We Hear You - March issue

Readers respond to the March issue

by MORE readers

Right on the Money
Recently I had to renew my passport. When I compared my new photo with the one from 10 years ago, I saw for myself just how much I have aged! It was a very sobering experience. Then I read Jenny Allen’s piece in your March edition ("Has Anybody Seen My Lost Looks?"). It was right on the money, but better yet, it made me laugh out loud. I’m going to store it alongside my new passport so I can keep
my perspective.
Sharon Loftspring

Laughing ‘til Tears

I cry easily. Any sappy 30-second commercial has me blinking away tears. I also laugh easily. And often. And loudly. But very rarely do I laugh until I cry, which is what happened this morning when I read "Has Anybody Seen My Lost Looks" by Jenny Allen. The girl nailed it.
Marcia Hill
White Bear Lake, Minnesota

Rolling on the Floor
My hat is off to Jenny Allen. I boarded a plane, having just left my best friend’s side following the tragic death of her husband. My heart was laden with sadness and I was in desperate need of distraction. I started flipping through the March issue and came upon "Has Anybody Seen My Lost Looks?" It wasn’t long before I was practically "ROFL." Funniest thing I’ve read in a very long time!
Jan Ballman
Minneapolis, Minnesota

Tax Talk
This is the only magazine I read front to back and back to front. I buy products based on your ads and articles. I find myself writing this to you to express my disappointment in one line you wrote. "Who wants to pay school taxes when your kids are no longer in the system?". . . . I understand the context of your article about downsizing and the empty nest. But please do not disregard the future adults who will carry on for us and care for us in our "elder years."
Carol Bechtel 
Euclid, Ohio 

editor’s note: Let me clarify: I believe everyone should pay their taxes and I have always paid mine. We all have to do our part to support public services. Perhaps what I should have written is, "Suburban school taxes are so high that if you don’t have kids in the system, you probably need to face up to the empty nester’s big question: Do you love your home and community so much that you’ll stay regardless of the cost—or is it time to move someplace where the taxes are more affordable?" – Lesley Jane Seymour, Editor in Chief 

Just in Time
Your article about the Eco-Atkins diet was just in time ("Like Atkins, Only Healthier," March 2010)! My daughter has been encouraging me to try a vegan diet, but it seemed so daunting. But after reading your story, I had several ideas for how I can incorporate more vegetarian and vegan foods into my daily routine. Thank you for giving me the tools that I need to try a greener—and hopefully leaner—lifestyle.
Patricia Moore
Winchester, Virginia

Remember the 80s
Just received my March issue of More and once again, the fashion and makeup sections seem to end at women in their 60’s. There are many of us in our 70’s who would appreciate your extending your age line into the 80’s. Please consider it in future issues. Thanks. Otherwise I enjoy the magazine.
A. Schmitt
Branford, Connecticut

It’s Really Okay
I just wanted to thank you for running the "Living La Vida Solo" article in your latest issue. . . . I am 46 and have never been married. So how refreshing and uplifting indeed to read what these woman had to say about their own single situations. I felt a shift inside, a release, a reassurance that the single life I’m living—and have been living—is really okay. And I needed that.
Lee Gallagher
Columbus, Ohio

The Female Gender
I have just been reading the March issue of More and I simply must comment on the choice of words for the title of the article on page 130. The title is, "Living La Vida Solo." It really should be, "Living La Vida Sola," for two reasons. First, ‘sola’ is the correct adjective agreement for the feminine Spanish word ‘vida.’ As the title is a play on the expression, "Living La Vida Loca," you can see how the agreement works. Second, this is a women’s magazine, so let’s keep the focus on the feminine please!
Liza Dufresne
Boston, Massachusetts

Growing Tired of It
Almost 10 years ago (about the time I was turning 40), I thought someone played a trick on me, signing me up for your magazine. Trick or not, I loved it! I have been a faithful follower however (sadly) I’m growing tired of your magazine and let me explain why. When I received your March 2010 issue, I noticed more and more (no pun intended) advertisements. I know this is necessary, however started to count just how many. You have 37 pages of advertisements in your first 62 pages of articles and by the time I got to page 88 in this issue, I was able to count 50 advertisements!!! Also on page 38 you tell me to "consider updating" my classic clothes with a $935 dress and a $1,195 blazer. What market are you going after?? I cannot afford these things, most women like myself who are working and have bills to pay cannot. Why the change …what happened to targeting us women over 40 …the average women making a living and raising our family and telling us how to save, how to go after life with a passion and how to bond with each other??

