I would like to see More get off the main road for a change and interview Joan Jett who is over 50 and has been rocking since she was 16. Or other members of her band The Runaways; Cherie Currie who now carves trees using a chainsaw! Perhaps Lita Ford who left music behind to start a family and with a recent divorce behind her, has gotten back into rock and roll. Maybe Victory Tischler-Blue who is now a Producer. All of these "older" women have something to tell. I'm tired of actress who make a quarter million dollars an episode. I'm supposed to relate to this? I can relate more to these ladies.
What about it More? Will you even acknowledge my thoughts?
I read this article, The Mommy Wars, while waiting for an appointment. I do not remember who, and how many people you surveyed, but I found the results to be slightly untrue, or exaggerated.
I have a B.S. Degree in Family and Child Development from Virginia Tech. I have worked in, and with, child care centers across the country (due to several moves with my military husband). I have worked at amazing centers, and a few not so amazing ones. Deep in my heart I knew when I had children, I was going to stay home. No one would look at my husband and I and deem us "privileged." The article states, and I quote, "LET'S BE clear:It is a privileged group of women and men who ever confront this decision."
Well, our decision was for me to stay home and raise our children. We lived in a two bedroom, maybe 650 square apartment for 7 years while only owning one vehicle, that was already 10 years old. As a family we will look back at pictures, drawings, scrapbooks and videos and just laugh and remember all that we did together. I guess, in a way, I wanted my husband and I to be the ones to teach our children first!
We did not have many material possessions in our small home. I saw other families with all the matching furniture with bins from Ikea, to hold their children's toys. My boys carried their toys in milk jugs with the tops cut off. We did not buy new clothes, but instead shopped thrift and second hand stores. A day of fun included a ride on the town bus to play at the park and have a picnic.
I just wish that your magazine would have also shown the side of those folks who do CHOOSE to stay home, without being "privileged" and make it work.
I now work as the Finance Director for an amazing child care center, where I worked part-time as a teacher after my youngest went into first grade. We are doing well financially, as we stick to the life-style we started over 18 years ago. I still work part-time, by choice, so I can be home with our youngest son when school is over. We have a small, modest, older three bedroom home. And, we still own only one vehicle...I bike or walk to work.
So, my point is...if Moms or Dads really, really want to stay home with their young children (or go on to homeschool) it can be done...even if you are not "privileged."
This is my first issue of More... fairly impressed for about 100 pages and then the ridiculous article by one of your editors no less!
The conclusion in particular removed any ounce of respect I have for editor Braunschweiger and casts a poor light on my thoughts about the magazine entirely.
What a crummy article, what a way to make excuses... those moms who stepped up when the sitter was unavailable - probably all felt so sorry for your child who is raised by others and they helped out not to help the parents but for the sake of the child. The SAHMs are 75% happy with their choice because there is more to value in the world than a paycheck.