We Hear You! Letters from Our October 2012 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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As always, I enjoyed your letter this month. As I am sitting in the Barcelona airport reading your letter, I just had to write to you. Of course, the three-hour layover might have had something to do with that.  :)

Throughout my life, I have always appreciated my women friends, their support, encouragement and understanding. We have helped each other during the good times and bad times.

Three years ago we retired and moved two hours away from all my lifelong friends. Wasn't sure I was going to meet new friends that were "a match." You are right on target, in that meeting new friends that can click with my husband and me is not an easy task.

I am so happy to say I have met a whole new group of wonderful women. The gym provided an outlet to meet some like-minded women, along with tennis, which I had not played in 25 years. One of the ladies from the gym told me about a website called Meetup.com. This is a site that offers an avenue to meet new friends by joining up with strangers to hike, bicycle and just have fun. Check it out if you haven't already.

The past three years I have met some great women at More's Miraval event and continue to keep in touch with them. Looking forward to seeing you this year too.  :)

I still cherish my old friends and make sure to get together as often as I can. Cannot imagine life without these wonderful friends. So, as you can see, it is not hard to find new friends; you just need to "open yourself up and look around you." Take care!

--Deb Dalke

I could really relate to your recent editorial about friends. They are so important in later years of life. I am drawn to strong, intelligent, independent women—and have a number of good friends who fit this description. They are women who have survived many of life’s challenges yet live well in spite of their years. Attitude plays an important part in life and friendships!  Thank goodness for friends!


I just received my October issue of MORE magazine. I love Salma Hayek on the cover. I read the article and enjoyed it. Yet my comment is regarding the article written by Jenny Allen (commencing on page 98).

GREAT article! I could really identify with her with respect to the title of the article, “The Cat on My Head.” Once you’re diagnosed with "the BIG C," it takes a little time to get use to hearing that word and then accepting that you have been diagnosed with it. A million thoughts run through your mind ... Not to be insensitive to anyone who has or has survived Cancer. It really comes down to a state of mind. This may sound harsh, but what I had to decide was one of the following:

1. I'm victimized by Cancer.

2. I'm a Cancer survivor.

I decided I was going to be a survivor. I am one of five members on my paternal side who developed Cancer between the ages of 38 and 48. I am one of two survivors of the five family members. I'm currently declared in remission, which I wear as a badge of honor and courage, and I decided to create awareness through wearing my baldness to family functions to bring about awareness. If anything, I encourage women to create awareness among family, friends, peers and acquaintances. This is a disease that is still killing too many of us. Beauty is not in our hair, whether it’s on our heads or our face. Beauty is in our strength as women who can stand up and fight against a formidable enemy. I wore my BIG EARRINGS and went BALD. I received looks of admiration. Now there were days I wore my cotton hats to forgo sunburn (not a good thing when receiving chemo). I also had my rough periods due to the aggressive treatment but looked forward to the good days. Just remember, we are still the beautiful women we were before Cancer, except we have grown stronger and wiser.

Laugh, enjoy companionship. Whether its with family, friends or a support group. I did it all and I found that other woman and men had it worst than I and I found myself lending support to them. That made me feel even better. When life gives you a pile of lemons, go to town and start making lemonade, lemon madeleines, lemon meringue pie, etc. ... Sweeten it up! When you survive Cancer, you feel you can conquer most anything.  


Share Your Thoughts!


Iris 11.05.2012

Well, the article A FIELD GUIDE TO THE MATURE MALE, to me, was disrespectful to men, disrespectful to my husband, and, frankly disrespectful to me. There was NOTHING positive in this article and I didn't find it funny. I found it offensive.
Have I gotten too old for MORE Magazine? I didn't think so. At 61 yrs young I still work part time, I go to the gym, I know how to have a good time.
I am disappointed.

Amy Kar10.26.2012

I found so much meaty stuff to read in the October issue. You seem to put the more frivolous articles up front, but I do enjoy the occasional makeup info, even if I don't spend quite so much on the stuff!
But I'm really writing to say how much I got out of reading the piece on sex trafficking, the piece on Isabel Wilkerson/Richard Wright in Paris, and the interview with Salma Hayek. They were all thought-provoking articles, and more important than "Hail to the Sheath;" granted, the women on TV need to look good for the cameras, but are they really purchasing most of their clothes from SFA, shoes from Jimmy Choo, and jewelry from Tiffany, or was that just magazine-sponsored for the photo shoot?!
As for the "Mature Male" thing - just silly and fun, if a little hyperbolic; I see no harm in it if you don't take it seriously!
I'm now officially in my sixties, having just turned 61 this week, but I still think there's enough in More for me (how I chuckle when I read, "This is what 42" looks like - just wait for menopause, honey!). I like the serious articles and I always read nutritional information (even though I get CSPI newsletter and often know more than your articles tell us!).

