We Hear You! Letters from Our October 2012 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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One tremendous issue that is always the elephant in the room is our weight. Sure, women in their sixties lose weight successfully, but look at the majority of women in this growing category. We have spent our live as professionals, dressing up to date and relatively slim. Well, going to the gym three or four times a week no longer maintains that look, and all we have to do is get a whiff of anything with an ounce of fat or sugar and it appears on our midriff or hips never to be “worked off.” What are we to do without destroying our health? We can no longer go on crash diets and expect our bodies to keep going. This is a whole new world for us, and we need help.

When you do approach our unique issues it is tacked on to the end of an article for the forties. So much like the afterthought we seem to be now.  How about some articles specifically for us? I have been a subscriber from the beginning.

Kathy Griffin isn't funny, and I am highly offended about what she wrote about men over 40. I will be married for 32 years this October. We are still very happy. She isn't mature enough or enough of a woman to be married to a man over 40.

--M.E. Steinhart

I must first say that I do love your magazine. So consider this a fan letter first...

However, Kathy Griffin's seven reasons not to date a man over 40 REALLY seemed derogatory to most men. Women of style and substance should celebrate the differences between men and women. I would like to give a shout-out to all the handsome waiters at Olive Garden and the over-40 guys who excercise and work to maintain a youthful appearance. The comment about their balls? Kathy, you need to have your mouth sewn shut! The comment about sending their children to a Swiss boarding school? Please, save our children from women like this. PLEASE do not EVER give this woman another platform to bash our guys. Shame, shame!

--Clara Ward

I'm writing to you regarding your article “A Field Guide to the Mature Male.” I cannot express to you how incredibly offensive I find this article. As the owner of a hair salon, I receive quite a few magazines geared toward women. Recently I started receiving More and initially thought it seemed rather interesting.  I couldn't believe the poor taste of this article. I found it even more offensive as I am 48 years old and, according to this article, apparently falling apart at the seams. The objectification of men in this article is really revolting. Given that I spend the majority of my time with women, I think I have a pretty good feeling for their attitudes. If such an article were written for men about women with these terrible stereotypes, there would be hell to pay! I hope that the next time someone suggests writing an article about men, you think about it much more carefully.
--Terrence Otis

I have subscribed to More for years and really enjoy the magazine. However, I thought the article in the October issue on “The Mature Male” was vulgar and sexist. SO not up to your usual intelligent journalistic standards. Imagine if a magazine printed a multipage article on “A Field Guide to the Mature Female” ridiculing menopausal bellies, whiskery chins, skinny legs, thinning hair, falling breasts, dry vaginas, Stages of Women, sexual response at different ages, male equivalent comic of Kathy Griffin listing reasons not to date an over-40 female, "just how mature is she" and estrogen loss. I expect there would be an uproar from your staff about the poor judgement used by the female-bashing magazine. I expect more from More.
--Cynthia, MSW

Today I received the October issue of More in  the mail. As usual, I did a cursory scan of the pages, looking for the articles I might want to spend more time on at day's end. And, as usual, I found an article that, although I'm sure you didn't mean to be political, to be just that.

I have been a subscriber to More for a number of years. In the past, I have been prepared to ignore its lack of coverage on, shall we say, more conservative women compared to liberal ones. Not so anymore.

What’s your reaction?

Comments

Iris 11.05.2012

Well, the article A FIELD GUIDE TO THE MATURE MALE, to me, was disrespectful to men, disrespectful to my husband, and, frankly disrespectful to me. There was NOTHING positive in this article and I didn't find it funny. I found it offensive.
Have I gotten too old for MORE Magazine? I didn't think so. At 61 yrs young I still work part time, I go to the gym, I know how to have a good time.
I am disappointed.

Amy Kar10.26.2012

I found so much meaty stuff to read in the October issue. You seem to put the more frivolous articles up front, but I do enjoy the occasional makeup info, even if I don't spend quite so much on the stuff!
But I'm really writing to say how much I got out of reading the piece on sex trafficking, the piece on Isabel Wilkerson/Richard Wright in Paris, and the interview with Salma Hayek. They were all thought-provoking articles, and more important than "Hail to the Sheath;" granted, the women on TV need to look good for the cameras, but are they really purchasing most of their clothes from SFA, shoes from Jimmy Choo, and jewelry from Tiffany, or was that just magazine-sponsored for the photo shoot?!
As for the "Mature Male" thing - just silly and fun, if a little hyperbolic; I see no harm in it if you don't take it seriously!
I'm now officially in my sixties, having just turned 61 this week, but I still think there's enough in More for me (how I chuckle when I read, "This is what 42" looks like - just wait for menopause, honey!). I like the serious articles and I always read nutritional information (even though I get CSPI newsletter and often know more than your articles tell us!).

