We Hear You! Letters from Our March 2013 Issue

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by MORE • Editors

I enjoy reading about the inventors that persevere, the small business owners that thrive, the gals who change careers mid life...it is inspiring. The travels into gaucho country, the clothes and jewelry in the spreads and advertisements - it's lovely to imagine. But it ends there. The only vacation my kids and I have ever taken was the Make a Wish Foundation trip to San Diego Sea World and Zoo after my youngest daughter was diagnosed with Spinal Muscular Atrophy.

And I could not/would not spend $1215 or even $398 on a purse as shown in the latest "What to Wear in your 40's." I could cloth myself and all three of my daughters from thrift stores and yard sales with that kind of money. And my girls look good.

My oldest is in community college on full financial aid and living at home. My two younger girls, age 16 and 10, are both disabled. My middle girl attends part time GED classes and my youngest is homeschooled. Her germ exposure must be limited as the SMA is affecting her lung function now. Her illness has the latest very P.C. label of "life limiting." I have to haggle my way through the DSHS hoops for every specialist and piece of equipment we need for her, including the new wheelchair I am fighting to get with our very limited state coverage.

So, when I say i know about REAL nitty gritty living and how to survive it, I know what I'm talking about. And it certainly isn't some warmed over 'Sex and the City' bullshit.

It isn't walking around on 3 + inch heels worth over $300 or wearing a clunky necklace for $1100...It's finding activities to do in town for free but not too crowded. It's menu planning and watching every dollar so the once-a-month state disability checks we live on stretch out through the four weeks. If not we're eating soup and homemade flat bread two meals a day and using Kleenex for toilet paper, and no using what's left of the gas to run to town for even a 99 cent movie rental. It's having no satellite t.v., no long distance phone service, no packaged plan cell phones, Iphones, smart phones, no personal Internet access, no ipads or Kindles. No lipstick over $6 - and that's a splurge!. No shoes over $20. (I don't even remember the last pair of new shoes I bought myself. I get all my shoes and most of my clothes second hand and from my former mother-in-law I still call 'mom.' Same goes for home furnishings, books, etc.)

The real world for my family may be alot different then your world but  from what i see around me, there are a lot of us who could use guidance, encouragement, things we can relate to while trying to be our very best in the midst of very real, sometimes, dire circumstances.

Thank you for your time.

Most Sincerely,
--Annie Ford

Dear Ms Seymour,

I was curious to read Ms Listfield's take on "handsome women". Why must we appropriate this term to describe women? The women portrayed are all simply beautiful, not to mention very accomplished. Angela Bassett is not handsome. She is simply stunning. Sorry, but the author has not convinced me to describe any woman as handsome. Beautiful includes unconventionally pretty and I like reserving "handsome" to describe men's looks. I don't see the point of this piece. Also, what's with the "revenge" theme? It was also on the Summer 2012 Canadian edition cover, "The Sweet Revenge of Madeleine Stowe".

I've been reading More since it hit the newsstands, a decade before I was part of its target audience. I agree with many of your readers who commented on your website about the March 2013 issue: More is getting fluffier and more out of touch with reality. I hope you've taken note of Ms Ford's comments. She is in touch with the nitty-gritty of life. That said, Connie Britton's "sex kitten" pictures didn't offend me in the least. Perhaps it's because I've just recently, at 46, started to revel in my sexy, playful side but I love seeing women my age portrayed as sex kittens. After losing my libido for many, many fertile years (and almost losing my marriage because of it), I am experiencing a sexual reawakening and for the first time in my life, am luxuriating in my feminine, seductive side. 

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Comments

Lynn Cadogan04.17.2013

I have never written a magazine before but you are always asking for comments and feed back, so I felt compelled to write. I enjoy reading MORE and share it with friends when I finish. The articles are appropriate and very informative but in looking at the ads I find a big discrepancy in the age of women you are "writing" for and the appearance of the models. Except for maybe Diane Keaton, I couldn't find a model that looked "mature" and had any wrinkles. I would like to see more advertising with vibrant, more mature realistic looking women since that is the demographic your magazine is written for. Thanks for letting me share my comment.

04.05.2013

I read More cover-to-cover every month and have never written in before, but the article on the pills we can't kick was a major eye-opener. I was prescribed Effexor 3 years ago when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was supposed to stop the hot flashes brought on by suddenly stopping HRT. After reading your article, I began to research Effexor and found that it causes hot flashes(!) and many other pretty nasty side effects. I started to taper off a few weeks ago and stopped taking it completely 6 days ago. The withdrawals are awful--really, truly awful--but I know eventually they will stop and I will no longer be putting my health in jeopardy taking a drug that isn't even meant to do what it was prescribed to do. If I still have hot flashes, I will suffer them naturally. I already take Black Cohash and will add other supplements or vitamins to help. Thank you so much for such an important article.

Carol 03.21.2013

No no no.....no 30 somethings in More! You promised a magazine for women over 40 - please honor that! And while you are at it, it wouldn't hurt to add "This is what 70 looks like". I read More front to back and back to front. I used to shop your ads for products I knew would be for me at my age.....but this is uncomfortably becoming more of my daughters' magazine. We deserve the More original market - I am waiting to spend....

03.07.2013

I love More, and I love Connie Britton. And believe me, I am no prude. But I did not love the girlie-mag photos that accompanied an otherwise very good story on this very interesting, strong and intelligent woman. Did I pick up the wrong magazine? Have I turned into my Great-Aunt Lila Lee, who would have been shocked and appalled by the overtly sexy display of Ms. Britton's bits, barely covered with scanty scraps? I believe in celebrating our fabulousness. But I have to wonder -- to what audience were you playing with those photos? Has More decided to be Maxim?

Julie 03.04.2013

I have become very disillusioned with MORE. It seems you are trying to reach a younger demographic (already more than well served) by including the 30s, whilst paying less attention to women in their 60s and 70s. I am 51 and have nothing in common with women in their 30s with regards to skin care, lifestyle, etc. Reading other womens' comments, I see I am not alone in this point of view. I would love to hear from the Editor on why the 30 somethings are now included.

Kate Dockham03.03.2013

I enjoy your magazine, but often think it is geared to women of a different lifestyle than my on-the-go mom and teacher life. I was looking through the Stylebook: Dressing for the Decades, and found a pair of shoes I had to have whether in the teacher budget or not. So I went to the Vince Camuto site to find the studded black sandals shown and nothing! How disappointing that I finally take the plunge and follow a piece of information from your magazine only to be unable to even find a picture of the same sandals. It is only March 3rd, hard to believe the season/trend/moment has eclipsed me already. Just another lesson for this everyday teacher to learn.
Sadly Shoeless,
Kate Dockham

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