What is romantic?
A bluebird singing in a tree on a spring day.
Lace with the lingering scent of your lover.
Strawberries in cream fed to you one by one.
The night after a rain has washed everything clean.
A warm fire on a cold night.
A good movie and a bowl of popcorn.
Satin sheets and silk pillows.
Candlelight glinting off of crystal.
All of these and more.
Think romance, then be romantic.
Romance is one thing that more people wish they had in their lives. They wish, but they do not know how to do it. There are books for how to put romance back into a marriage, but those are mostly fashioned to put sex back into marriage, not romance. This “primer” was written to include physical intimacy and lovemaking, but that is not the only concern.
Romance is hard work. I am not covering up that fact. You may feel uncomfortable at times, but you will get used to the elegance and grace that will come with practicing romance. It is supposed to be fun and enjoyable so make it that way.
You might want to get together with a friend to go through this book. With an outside perspective of you as you develop your romantic side, you should not overdo or get too sappy. Your friend will enjoy it as much as you will.
Your Romantic Image
Have you ever looked at someone and said to yourself, “S/He is a romantic person,” and have not quite known why, even when you did not know them? The image you project is one that can bring people to you, or have them avoid you because of. A strong personality is not a drawback, as some of the most sought after people can attest to. Their personality takes form in their image.
There are many images that are stereotypes, but then again, they have to start somewhere, don’t they? The “blonde bombshell” from the W.W.II era is still being used in movies, on the runway, and with ad campaigns with good reason—it is a style that is recognizable and will probably never really go out of style. There is the classic “librarian” image that gives the profession a raw deal, for most of the librarians I know do not have the little glasses on a chain or the tightly wound bun. Even with these two examples of images, there is automatic recognition of what is being portrayed.
It is one thing to have an image; it is another to make your image. Some people just go along with whatever they happen to have on them, around them, and in them, and get along famously. The rest of us need a bit of prompting. That is one of the purposes of this series of articles, to help prompt the romantic image you want into being.
I was reminded by a friend that another way of looking at these images is as an archetype, a singular example of what each of the images could be. Psychologists use archetypes to help categorize mental health and how people portray themselves to the world. I think that is exactly what I am trying to create here, but how you can portray yourself through romantic images.
Go through the list of images and the descriptions of them. If you find one that you are most like and are comfortable with, there are corresponding details throughout these articles to help you achieve and keep the image you choose. If you do not feel good about your image after a while, go to one that you might not have chosen before. Try for the complete opposite of your current image. If you want to combine two of the images, try it out. You might find that you gravitate towards one or the other more and more. To develop your romantic image is to develop yourself.
I have written this primarily for women, though there are corresponding images for men, too. Change the gender, and you should be all right.