I enjoy reading about the inventors that persevere, the small business owners that thrive, the gals who change careers mid life...it is inspiring. The travels into gaucho country, the clothes and jewelry in the spreads and advertisements - it's lovely to imagine. But it ends there. The only vacation my kids and I have ever taken was the Make a Wish Foundation trip to San Diego Sea World and Zoo after my youngest daughter was diagnosed with Spinal Muscular Atrophy.
And I could not/would not spend $1215 or even $398 on a purse as shown in the latest "What to Wear in your 40's." I could cloth myself and all three of my daughters from thrift stores and yard sales with that kind of money. And my girls look good.
My oldest is in community college on full financial aid and living at home. My two younger girls, age 16 and 10, are both disabled. My middle girl attends part time GED classes and my youngest is homeschooled. Her germ exposure must be limited as the SMA is affecting her lung function now. Her illness has the latest very P.C. label of "life limiting." I have to haggle my way through the DSHS hoops for every specialist and piece of equipment we need for her, including the new wheelchair I am fighting to get with our very limited state coverage.
So, when I say i know about REAL nitty gritty living and how to survive it, I know what I'm talking about. And it certainly isn't some warmed over 'Sex and the City' bullshit.
It isn't walking around on 3 + inch heels worth over $300 or wearing a clunky necklace for $1100...It's finding activities to do in town for free but not too crowded. It's menu planning and watching every dollar so the once-a-month state disability checks we live on stretch out through the four weeks. If not we're eating soup and homemade flat bread two meals a day and using Kleenex for toilet paper, and no using what's left of the gas to run to town for even a 99 cent movie rental. It's having no satellite t.v., no long distance phone service, no packaged plan cell phones, Iphones, smart phones, no personal Internet access, no ipads or Kindles. No lipstick over $6 - and that's a splurge!. No shoes over $20. (I don't even remember the last pair of new shoes I bought myself. I get all my shoes and most of my clothes second hand and from my former mother-in-law I still call 'mom.' Same goes for home furnishings, books, etc.)
The real world for my family may be alot different then your world but from what i see around me, there are a lot of us who could use guidance, encouragement, things we can relate to while trying to be our very best in the midst of very real, sometimes, dire circumstances.
Thank you for your time.
Dear Ms Seymour,
I was curious to read Ms Listfield's take on "handsome women". Why must we appropriate this term to describe women? The women portrayed are all simply beautiful, not to mention very accomplished. Angela Bassett is not handsome. She is simply stunning. Sorry, but the author has not convinced me to describe any woman as handsome. Beautiful includes unconventionally pretty and I like reserving "handsome" to describe men's looks. I don't see the point of this piece. Also, what's with the "revenge" theme? It was also on the Summer 2012 Canadian edition cover, "The Sweet Revenge of Madeleine Stowe".
I've been reading More since it hit the newsstands, a decade before I was part of its target audience. I agree with many of your readers who commented on your website about the March 2013 issue: More is getting fluffier and more out of touch with reality. I hope you've taken note of Ms Ford's comments. She is in touch with the nitty-gritty of life. That said, Connie Britton's "sex kitten" pictures didn't offend me in the least. Perhaps it's because I've just recently, at 46, started to revel in my sexy, playful side but I love seeing women my age portrayed as sex kittens. After losing my libido for many, many fertile years (and almost losing my marriage because of it), I am experiencing a sexual reawakening and for the first time in my life, am luxuriating in my feminine, seductive side.