And in that... I've decided that I just need new friends who also share the same belief in that we love our husbands, and our children, but we need to get away every once in a while and just be women too! They will survive for a couple of hours without you... I promise! But with that comes the arduous search for new friends... and though it is easier to get over yourself than it was when we were teenagers... the initial ice breaking is still a little unnerving. And though it's also easier now being older to pick up right away on whether you’re "compatible" or not, it can still be an intimidating task.... though one that will hopefully pay off in the long run with a new best bud (or several for that matter).
So thank you for your words of wisdom... and really hitting home! Bring on the new friends!
Thought the entire issue was warm and fuzzy good. Your overview Letter "A cut-the-crap guide to midlife friendship" was at least in my little opinion the most needed and compelling. For some reason, the closer women get to 55 and older, the sooner too many start spending excessive energy on how soon they can retire, their grandchildren and an abundance of other excuses. Not realizing this destructive self-behavior destroys friendships. For many, not realizing terminating a friendship is right up there with divorce. Thank Heavens for not having to go through the process. For the person realizing there is no longer the common interest once shared, it is exceedingly difficult to vanish from the former friendship. To the person that simply does not understand why the friendship ended or slips into complete denial to the facts, it becomes a mental roadblock.
As a professional, I have had to distance myself from certain former professionals as they aged. I have spent countless amount of time trying to explain some of the reasons women lose friendships as they get older. Many just don't think it out. Therefore, they don't get it. As one gets older, finding a close acquaintance that can carry on a worthy conversation can be a challenge. Consider yourself fortunate to have a great helper with the art.
Thanks for sharing.
I enjoyed your experiment to see if Siri responds to men and women differently, but in her choice of song ("Daisy, Daisy"), she is not as clueless as you think! It was a clever nod to the end of "2001: A Space Odyssey" where HAL (the computer - a distant relative?) sings that song as he is being powered down. No wonder Martin Scorsese has a crush on Siri - she's a film buff!
I didn't want to send feedback via the sweepstakes, because I don't want to have my email and cell number on marketing lists, as per the privacy agreement. But I did want to send some thoughts! So I hope it's ok for me to just email my thoughts like this.
I turned 30 last November and somehow started receiving More magazine right away (I didn't subscribe and I don't know of anyone who signed me up). A little about me, since it may be helpful background: I am not married (yet), have no kids (yet), graduated from Harvard college, live in an apartment in Manhattan with my dog and have a demanding career. At some point I will probably get married, have kids, move to a house and worry about how to pay for college, but realistically I'm nowhere close to that right now. I'm into skin care - including makeup and anti-aging preventative measures - and fashion to a certain extent. I also read and buy a lot of books. I'm athletic: I climb high altitude mountains on vacation, rocks on the weekends, I bike to work and I love the gym.
My general feedback is this - I feel like More magazine doesn't quite know what it wants to be. Is it for 30-something professionals? Moms in their 40s? Stylish women in their 60s? It almost seems like the magazine is trying to be something to everyone for women between the ages of 30 and 70. I find only about 15% of each issue relates to me. (My 62-year-old mother, on the other hand, likes your magazine very much.)
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