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Although there was an apologetic tone to the article that indicates some tension within More's staff regarding it, I have to say that I found the decision to cover "the $65 million mom" a very poor one.

The Kardashians represent virtually everything that is wrong with the US today.  They are not entrepreneurs, they are money and publicity whores.  Their lifestyle is devoid of values (other than seeking money and fame and hedonism), and the idea of working and thinking hard to do something requiring use of one's intellect is clearly out of their league.

Although I admit I glanced over rather than read the article, I had to laugh at the part where it says that Mrs. Kardashian didn't seek support from her ex, Mr. Kardashian, suggesting that she placed her family above the fray.  Anyone who’s been around for a while knows that the only reason a person who values money this much would avoid seeking alimony is called dirt -- apparently Mrs. Kardashian has dirty laundry that she didn't want Mr. Kardashian to expose, so she agreed to not get any alimony.  Yes, Mother Teresa sparing her family.  I think not.

I am a capitalist and know that this economy needs risk taking, hard work, and other "old fashioned" values to get back on track.  I am a Northeast liberal, not a Tea Party ideologist (though that is largely a contradiction in terms).  But there has to be some limit on what is considered worth writing about, and More exercised questionable judgment on this one.  The woman sold her family due to her own inability to earn funding for the life she feels is her entitlement, and they, being raised by her, of course went along with it.  The acorns don't fall far from the trees on this one.  As for the new hubby, she apparently needed to bail him out as well due to his lack of self-control with money, having earned a fortune but being worth less than nothing when they married.  I guess Mrs. Kardashian isn't merely a hard-working entrepreneur, she's also a philanthropist.  I think not.

I strongly suggest that better judgment be used in selecting people to profile.  If I wanted to read about trash, I'd buy the celebrity rag magazines.  It's stuff like this that has Americans looking for the quick fix to becoming rich and famous through a reality show, rather than focusing on having a comfortable life based on hard work and real accomplishment.

Sincerely,

Marguerite Schneider, Hoboken, NJ

Just read your Never Say Diet article... I am in my late 50's (ugh that sounds foreign) and have been struggling with that dreaded 5 lbs.  Heavy people sneer at a need to lose 5 lbs, but they are the hardest, as you seem to know.

I heard whispers about Carole Middleton (mother of Princess Kate) being on this radical diet called Dukan to lose weight for her daughter’s wedding.  Shortly thereafter, a friend of mine said she was doing the Dukan diet and was having great success.  I read the book and decided to give it a whirl.  She wanted to lose 25 lbs, and she followed it to the letter. Me, I did the first three days as instructed and then my martini drinking husband got the best of me. I gave in to the martini, but otherwise followed it to the letter.  I lost 8 lbs and have kept if off for several months now.  I was on a week-long trip, eating in restaurants and still didn't gain weight.  If I put on 1/2 lb. I have a pure protein day and it's gone (and I still get to enjoy a martini or a glass or two of wine). Just thought I'd share another means to the end of the dreaded muffin top.

Sincerely,

Robyn Rands

Once again, I am not disappointed in the "substance" part of your latest issue of "More". Deborah Kogan's writing is so moving and heartfelt; I could feel her pain, although I have never undertaken anything of the sort she has.  I praise her for speaking out and you for printing her story.  

Thank you for printing such thought-provoking substance.

Sara Stamey, Hillsboro, Oregon

I just finished reading "War Photographer's Turning Point" which I enjoyed.

First Published June 30, 2011

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Dear Editor:
I was disturbed by the spiritual and religious understanding of Jesus and the church in the article “The Rebel Priests.” There is a difference between a church religion and the spiritual relationship that Christ taught His disciples and the Holy Spirit teaches His followers.
There is nothing wrong with the leaders in the Catholic Church upholding their religious beliefs and rituals that they have followed for over 2 millennia. When Martin Luther & Calvin founded a new religion and broke from Catholicism, this was the beginning of many new churches, rituals, beliefs, and ways to worship God.
If these “Rebel Priests” are changing a core belief and ritual in the Catholic religion it is agreeable to see this as an offspring of the Catholic religion and a legitimate way to worship God, Christ, and the Holy Spirit. However, it does not make this part of the Catholic Church.
When a believer is involved in a church body they are able to find solace from the structure provided. This is perfectly legitimate, especially in the Catholic religion which is very much more rule bound than the Protestant churches. It seems like trying to force the Catholic hierarchy to recognize churches and priests who are not following the Catholic beliefs is an immature spiritual approach when acceptance that a new religion spun off of the Catholic Church is being born is a more accurate approach.
I myself am protestant and believe that there are many ways to reach God, not just Catholic, not just Christian and not just Muslim, etc. If a person wishes to reach God then they will because God will always reach back to us. It is offensive to me that these “Rebel Priests” believe that everyone who is not Catholic including themselves for being excommunicated will burn in Hell. That is a very Catholic idea and if they choose to include this concept for themselves in their churches and their new religion then I do feel that they are missing the point of Christ’s teaching altogether. It seems to me that if this is the motivation for these new churches to achieve salvation is to be recognized by the Catholic Church then perhaps they should follow the Catholic rules and guidelines instead of being saved by Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with the Catholic belief that their church leaders follow celibacy or with having different roles for different genders if that is what the church leaders wish to follow based on their established traditions and their valid interpretations of the teachings of Jesus Christ. If people don’t like it start a new religion but don’t call it Catholic.
Sincerely,
Elizabeth K. Shibahara

kim stacy07.10.2012

I am writing about the artical on the book Slouching Toward Adulthood. The comment 22 to 35 year olds caught between adolescence and adulthood really hit a nerve. Um 18 is adulthood. These parents that held back their children for whatever reason have got to stop making excuses for their children not succeeding.
Children need guildence when they are young. They need to do the things they can do when they are young. These "Adultescents" of this last generation had way too much done for them in the way of school work and not having to work because so much was given too them, they didn't have to.
On the other end, the parents let them get away with things like partying and paying for excessive traveling and expensive cars like they were millionairs trying to keep up with the Jones.
Now that they have to finally take care of themselves, these parents blame it on the economy.
I would love a study done of how many of these kids were from divorced families, where child support issues had to do with allowing there "children" such range to not do what adults should be doing at 18, and what they shouldn't be doing at 18.

