We Hear You! Letters from Our September 2012 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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And in that... I've decided that I just need new friends who also share the same belief in that we love our husbands, and our children, but we need to get away every once in a while and just be women too! They will survive for a couple of hours without you... I promise! But with that comes the arduous search for new friends... and though it is easier to get over yourself than it was when we were teenagers... the initial ice breaking is still a little unnerving. And though it's also easier now being older to pick up right away on whether you’re "compatible" or not, it can still be an intimidating task.... though one that will hopefully pay off in the long run with a new best bud (or several for that matter).

So thank you for your words of wisdom... and really hitting home! Bring on the new friends!
Stacy F.

Thought the entire issue was warm and fuzzy good. Your overview Letter "A cut-the-crap guide to midlife friendship" was at least in my little opinion the most needed and compelling. For some reason, the closer women get to 55 and older, the sooner too many start spending excessive energy on how soon they can retire, their grandchildren and an abundance of other excuses. Not realizing this destructive self-behavior destroys friendships. For many, not realizing terminating a friendship is right up there with divorce. Thank Heavens for not having to go through the process. For the person realizing there is no longer the common interest once shared, it is exceedingly difficult to vanish from the former friendship. To the person that simply does not understand why the friendship ended or slips into complete denial to the facts, it becomes a mental roadblock.

As a professional, I have had to distance myself from certain former professionals as they aged. I have spent countless amount of time trying to explain some of the reasons women lose friendships as they get older. Many just don't think it out. Therefore, they don't get it. As one gets older, finding a close acquaintance that can carry on a worthy conversation can be a challenge. Consider yourself fortunate to have a great helper with the art.

Thanks for sharing.
--Gloria Jones

I enjoyed your experiment to see if Siri responds to men and women differently, but in her choice of song ("Daisy, Daisy"), she is not as clueless as you think! It was a clever nod to the end of "2001: A Space Odyssey" where HAL (the computer - a distant relative?) sings that song as he is being powered down. No wonder Martin Scorsese has a crush on Siri - she's a film buff!

Celia Bressack

I didn't want to send feedback via the sweepstakes, because I don't want to have my email and cell number on marketing lists, as per the privacy agreement. But I did want to send some thoughts! So I hope it's ok for me to just email my thoughts like this.

I turned 30 last November and somehow started receiving More magazine right away (I didn't subscribe and I don't know of anyone who signed me up). A little about me, since it may be helpful background: I am not married (yet), have no kids (yet), graduated from Harvard college, live in an apartment in Manhattan with my dog and have a demanding career. At some point I will probably get married, have kids, move to a house and worry about how to pay for college, but realistically I'm nowhere close to that right now. I'm into skin care - including makeup and anti-aging preventative measures - and fashion to a certain extent. I also read and buy a lot of books. I'm athletic: I climb high altitude mountains on vacation, rocks on the weekends, I bike to work and I love the gym.

My general feedback is this - I feel like More magazine doesn't quite know what it wants to be. Is it for 30-something professionals? Moms in their 40s? Stylish women in their 60s? It almost seems like the magazine is trying to be something to everyone for women between the ages of 30 and 70. I find only about 15% of each issue relates to me. (My 62-year-old mother, on the other hand, likes your magazine very much.)

More specific feedback is as follows:

First Published June 28, 2012

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MeeCee Baker09.25.2012

I have been a supportive fan of More Magazine for years and appreciate the tag line: For Women of Style and Substance. When the October issue arrived, I immediately began leafing through the pages. While reading "A Field Guide to the Mature Male", I was floored by the disrepectful and low brow commentary. The magazine of style and substance has quickly morphed into that of the rude and crude. I am very disappointed in the editor's choice and believe an apology is in order. I have taught my teenage daughter to be civil and respectful. The magazine which treats her father in such a manner will no longer by placed on the coffee table for public consumption. Shame of the editors at More.

C Cocco09.24.2012

How and why would you include John Lennon in the Mature Man Hall of Fame for 1980? He physicall abused his first wife, Cynthia. He cheated on her, while still married, with Yoko Ono. And was estrangled with his son Julian. And you consider this a Mature Man? I certainly do not. He did honor or respect either of those individuals.

