As always, I enjoyed your letter this month. As I am sitting in the Barcelona airport reading your letter, I just had to write to you. Of course, the three-hour layover might have had something to do with that. :)
Throughout my life, I have always appreciated my women friends, their support, encouragement and understanding. We have helped each other during the good times and bad times.
Three years ago we retired and moved two hours away from all my lifelong friends. Wasn't sure I was going to meet new friends that were "a match." You are right on target, in that meeting new friends that can click with my husband and me is not an easy task.
I am so happy to say I have met a whole new group of wonderful women. The gym provided an outlet to meet some like-minded women, along with tennis, which I had not played in 25 years. One of the ladies from the gym told me about a website called Meetup.com. This is a site that offers an avenue to meet new friends by joining up with strangers to hike, bicycle and just have fun. Check it out if you haven't already.
The past three years I have met some great women at More's Miraval event and continue to keep in touch with them. Looking forward to seeing you this year too. :)
I still cherish my old friends and make sure to get together as often as I can. Cannot imagine life without these wonderful friends. So, as you can see, it is not hard to find new friends; you just need to "open yourself up and look around you." Take care!
I could really relate to your recent editorial about friends. They are so important in later years of life. I am drawn to strong, intelligent, independent women—and have a number of good friends who fit this description. They are women who have survived many of life’s challenges yet live well in spite of their years. Attitude plays an important part in life and friendships! Thank goodness for friends!
I just received my October issue of MORE magazine. I love Salma Hayek on the cover. I read the article and enjoyed it. Yet my comment is regarding the article written by Jenny Allen (commencing on page 98).
GREAT article! I could really identify with her with respect to the title of the article, “The Cat on My Head.” Once you’re diagnosed with "the BIG C," it takes a little time to get use to hearing that word and then accepting that you have been diagnosed with it. A million thoughts run through your mind ... Not to be insensitive to anyone who has or has survived Cancer. It really comes down to a state of mind. This may sound harsh, but what I had to decide was one of the following:
1. I'm victimized by Cancer.
2. I'm a Cancer survivor.
I decided I was going to be a survivor. I am one of five members on my paternal side who developed Cancer between the ages of 38 and 48. I am one of two survivors of the five family members. I'm currently declared in remission, which I wear as a badge of honor and courage, and I decided to create awareness through wearing my baldness to family functions to bring about awareness. If anything, I encourage women to create awareness among family, friends, peers and acquaintances. This is a disease that is still killing too many of us. Beauty is not in our hair, whether it’s on our heads or our face. Beauty is in our strength as women who can stand up and fight against a formidable enemy. I wore my BIG EARRINGS and went BALD. I received looks of admiration. Now there were days I wore my cotton hats to forgo sunburn (not a good thing when receiving chemo). I also had my rough periods due to the aggressive treatment but looked forward to the good days. Just remember, we are still the beautiful women we were before Cancer, except we have grown stronger and wiser.
Laugh, enjoy companionship. Whether its with family, friends or a support group. I did it all and I found that other woman and men had it worst than I and I found myself lending support to them. That made me feel even better. When life gives you a pile of lemons, go to town and start making lemonade, lemon madeleines, lemon meringue pie, etc. ... Sweeten it up! When you survive Cancer, you feel you can conquer most anything.