Kathy Lowry06.25.2012

I cannot thank you enough for Jaquelyn Mitchard's article on "Where did our friendship go wrong". I have never been able to express in words my emotions about my best friend "dumping" me. We did not quarrel, we had no spat, we never even argued....her reason....she needed to spend more time with God. This woman had been my spiritual mentor for the last five years of my Christian life. She always told me that the love she had for me was as unconditional as God's love. When she said she couldn't give me anymore time because she needed to spend more with God, it was as if God Himself had "dumped" me. She said she still loved me the same, but that she didn't have time for me anymore....to clarify, I am not a "needy" friend, just a friend through thick it thin....I spent two years trying to separate her absence from God's withdrawal. I am only now able to discern between the two...God will never leave me, He's never too busy, or He never needs to spend more time with someone else. Thank you Jaquelyn for such an acutely expressed article.
Blessings,
Kathy Lowry

Kathy Lowry06.25.2012

I cannot thank you enough for Jaquelyn Mitchard's article on "Where did our friendship go wrong". I have never been able to express in words my emotions about my best friend "dumping" me. We did not quarrel, we had no spat, we never even argued....her reason....she needed to spend more time with God. This woman had been my spiritual mentor for the last five years of my Christian life. She always told me that the love she had for me was as unconditional as God's love. When she said she couldn't give me anymore time because she needed to spend more with God, it was as if God Himself had "dumped" me. She said she still loved me the same, but that she didn't have time for me anymore....to clarify, I am not a "needy" friend, just a friend through thick it thin....I spent two years trying to separate her absence from God's withdrawal. I am only now able to discern between the two...God will never leave me, He's never too busy, or He never needs to spend more time with someone else. Thank you Jaquelyn for such an acutely expressed article.
Blessings,
Kathy Lowry

Amy 09.03.2011

My thanks to the editors at More for spotlighting Ms. Marguerite Schneider's excellent letter about the Kardashian profile, and many thanks to Ms. Schneider, of course, for writing the piece. I see that "Julie", in the section of comments, feels the same as well. Both of these readers capture my sentiments. I really love More and think it is a first-rate publication, in a class by itself within its category and able to hold its own against magazines in other cateogries as well (including its wonderful website), and I simply hope there will be no more attention paid in its pages to "Kardashian types". Changing the topic, but still on the theme of offering feedback, would More be interested in polling its readers about their feelings on fur? It seems to me that only people who live wholly within the bubble of the fashion industry are still willing to turn a blind eye to the cruelty that fur products represent. More would be adopting a cutting-edge and enlightened approach by featuring only faux fur and, with its powerful platform, would greatly help to support animal welfare. P.S. While naturally I respect all of the commenters' opinions, I just want to add, in response to one below, that I welcome More's so-called "self-help" items, and I don't think those sections detract from the beauty and fashion advice at all. Were More only composed of the latter two elements, I believe it would become nearly indistinguishable from all of the other fashion magazines on the market, and I, for one, would lose my interest in subscribing to it.


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Julie 07.15.2011

I have been a MORE subscriber from almost the very beginning and I could not believe the magazine felt the Kardashian article was worth the time. I do not consider living a life of excess, frivalous lifestyles and constant media attention as interesting journalism. Granted they have worked to get where they are, but I do not see any morals or values to the lifestyle they lead. Even my teen children can't understand their claim to fame.

acnad 07.12.2011

You published a photo of a dress in your July/August issue un 'the event/garden wedding. It is a London Times jersey dress, floral for $89. You said Macy's carried it and gave a phone number. When I called they had no information on this dress or even a clue that they even carried it. I researched myself by going onto Macy's, Norstrom's, and London Times websites and the dress is nowhere to be found. How can you tease us readers with the 'perfect' dress that I want to buy and cannot find anywhere? That's so bad!!!! Do you have a purchase number or any information at all where to get the dress? If not you shouldn't be advertising that it is available. Disappointed.

connie duke07.04.2011

I don't need to reinvent myself. I am so very tired of all the text. I used to like MORE because it had fashion and beauty that applied to my age group. I have a career that I love and want to have fashion tips to keep me up-to-date. Now it's like a monthly self-help magazine. Trash the new articles and get back to your roots.

Carol Ciaciuch06.30.2011

Deborah Copaken Kogan's article is outstanding. For all the progress we have made in this world, we lack sorely where it counts the most: with humanity. It is frustrating and exhausting to be a female at times. Always wary of where you are, who is speaking to you, what a male might really mean, what time it is, if it is light out, etc. But I am amazed at her strength to go where there is danger. She is not inviting problems, she is living her life and doing what she loves. That is, in no way, an invitation to be brutalized verbally or sexually. Maybe one day we will teach male children it's not okay, it's not funny and it makes them LESS masculine to be violent against women. Cheers, to you on an article that is clear, intelligent and well written. Anyone who would like to make less of it should consider why it makes them so uncomfortable in the first place.

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