Mary-Anne 09.23.2012

I loved the outfit feature on page 4 of the September issue (love the skin you're in). I couldn't find any information about it in the article. Can you share who the designer is and where to buy? Gorgeous!

Patty Matteo09.17.2012

I absolutely love More magazine. I have given it to friends as gift for the past few years. I loved your article on Diane Lane. I have always liked her but reading this article has made me love her.
Patty Matteo
Colorado Springs, CO

Patricia B.09.14.2012

I'm liking the trend toward publishing articles with a little more substance. In particular, September Issue, "The Lawyer of Last Resort". Excellent article, excellent writing. It's nice to look at the pictures of all the lovely things to have and buy, but for real interest, the in depth articles are my favorite. Thank you!

Hi Sue Gilfoy, Sorry you're having trouble with the survey. We just checked and it looks like it's still opened. If you'd like to still take it, you could do so here: more.com/september-2012-survey. Thanks for the feedback! --MORE.com Editors


I am really tired of a general interest women's magazine, most of which I very much enjoy, using many articles as a forum to push politcal views and support particular candidates. I will let my subscription lapse the next time it comes up for renewal. I eagerly started reading your article "Why Testosterone is the New Estrogen" and ended up recycling the entire magazine after reading the first page of that article. Statements such as "And as we learned from Barack Obama, it takes only one person to make the picture look different" and then in the next paragraph statements about how wonderful the author believes Hillary Clinton and Nancy Pilosi to be are merely political, and have no place in this magazine. If I wanted to read a political magazine, I would buy one. I do not buy More for this and I do not want to see it, in particular in such a one-sided, biased manner. I am a successful professional woman, and I am a Republican. Please keep in mind that approximately 46% of Americans voted for the Republican candidate in the last election. I am offended by your obvious bias and your assumption, issue after issue, that everyone supports a certain party and the current president. This is not the case and statistics bear this out.

I enjoyed your brief article about the IPhone's Siri (p. 36, September 2012). But you missed the point when Siri sung the 1892 song, "Daisy, Daisy", which is actually called "Daisy Bell". According to Wikipedia (and anyone ever associated with or appreciative of the history of speech synthesis): In 1961 an IBM 704 became the first computer to sing, in a demonstration of Bell Labs' newly invented speech synthesis -- and the song was "Daisy Bell". In the 1968 film 2001: A Space Odyssey the intelligent HAL 9000 computer during its deactivation loses its mind and degenerates to singing "Daisy". The reason the computer reverted to singing this song, according to the film, was because it was one of the first things HAL learned when it was originally programmed. The author of the story, Arthur C. Clarke, had seen the 1961 demo. So Siri was reminding you of her heritage, which is kind of sweet.

chloe dreyfus09.02.2012

Just a note regarding teh Notebook item "Is Siri sexist?" In the movie 2001, when HAL the computer is being decommissioned, he regresses through his acquired intelligence. At one point he sings "Daisy," which was taught to him by his programmers in Uranna, IL, meant to be a dispaly of nuance and inflection. All 2001 fans - male and female -- appreciate the reference.

Sue Gilfoy08.30.2012

Just read the September issue and went on line to take the survey which is supposed to be open till 9/30. It is 8/30 and the website tells me the survey is closed. Why didn't you let it run till the date noted in Sept. issue? Anyway. . . a few comments. I have enjoyed your magazine for several years although I agree with a few of reader comments that it seems to be featuring younger women every month. What happened to celebrating the women who are in their 60's, 70's and even older? Surely there are some great "really" older women. Not every woman over 60 wants to be hidden away with a bag over her head. Many of us are proud of what we are doing and are living busy, vital lives - not sitting around waiting to get discarded. I enjoy many of your articles but find so many of your articles on fabulous fashions and beauty products to be way, way toooo expensive for the average woman of almost any age. In some issue your editors should challenge themselves to dress a woman head to toe for,say, less than $200 and look fabulous. Have you ever heard of resale? There are just as many classic styles just waiting to be discovered there as at Saks 5th Avenue or other high end stores.

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