Why do women who cannot achieve an orgasm still have children and sex, and why was the G-spot, which reportedly is in a very difficult and awkward place to find, especially during intercourse, created in addition to the clitoral one? Dr. Shlain proposes that the G-spot, and the orgasm related to it, was created for an entirely different purpose. First of all, let’s define the location of is this famed G-spot.
“In 1944, German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg identified a location in the superior wall of the vagina, just behind the pubic bone, that, when stimulated correctly, produced a vaginal orgasm distinct from the clitoral one. The most advantageous position for its stimulation occurs when a woman straddles the man facing backwards. In this position, his member deeply strokes the area just behind the pubic bone. This position is awkward, and infrequently used for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is that it misdirects sperm from their intended target, the cervix, which lies in an entirely different direction. The only time in the course of a woman’s life span when the G-spot’s remote dense knot of nerves would ever have a rhythmic, extreme pressure applied to it would be in the final push of birth. As the baby head traps the upper wall of the vagina, compressing it against the unyielding junction of the pubic bones, the G-spot’s fortuitous reflex would be set in motion. The function of the G-spot, in my scenario, would be to flood the delivering woman’s brain with endorphin-like substance.”
Okay, this is not what I call scientific evidence, but this theory seems not only logical, but loving. As we all know, labor and delivery are extremely intense experiences, and so is sex. So why wouldn’t Mother Nature in her profound love for us have created a pleasure center for women in what ends up being the most significant experience in a woman’s life? I speculate that most of the pain and horror of present-day labor and delivery is of a cultural/social nature. A gross misunderstanding of a woman’s role not only in society, but in God’s heart.
When we prepare for something we heard is excruciating painful we can only fall into such belief and manifest it. When our body is filled with fears and anxieties not only about the pain but also about our up-coming role as mothers, partners, and breadwinners, our body tenses up and creates a difficult labor. When you feel you lack some or all of your basic human rights (like the right to be here in this world, the right to be loved, or the right to speak your truth) you might also feel you don’t have the right to have the kind of experience you desire, again your body tenses up and you experience a painful birth. When you watch television and see images of painful delivery, or your doctors suggest you take numbing drug to cope with it, your friends urge you to do as they did and order an epidural in the parking lot of the hospital, you get caught in the world wind of circumstances and hearsay and lose yourself in other people’s experiences. Do the work and stand in your own truth knowing that Mother Nature has even placed a special “spot” for you to enjoy your birthing experience.
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