We Hear You! Letters from Our November 2012 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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I was at the mall picking up a must have piece of clothing that my 15-year-old absolutely needed for her visit to the local Halloween house that evening.  As I was making my way to the check-out counter, I heard my name.  I turned to see who may have called me and spotted the woman who 30-some years ago had made it her mission to turn my high school years into a living hell.  She and her group of friends tormented me on a daily basis. So badly, I often begged my parents to be sent to another school. I would try to hide myself as I walked through the halls to avoid running into them. These memories came flooding back as if it was yesterday and high school all over again.  I pretended I hadn’t seen her and quickly made my way to the nearest checkout and sternly told myself that even if I did run into her again--though I was already formulating an escape route—that I was more than capable of handling the situation.

Casually glancing over my shoulder and not spotting the enemy, I was ready to heave a sigh of relief when someone touched my arm. She greeted me like we were long-lost friends, giving me a big hug and asking how I had been. The meek, mousey, teenager with braces and apparently a large target on her back, wanted to just melt into the floor. I forced a smile and said everything was just great.  She then asked if I wanted to have a quick coffee and catch up. My shocked reaction must have registered on my face because she quickly said if I was too busy, maybe we could chat another time.

Conversations with her in high school consisted of her and her friends throwing insults and publically humiliating me, it was never a polite back and forth exchange. I thought maybe since we were both adults in our 50’s, high school was a thing of the past and we could actually sit down, be civil, catch up, laugh, and enjoy a coffee together. We went to a local coffee place. She proceeded to tell me about her life. She had just recently quit work because her husband felt that her time should be dedicated to raising their two daughters and being available to volunteer for all their activities. So now her days were filled with volunteer work and just being a great mom. Did I work?  I told her that I did and I really loved my job.  She brushed that off and asked if I had children?  I proudly said I had two teenage daughters and that even with work I was also the president of the Cheerleading boosters. I couldn’t resist the dig and was feeling pretty proud of myself for being able to do both pretty well when she touched my arm and said that I was probably doing the best I could.

In high school I would have slid down in my chair, humiliated that I wasn’t perfect or that I did things differently. But today, I had this vision in which I actually jumped up and shouted that I wasn’t just doing the best I can but I was doing a damned great job. Then I realized I didn’t care what she thought. I may have tried everything to make her like me in high school, but 30 years later, I may still have remembered those horrible days but today—I honestly didn’t care what she thought. 

What’s your reaction?

Comments

Penney White12.18.2012

I came across MORE on my local library magazine rack a few years ago. This is my access point to any type of tabloid, free. That is my first and probably foremost problem, pricing. Thank goodness for being online.
I liked the idea of a magazine for my age group that wasn't soaked in recipes and sowing ideas. Generally the articles you share are interesting and informative, but the people you write about are those that an everyday woman may consider unattainable in comparison. The Christina Applegate story was a pleasure. It gave a sense that she was an everyday person, sort of. Other then that the thing that stands out to me is your pick of "This is what 40-50-60 Looks like" Those are beautiful women and that is wonderful, kudos to them on their appearances but there are women with less perfect BMI's, complexions, and scars that are MORE beautiful and should be pointed out as well. Thank you for your time.

11.18.2012

November Issue
I was offended by the article on Page 26 about the first ladies because it included Ann Romney, before the election.
I had planned on giving a gift of a subscription to a friend but she may be offended as well.
Please do not print my name.

Noreen Martin11.15.2012

Thanks for the engaging article on Christina Applegate. I am now a bigger than than I was before. I love her show (all that preceeded this one except MWC) and the cast that make her shine. It's great for her to portray a character on TV so close to her real life. Her history was interesting and I had no idea about anythign other than when she had breast cancer. Nice to know more than the bad stuff about celebrities. Thanks again.

Candace Rao11.15.2012

I'm one of your subscribers who read More magazine from beginning to end and I've loved reading it for years! Maybe it's because I'm 61 now, but is it my imagination or are the feature photos on the cover personality getting a little too kittenish? I've noticed this for the past year, at least. These are accomplished woman and yes, very beautiful. But why are they photographed in provacative poses for me?

leanne 11.04.2012

It's good Pamela Satran recognizes pet ownership comes with responsibility. I wouldn't try to talk her into adopting a homeless pet since she's already weighed her interest level and found it wanting. But this "humor" writer rubbed me the wrong way with her selfish focus. I guess I was too tired from my week volunteering at our local animal shelter to find levity in her topic. It's likely that seeing perfectly adoptable but unwanted puppies, kittens, cats and dogs put to sleep day after day has rendered me unable to be lighthearted about the subject. Could you pass this message along to the writer for me? When she's feeling great, enjoying her freedom and wearing her hair-free black chic clothes, could she totter over to her checkbook in her mid-life heels and write a check to her local animal shelter so that the animals that aren't getting adopted can enjoy one more day too? Thanks!

Susan Asnes10.30.2012

As a socially conscious vegan, I would be over-the-moon if just once you would feature a spread of vegan meals/recipes and vegan makeup/clothing. Is it too much to ask?
I converted to a vegan lifestyle on Jan 1, 2011 thanks to Alicia Silverstone's inspiring book: The Kind Diet as well as her blog: The Kind Life. Prior to that, I was a dairy eating vegetarian. Not long after adopting a vegan lifestyle, 15 lbs melted off of my body without even trying. My skin absolutely glows. I feel wonderful and I have oodles of energy. Personally, I think I look better now at 45 than I did before I became a vegan.
It seems to only make sense that if you care about your health, your longevity, and the impact you are having on the planet, well then adopting a vegan lifestyle is the only way to go.
I won't bother promoting my blog in this comment but perhaps Alicia's blog and book will inspire you.
My two cents.
Susan Asnes
Boston, MA

carrie shapiro10.27.2012

I love More magazine and feels this fills a true need that's lacking for women 40 and OVER who still want beauty tips, wardrobe advice and how to keep current on all topics. My frustration is the lack of reality for the high end designer clothes shown that most of your readers can't afford. C'mon More! Get real and help the everyday woman look pulled together with affordable clothes from basic department stores in our neighborhoods including the Targets and Marshalls around us!

Czgirly 10.26.2012

I just finished reading the article in the November 2012 issue by Pamela Redmond Satran. That one page could have been could have been used to encourage people to (1) Support their local spay/neuter programs. (2) adopt a dog from their local rescue or human society. (3) donate time or money to support animal rescues. (4) Help to stop puppy mills. But instead, ignorance prevailed and selfishness prevailed.
But I am positive that any Rover, Spot, Fido, Rufus or Lola that she didn't adopt, was a very lucky dog.
But please know that those of us who love our pet "children" are so much more blessed in our lives with our pets. I would rather have my Golden Retriever's hair on my clothes than baby puke or a leaky diaper. The unconditional love of a dog is heartwarming and has a positive effect on your health.
But hey, for all the dogs who are in shelters now due to the economy and job loss just lost a chance at being adopted and getting a second chance at life due to your shallowness. I see at the end of the article that you are the author of a new humor book "Rabid: ......". I saw no humor in your half page in this magazine so I can't imagine how you could say anything positive about owning a dog in a whole book.

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