L 10.25.2012

This is a comment regarding your article on our first lady's article!! We elect a president not a first lady and our president is well payed for his service along with many wonderful perks the whole family endures.
Although the first lady job is not easy we must remember that it comes with a choice before taking it!! Our first lady receives many wonderful perks that include many trips around the world along with wearing and experiencing a most glamorous and expensive lifestyle which offer many great opportunties that strengthen her wordly experience and leave plenty of open doors for her future especially after she leave this honorable job. Yes indeed a stay at home mom can only dream of such a fascinating and fulfilling job as we do dont get paid and have no perks and do a heck of alot more scarificing!!! imagine the mom who works full time and still has to come home after a full day and atill play the role of an unpaid stay at home!!!! Yes indeed, no one promised the political world to be a rose garden afterall what job is? The one with no pay and many perks or the one with pay and no perks and lets not forget the hardest job the one of them all the no pay, no perks and alot of heck of alot more scarficing!! One day there will be a women president along with a first man (HOW SWEET THE SOUND) and he will reap the many benefits and great opportunities this great service for the people has to offer without pay!!!!! Never worried about any first lady regardless of their backgrounds before entering into this great service for the people because they are all well taken care of while they are in and are always well taken care when they come out, smelling like that wonderful fresh rose we all dream about!!!!!!

Mitzi 10.20.2012

I thoroughly enjoyed the article on the woman combatting sex-trafficking. For once, you profiled a woman who is not a fashion plate with a perfect figure and tons of money to throw at uncomfortable shoes. Please - more stories about real women making a difference!
Notice a bit of "mission creep" in the past few issues......featuring more under 50 women and over. Having second thoughts about your audience, are you?

Marianne Harmon10.20.2012

I had a subscription to More a few years ago but cancelled it because I didn't think it represented me well at all. I saw Salma Hayek on the cover of October's issue and picked up a copy out of curiosity. When I read through it, I remembered why I cancelled my subscription previously. In your article, Hail to the Sheath: Reporters Wear This Season's Best Silhouette, it was remarkably noticeable that you included all major networks except Fox News. You had women from PBS, MSNBC, CNN, NY Times, Washington Post, CBS This Morning, and Politico.com, all left-leaning, if not tilting, organizations. Are you trying to purposely limit your audience to less than half the country? Be inclusive, not offensive.
Marianne Harmon
Severna Park, MD

Liz 10.06.2012

Like many other readers whose comments I’ve read here, I was surprised to find something as callous and offensive as “Guide to the Mature Male” in this magazine. Hey, like most of the women who read this, I have a guy and he's pretty great, or I wouldn't have chosen him.
This is typically the one magazine that I read cover-to-cover, have recommended on many occasions, and have given as a gift to many friends and family. I still enjoy many of the features and articles in it. I always laugh at the high-end fashion—over $1000 for a pair of shoes, a handbag? Are there really women who can’t find enough useful things to do with aalllllll their money that they would spend like that? But one trend I’ve seen lately that I really don’t like is the mind-numbing number of ads up front. The September issue was the worst—FOURTEEN PAGES OF ADS before getting to the table of contents? —what is this, CosMOREpolitan?

Leann Holcomb10.02.2012

I have always enjoyed reading More magazine until this month. I found "Kathy Griffin's 7 reasons not to date a man over 40" vulgar, offensive, and not at all what I expect to find in a magazine that targets "women of style and substance". I would expect this from one of your trashy competitors. If this is the direction your magazine is going I'm sad to say I will not be going with you.

Robbie Davis09.29.2012

I read the article on concierge medicine with interest. I converted to a concierge plan a number of years ago to follow my long-time GP. Although I truly appreciate the perks of the system (and they have been very helpful on a number of occasions), I feel very guilty that I should be able to get better health care merely because I can afford it. This speaks to the wider issue of why we desperately need health care reform.

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