I'm Not Invisible

I refuse to let age pull me down, and I plan on living a healthy life.

by R • More.com Member { View Profile }
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I'm an introvert by nature. Big time. I have a very small social circle, and I am not afraid to be alone.

But I don't want to be invisible.

At the risk of raising eyebrows or generating negative comments, there's an observation I want to make. This is based on my own experience. Women, as they grow older, tend to become invisible.

When we are teenagers, and in our 20s or 30s, most of us don't need to do much to get the attention of others. Throw on some makeup or wear a cute outfit, and you're good to go. We are all beautiful in society's eyes, simply because we are young and energetic.

Fast forward to our 40s, 50s and beyond. Now we've been in the real world for a while. Work is demanding, families tend to take precendence over self-care, and we start to show our age. You see this in Hollywood, where one-time sexy leading ladies start taking on "mature" roles, or simply fade away. Those of us in the "real world" may or may not take as much time tending to our personal appearance, and we can't quite pull off all of the new fashions.

What happens? We start to become invisible. Strangers either don't notice us or they look beyond us to the cute girl a bit farther away. It's easy to fade away into the background and let the world go on without us.

The good thing is that most of us now have enough confidence in our own abilities and self that we don't care. I don't. Not that much. It's actually very liberating knowing that I can go out without makeup, and no one will notice. On the other hand, I'm still here, and I'm way too young to disappear from society. So, I focus on healthy living.

You can embrace healthy living at any age. You can do it alone, but there are plenty of people — your age and younger — who are playing the same game, and you can join in. Reading and commenting on blogs (and finally starting my own), entering races and taking yoga classes are all things I've done to stay visible and remain a meaningful part of the world. And you know what? I find that some of my shy tendencies are going away. I look around, and I see how much I'm learning from people of all ages, how much I can contribute, and how much fun I can have. And I see that, when you find the right mix, no one cares how old you are or what you look like. You aren't invisible. You are part of something bigger. You become healthier, stronger and more relevant — not less.

Don't let age pull you down. Live a healthy life, whatever that means for you, and stay in the moment.

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