L 10.25.2012

This is a comment regarding your article on our first lady's article!! We elect a president not a first lady and our president is well payed for his service along with many wonderful perks the whole family endures.
Although the first lady job is not easy we must remember that it comes with a choice before taking it!! Our first lady receives many wonderful perks that include many trips around the world along with wearing and experiencing a most glamorous and expensive lifestyle which offer many great opportunties that strengthen her wordly experience and leave plenty of open doors for her future especially after she leave this honorable job. Yes indeed a stay at home mom can only dream of such a fascinating and fulfilling job as we do dont get paid and have no perks and do a heck of alot more scarificing!!! imagine the mom who works full time and still has to come home after a full day and atill play the role of an unpaid stay at home!!!! Yes indeed, no one promised the political world to be a rose garden afterall what job is? The one with no pay and many perks or the one with pay and no perks and lets not forget the hardest job the one of them all the no pay, no perks and alot of heck of alot more scarficing!! One day there will be a women president along with a first man (HOW SWEET THE SOUND) and he will reap the many benefits and great opportunities this great service for the people has to offer without pay!!!!! Never worried about any first lady regardless of their backgrounds before entering into this great service for the people because they are all well taken care of while they are in and are always well taken care when they come out, smelling like that wonderful fresh rose we all dream about!!!!!!

Mitzi 10.20.2012

I thoroughly enjoyed the article on the woman combatting sex-trafficking. For once, you profiled a woman who is not a fashion plate with a perfect figure and tons of money to throw at uncomfortable shoes. Please - more stories about real women making a difference!
Notice a bit of "mission creep" in the past few issues......featuring more under 50 women and over. Having second thoughts about your audience, are you?

Marianne Harmon10.20.2012

I had a subscription to More a few years ago but cancelled it because I didn't think it represented me well at all. I saw Salma Hayek on the cover of October's issue and picked up a copy out of curiosity. When I read through it, I remembered why I cancelled my subscription previously. In your article, Hail to the Sheath: Reporters Wear This Season's Best Silhouette, it was remarkably noticeable that you included all major networks except Fox News. You had women from PBS, MSNBC, CNN, NY Times, Washington Post, CBS This Morning, and Politico.com, all left-leaning, if not tilting, organizations. Are you trying to purposely limit your audience to less than half the country? Be inclusive, not offensive.
Marianne Harmon
Severna Park, MD

Elizabeth 10.06.2012

Like many other readers whose comments I’ve read here, I was surprised to find something as callous and offensive as “Guide to the Mature Male” in this magazine. Hey, like most of the women who read this, I have a guy and he's pretty great, or I wouldn't have chosen him.
This is typically the one magazine that I read cover-to-cover, have recommended on many occasions, and have given as a gift to many friends and family. I still enjoy many of the features and articles in it. I always laugh at the high-end fashion—over $1000 for a pair of shoes, a handbag? Are there really women who can’t find enough useful things to do with aalllllll their money that they would spend like that? But one trend I’ve seen lately that I really don’t like is the mind-numbing number of ads up front. The September issue was the worst—FOURTEEN PAGES OF ADS before getting to the table of contents? —what is this, CosMOREpolitan?

Leann Holcomb10.02.2012

I have always enjoyed reading More magazine until this month. I found "Kathy Griffin's 7 reasons not to date a man over 40" vulgar, offensive, and not at all what I expect to find in a magazine that targets "women of style and substance". I would expect this from one of your trashy competitors. If this is the direction your magazine is going I'm sad to say I will not be going with you.

Robbie Davis09.29.2012

I read the article on concierge medicine with interest. I converted to a concierge plan a number of years ago to follow my long-time GP. Although I truly appreciate the perks of the system (and they have been very helpful on a number of occasions), I feel very guilty that I should be able to get better health care merely because I can afford it. This speaks to the wider issue of why we desperately need health care reform.

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