Nudity!
Your June issue really disgusted me. It’s bad enough to feature nearly nude celebrities on your cover, but you really went over the line with the trashy nude photos inside of "regular" women. If I didn’t know better, I would have thought that I was reading a men’s magazine or Cosmo. Do you really think that most mature women want to see other women with their clothes off? If you are trying to equate self-esteem and self-worth with sexy – I don’t see the correlation, frankly. So what if these women are survivors of whatever serious life issue. I am too—I’ve been through so much in my life (including struggles with serious chronic illness), that I am constantly amazed (as are others close to me) that I am still very much alive! That doesn’t mean I have to step out of my clothes just to prove I am still here. Please focus on issues women of maturity and substance can really relate to and leave the nudity to Playboy.
No Comfort Found
I feel compelled to respond to “My Body as a Work of Art” (June 2010), the experiment to determine if being photographed nude might change a woman’s feelings about her own body. Viewing the photographs themselves, I was left sad: the faceless bodies, slouching, covering themselves awkwardly, burying a face, seemed not to celebrate anything, but actually portray women still struggling with how to feel about themselves. It is in sharp contrast to a piece that appeared in your April 2007 issue, “Body Images”, by Rosanne Olson. Those images are graceful, strong and somehow more whole. Those women speak in a clear voice about their journey to love themselves.
As a psychotherapist, working with women in groups and workshops, I actually use Olson’s book, This Is Who I Am, since its publication two years ago, using the photographs and stories to motivate and inspire. Her powerful images are compelling and so encouraging to other women as they “work” to accept and love themselves. I would refer any woman interested in moving herself forward, to Olson’s book or—more ideally—to her studio for a transformative experience in front of her camera. Thank you for a forwarding-thinking magazine for all women.