When I read “vent” and “positive OR negative,” I was carried away. I overreacted and some of what I said is untrue. For instance, I DO continue to recommend MORE to friends. I was reacting because usually, I love every page of MORE and was just a little disappointed in this issue (for the first time). I apologize and here’s the way I really feel:
To begin with, I LOVED your letter and it has given me REAL food for thought and I have already made a few phone calls to reach out. Thank you for that wake up call.
I always love “Notebook” and sometimes tweet your excellent factoids (and give MORE credit). The Elizabeth Shue interview was typical smart MORE reporting.
Everything was fine until I got to “Talk Back” (Is Siri sexist?). I expected it to be funny, but it just seemed dumbed-down and ho-hum.
In the survey I submitted online, I complained about Stylebook – only because I disliked the cocoon coat, the peplum top, and the winter floral dress. (It is not MORE’s fault that those clothes are not my style).
I LOVED the Soul Cycle story – so well written and it dealt with the Zuckerman issue honestly.
Then I read Joyce Maynard, which I didn’t feel, was her best writing, and there was no real resolution. (I bet she had the drink). I had to ask myself, if it wasn’t a famous author and that story was submitted on spec, would you have published it? (I decided no, you would not have).
“Into the Woods” for some reason didn’t grab me – I kept skimming expecting to latch on – but I couldn’t find my way in. Again, not your fault. Just my personal preferences.
I loved both the Diane Lane and Patti Hansen profiles. Then I complained about the “Swept Away” simply because none of the jewelry was my taste.
I thought parts of “The Next Big Leap for Women,” were brilliant, but the conclusion didn’t do enough (or maybe that was the point?)
I thought Vaginas Rule was really really smart on your part.
I only skimmed “Better off,” because I don’t have female children and have such a wonderfully rich and full life that it couldn’t hold my interest.
Thank you for printing the story of Katie Monroe – what she is doing is SO important.
Then, when I read the foot article and saw that the writer gave ONLY surgery as a solution to Morton’s Neuroma, I was furious. The WORSE thing anyone can do is have that surgery because the scar tissue can often be more painful than the surgery itself. Why didn’t she write about the alcohol shots (guided by imagery) which is safer; and instead of being on crutches (as I was the first time I had surgery), with the alcohol shots, I simply walked out of the doctor’s office – not even limping.
And finally I got angry with “In praise of Vanity” because I’ve read articles on the same subject so much better written and also smart and funny. Again, this is personal taste.
So that’s it – I will continue to devour the magazine and recommend it to my friends; and knowing me, I’ll probably continue to rant and rave whenever you give me a chance.
All the best,
Re: SEP letter from the editor
Fantabulous! And credit to you for learning from P.
Good to be reading More again.
Oh My!!! Where do I even begin?! I just read your wonderful and enlightening article "A cut-the-crap guide to midlife friendship" and it just summed my last year up in a nutshell! I've just gone through a whole new 'shift' in the friendship department realizing I’ve outgrown the "friends you can't really depend on". It's so sad when you can't even come together for even just a few short hours of a women's dinner, shopping, or movie out. If they need to constantly cancel or bail on you at the last minute several times before you can even meet for just a coffee... is it really worth it?? Sometimes, yes.
I get that life happens and everyone's schedules and lives are different... but whatever happened to busy women and lives, but still being there for your friends?