Your Aim........

by Donna Beck • More.com Member { View Profile }

  

  

  If you aim for nothing that is exactly what you will get…. People who have achieved their goals knew what they wanted in the first place. They decided what to go after, and they went after it.

 

Many people resist goal-setting because they assume it leads to a formula-driven, highly uncreative life. Actually, the exact opposite can be true. People who passively assume that everything will somehow all work out in the end can hardly be termed creative. They’re not creating their lives, they’re just hoping against hope that something good will happen to them.

 

 It’s fashioning and molding the life of your choice. It’s approaching your life the way an artist might stand before a new canvas, on which a beautiful painting can be crafted. There are other useful metaphors for creativity in goal-setting. The rudder of a plane, for example, is small and rigid, like a short term goal you might accomplish in just a day or two. But the rudder can turn the plane in any direction the pilot chooses. In that, there’s a great deal of freedom and flexibility. Once you set a goal, you can adjust and fine tune it any way you wish. That’s creativity. And persistence is what allows you to keep progressing, moving toward the goal no matter how many adjustments are required, and no matter how long it takes to accomplish.

 

The mind is the most magnificent bio-computer ever created. But remember, like a computer, it only responds to specific instructions, not to vague ideas. So come alive in 2010!

 

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish; we can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can start a new activity. Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change and set goals. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year. The act of reflecting, thinking, dreaming and planning to be one of the most important exercises you can do that will positively impact the next 12 months.

 Clarify your vision to yourself. Don’t worry about how it will happen right now. Once you have a clear picture of what you want going through your mind, the steps and opportunities to get it will appear. Don’t let anyone talk you out of it! More than likely, they want the same thing for themselves but believe it’s impossible. Deciding what you want is the first step to getting what you want. Don’t put off creating your vision! And, remember, do not neglect to commit yourself to set this time aside, or you will find that the business of life can and will get in the way. When you know what you want, and you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it.

  There may have been times of stagnation and some defeats in the past, but look at your growing victories and use it to wipe a clean slate and design the next year. Remember, one of the most important resolutions you can declare for yourself is personal accountability.

 You can change your life by changing your habits……………sometimes we loose

focus quickly, gets sidetracked or can’t remember why our goals were important in the first place. I believe this happens because there is foundational work that needs to happen before successful goal setting can occur…

  Telling the truth about ourselves. Denial keeps us from the possibility of change—it keeps us stuck in our problems, saps all our energy and can leave us exhausted to say the least. It takes courage to dig deep and allow ourselves to open up to the truth. And while telling the truth might hurt, it is also the first step in getting past the hurt. It opens the door to methods we can use to make effective, enduring changes to improve the quality of our lives.

  Forgive yourself. Before practicing new skills and new ways of being, it’s wise to clean house. We don’t need to beat ourselves up before we re-invent ourselves. We can be totally honest with ourselves and, at the same time, be oh so gentle. While admitting our mistakes, we can treat ourselves with care. After all, everyone makes mistakes.

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