At first I was struck by your editorial, because I have a 16 year old who will soon be gone as well, and then what? I have a nine year old as well, but I'm 50 now, so will I be vibrant and energized the same as I was with my first child? However, in the last four weeks, I have lost four loved ones. At your first mention of the "empty nest syndrome", I gasped, a little pain, knowing it was coming with my oldest. But then bigger pains came; a lost father, aunt, a family dog put down, a friend's 35 year old son dying unexpectedly, and lastly, a 10 year old neighbor girl who died of cancer. So you asked in your article, how are we navigating life's turning points?
My answer is not simple. Yet, I am finding strength at my age that I never knew existed. Forget the 16 year old drama that "this last breakup is going to condemn me to a life being alone forever"; because I know better. Not, that "mommy I have no friends in the class this year so no one like's me"; because I know better. It hurts. It hurts for your kids growing apart from you; it hurts from losing loved ones. However, there is joy in the growth, if one can find it. Yes, we are not the 20 something on TV that look amazing. But who wants that angst that comes without knowing who you are and where you are going? At our age, we already know who we are. My son will go to college - probably in another country. I could cry, or I could celebrate the opportunity he has. I choose to celebrate for him. I know my younger one will get through his turmoil, because I've already seen the first one do it, and know better. That is a comfort that a first time parent does not have. And I know that losing loved ones isn't a tragedy, but a gift that we should celebrate that we had them at all.
So in my first year of 50, I continue to do my job as a Parent Liaison at two public schools, be a manager of a Taekwondo Studio, and in the meantime, (yes, this is a true midlife crises:) I got my real estate license, and for fun became an ordained minister. Just because I'm becoming an empty nester, does not mean I can't continue to grow and have new experiences. Our lives are meant to be filled, and our children are meant to be out in the world.
Just a thought.
I was shocked to see the cover of the most recent issue of More magazine stating "How to age well at 30, 40, 50". What happened to women in their 60's? I, along with several of my 50/60 year old friends will be canceling our subscriptions as it is obvious we are no longer relevant to your publication.
What the heck?
This magazine has always been about women 40 and over. How in the heck has it started to slip into what it said it did not want to do.
There are WAY TOO MANY magazines which cater to the 30 and under "women."
Get back on course MORE.
As long as More has been around it has been designed for women age 40-plus. I gather you are changing this focus. Last month you included a 32 year old woman in your readers model section, as if it is some great triumph to look good at 32. This month a 36 year old woman graces the cover along with the headline "Age well at 30, 40, 50." Used to, that would have read, Age well at 40, 50, 60. Every woman's magazine out there is aimed at women in their 20s and 30s. I cannot tell you how angry I am that you are changing More to focus on that demographic. I have always appreciated reading about women my age or older and what they've learned, their life philosophies, etc. I appreciate learning what they do to continue to look good. I am not interested in reading about a thirty-something woman's "battles" with aging or raising kids. Again, that is available in all the other magazines out there. What a slap in the face to all of your readers. Thanks for making us invisible all over again.