We Hear You! Letters from Our November 2012 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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As I sat there listening to her go on and on about how she is still best friends with her crowd from high school and how they got together regularly to talk about everyone we had gone to school with, I wondered if I at one time or another I had been the topic of one of their conversations and if not, within the next week I knew I would be. I imagined her telling them how old I looked or that I hadn’t had a manicure in months, that I worked and didn’t give all my time to my kids,  or that I still had the untamable curly hair that was so often the target of her insults. I didn’t care!  I loved myself the way I was. I had a wonderful husband and family and my life was good. It may not be perfect but then again, I wouldn’t want it to be. I had accepted that my hair would never be stick straight, that I wasn’t going to grow another five inches so I could be tall, but I didn’t care! I was small and slender and I stayed that way because I worked out and took care of myself. I loved me just the way I am. I wished I had come to that revelation in high school but I realize now without all the drama in high school I might never have found me—the person that I am today and the person that I am most proud of.  I almost wanted to thank her.  I interrupted her rant and said I had to go. She said to friend her on Facebook; she wanted to stay in touch.  I laughed as I walked away.  That is one friend request, I am definitely going to ignore.
--Tracy Gray

I never write to Editors, but your "money-pit" story was so funny and right on , that I LMAO!!!! Please give us more! You have a real talent!
--Francine Zabkar

For many years I was a subscriber to More, but recently let my subscription relapse.  Part of the reason for that included the plethora of self-absorbed and depressing memoir and other personal stories that keep cropping up ever since Lesley Jane Seymour took over as Editor-in-Chief.  As a 51 year old woman who lives a pretty much fun and fascinating lifestyle, I rarely if ever find myself reflected in More's pages.  I thought that, perhaps, this month's memoir "The Father I Thought I Knew" might be a bit different.

I was wrong.

First, I was taken by the author's inability to truly see her Father as not just a product of his generation, but a product of the history that surrounded and shaped him.  I was also disappointed in the fairy tales she spun around him as she imagined him doing this or that among "wod-be artists and intellectuals."

My reaction is so negatively strong to this because my own Father died recently, and I discovered things about him, his life, and his times, that would make author Bliss Broyard's head completely fly off her bourgeois shoulders.  Being black is nothing compared to finding out that your Father once had a completely different name, that the man who he claimed as his own Father might not have been, and that his Mother (whom he often called "a whore") might actually have been a prostitute in the deep South of the 1920's. 
It also pales when one discovers that one's Mother may, too, have been the product of an illicit relationship,potentially with another woman who also may have been a "whore," or perhaps was the illegitimate daughter of one of her sisters.

In order to make sense of this sordid family history, I didn't just sit there and imagine this or that.  As I had learned through my studies of English Lit at Smith College, sometimes one must see the person in their times to understand what he/she might be writing, why they said something a certain way, or even just to understand an action that might be completely objectionable in our own times.  For me, I started to dig into the world of the 1920's and 1910's, when my Father and Mother were born, to discover some truth about their worlds and what was so different about mine.

What’s your reaction?

Comments

Penney White12.18.2012

I came across MORE on my local library magazine rack a few years ago. This is my access point to any type of tabloid, free. That is my first and probably foremost problem, pricing. Thank goodness for being online.
I liked the idea of a magazine for my age group that wasn't soaked in recipes and sowing ideas. Generally the articles you share are interesting and informative, but the people you write about are those that an everyday woman may consider unattainable in comparison. The Christina Applegate story was a pleasure. It gave a sense that she was an everyday person, sort of. Other then that the thing that stands out to me is your pick of "This is what 40-50-60 Looks like" Those are beautiful women and that is wonderful, kudos to them on their appearances but there are women with less perfect BMI's, complexions, and scars that are MORE beautiful and should be pointed out as well. Thank you for your time.

11.18.2012

November Issue
I was offended by the article on Page 26 about the first ladies because it included Ann Romney, before the election.
I had planned on giving a gift of a subscription to a friend but she may be offended as well.
Please do not print my name.

