It's fresh, and shows your wonderful aura and personality--not to mention your better than ever beauty.
I just read your piece in MORE magazine and while I've never done this before, I had to write and say THANK YOU. I'm following about ten years behind you, as a 40-year-old breadwinner with small children and an amazing husband who opened a martial arts school after being downsized a few years ago. (Although, to be truthful, I've always significantly out-worked and out-earned him.)
You described all the petty things I struggle with. The sense of "fairness," the tallying up who does more (me, always me!)... and OH, the resentment of having to put myself together for a high-level job on a mid-level budget, when all the other directors have manicures and new shoes (and twice the disposable income)! On my worst days, I feel like a chump. On my best days, I realize we're pioneers in some ways, and setting the right example for my daughter and son.
Just this morning my husband and I had one of our talks - - the only thing holding us together is honest communication and a lot of humor. Yet again, we hashed out redistributing the chores and the free time - - making sure the workload still works for both of us. (I recently left a great full time job to freelance, which is scary and wonderful all at the same time. But I still out-earn him several times over.)
Anyway - no need to reply to this. I just wanted you to know how much your words resonated, and how grateful I am for an honest perspective on how tough it really can be to subvert traditional gender roles.
Thanks so very much,
Hi Lesley, just read your "letter from the Editor" in the April MORE, and wanted to respond to the "We all age" statement. Just before my 70th birthday, I was asked how I felt about being that momentous age!
I had just heard Laura Linney say in an interview that she and her friend Jamie Lee Curtis are planning to "just grow old gracefully" because "Aging is a PRIVILEGE; NOT everybody gets to do it!" So that's now my "mantra"!
I also think of my mother saying, "I look in the mirror and I can't believe what I see...because I'm still the same little kid on the inside!" Now I get it!
So I just wanted to share my thoughts with you...I'm a very active New Yorker, and I , too, am trying to grow old gracefully, enjoying all that life has to offer! I feel very lucky!
So enjoy each issue of MORE. Only one thing bothers me--the very small font type used in many of your features articles. I realize the necessity of squeezing as much on a page as possible. Just please keep in mind that your magazine is geared to women who "might" need reading glasses. Thank for a great magazine.
I was not sure where to send a comment on an article in your April issue, so I am taking a chance and sending it to this email address.
Regarding the article What's fueling Mommy Wars? I just want to say STOP! I really wish women would STOP judging each others decisions and SUPPORT each other. I am tired of the working Mom versus the stay at home Mom battle. Both are making the BEST decision for them, so let it be.
I just became a stay at home Mom, of 7 month old twin girls. And after leaving a 25 year career, I am elated that I made the decision to stay at home. I am an older Mom and nothing right now is more important to me than loving and rearing my girls. When I do return work, and I will, I will make sure the work I chose is meaningful enough that it is worth leaving my girls for.
So I wish for all the Mom's of the world is stop the fighting, stop the judging and learn to respect, love and support each other.
Thanks for letting me vent!
I wanted to tell you that I really appreciate the magazine; I took part in a survey awhile back and complained that you don’t offer a conservative woman’s point of view.