Noreen Martin11.15.2012

Thanks for the engaging article on Christina Applegate. I am now a bigger than than I was before. I love her show (all that preceeded this one except MWC) and the cast that make her shine. It's great for her to portray a character on TV so close to her real life. Her history was interesting and I had no idea about anythign other than when she had breast cancer. Nice to know more than the bad stuff about celebrities. Thanks again.

Candace Rao11.15.2012

I'm one of your subscribers who read More magazine from beginning to end and I've loved reading it for years! Maybe it's because I'm 61 now, but is it my imagination or are the feature photos on the cover personality getting a little too kittenish? I've noticed this for the past year, at least. These are accomplished woman and yes, very beautiful. But why are they photographed in provacative poses for me?

leanne 11.04.2012

It's good Pamela Satran recognizes pet ownership comes with responsibility. I wouldn't try to talk her into adopting a homeless pet since she's already weighed her interest level and found it wanting. But this "humor" writer rubbed me the wrong way with her selfish focus. I guess I was too tired from my week volunteering at our local animal shelter to find levity in her topic. It's likely that seeing perfectly adoptable but unwanted puppies, kittens, cats and dogs put to sleep day after day has rendered me unable to be lighthearted about the subject. Could you pass this message along to the writer for me? When she's feeling great, enjoying her freedom and wearing her hair-free black chic clothes, could she totter over to her checkbook in her mid-life heels and write a check to her local animal shelter so that the animals that aren't getting adopted can enjoy one more day too? Thanks!

Susan Asnes10.30.2012

As a socially conscious vegan, I would be over-the-moon if just once you would feature a spread of vegan meals/recipes and vegan makeup/clothing. Is it too much to ask?
I converted to a vegan lifestyle on Jan 1, 2011 thanks to Alicia Silverstone's inspiring book: The Kind Diet as well as her blog: The Kind Life. Prior to that, I was a dairy eating vegetarian. Not long after adopting a vegan lifestyle, 15 lbs melted off of my body without even trying. My skin absolutely glows. I feel wonderful and I have oodles of energy. Personally, I think I look better now at 45 than I did before I became a vegan.
It seems to only make sense that if you care about your health, your longevity, and the impact you are having on the planet, well then adopting a vegan lifestyle is the only way to go.
I won't bother promoting my blog in this comment but perhaps Alicia's blog and book will inspire you.
My two cents.
Susan Asnes
Boston, MA

carrie shapiro10.27.2012

I love More magazine and feels this fills a true need that's lacking for women 40 and OVER who still want beauty tips, wardrobe advice and how to keep current on all topics. My frustration is the lack of reality for the high end designer clothes shown that most of your readers can't afford. C'mon More! Get real and help the everyday woman look pulled together with affordable clothes from basic department stores in our neighborhoods including the Targets and Marshalls around us!

Czgirly 10.26.2012

I just finished reading the article in the November 2012 issue by Pamela Redmond Satran. That one page could have been could have been used to encourage people to (1) Support their local spay/neuter programs. (2) adopt a dog from their local rescue or human society. (3) donate time or money to support animal rescues. (4) Help to stop puppy mills. But instead, ignorance prevailed and selfishness prevailed.
But I am positive that any Rover, Spot, Fido, Rufus or Lola that she didn't adopt, was a very lucky dog.
But please know that those of us who love our pet "children" are so much more blessed in our lives with our pets. I would rather have my Golden Retriever's hair on my clothes than baby puke or a leaky diaper. The unconditional love of a dog is heartwarming and has a positive effect on your health.
But hey, for all the dogs who are in shelters now due to the economy and job loss just lost a chance at being adopted and getting a second chance at life due to your shallowness. I see at the end of the article that you are the author of a new humor book "Rabid: ......". I saw no humor in your half page in this magazine so I can't imagine how you could say anything positive about owning a dog in a whole book.

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