Okay, off my soapbox. I’m just disappointed the direction you have taken. I have a few years left on my subscription, so I can only hope you will change. Thankfully I only had to flip 12 pages in (9 pages of which were advertisements) to get to the "Editor’s Letter" which is my favorite part of your entire magazine. Lesley Jane Seymour still keeps it real….
Jan Pergament
Livonia, Michigan

Life in the “What’d You Say?” Lane
One million "thank-you’s" to Beth Levine for her article entitled "What’d you say?" The impact of hearing loss on one’s life is immeasurable. Ms. Levine brings light to the importance of not only getting your hearing tested, but doing something about it if a hearing deficit is detected. Thank you for portraying hearing aids as a valuable tool for enhancing one’s quality of life. Thank you, also, for referencing credible organizations such as The American Speech Language and Hearing Association. . . . Hearing loss is invisible, painless, and, therefore, often overlooked.
Aaron T. Gale
Royal Oak, Michigan

Counting the Years
Regarding "Long term relationships…in Hollywood" (pg. 26), Harrison Ford was married to his first wife for 15 years and his second for 21 years. What is "long term" about a 7-year "relationship" that isn’t deep enough for a marriage commitment? At least they are engaged, now. I hope the best for Sandra Bullock but 5 years isn’t long term. If 25 years was the best you could find, perhaps the article should be in the absence of long term relationships in Hollywood.
Beth Johnston
Shelton, Washington

Persevere
I was feeling lost when I received the March issue of More magazine and here it was, an article that described my life and how I feel: "Fired at 50". . . . I came from South America to go to college and I learned English as I was attending school. I got hired by an international company in Atlanta and they sponsored me for a Green Card because I had potential and I was their hardest working employee! I moved to Fortune 500 companies and I moved my way up, not worrying about my ethnicity (I am Chinese and speak Spanish), my imperfect use of the English language, or the fact that I am a woman. But here I am not working and yes, I wondered what I did wrong. I will do what the women in your articles did, I will persevere, pick up the pieces and be successful again, in my own terms. Thank you for the article, it inspired me.
Karina Lung
Atlanta, Georgia

I Have Little Sympathy
Having just read "Fired at 50" (pg. 68), I suggest the women in your article start focusing on how fortunate they are, and get off the antidepressants. Having lost my job at 64, after 39 years with the same company, I now volunteer two afternoons a week for C.A.S.H. (Creating Assets, Savings, and Hope) filing income tax returns for low income (under $42,000) families. I have little sympathy for someone who "had to give up her Manhattan apartment and move into her summer home in New Jersey," or "can no longer afford to pay cash for her daughter’s last 3 years at Smith College." Every day I see women (and men) who are working at low paying jobs or living solely on unemployment, trying to support their children, perhaps going to school nights while working days, often having no healthcare. They are struggling just to put food on the table. Wake up, ladies. You may have lost a very good source of income but, for you, life is still darn good!
Faye Casey
Fairport, New York

Past 56
What a delight that More finally recognized that women are beautiful and active past 56 with this spotlight on the founder of Essie! I have been a subscriber for over three years and find that More consistently ignores those of us in our 60s in its articles. While More does include beauty tips for women in their 60s, I feel most of your articles and fashion suggestions are focused on women in their 40s and 50s.  Please include more information for those of us in our 60s who are reinventing ourselves as we transition to part time work and adjust to retirement incomes, but still want to look stylish and be able to travel. 
Susan
St. Petersburg, Florida 

Never Been Married and Never Been Happier!
Thank you for the great article! At 42, I’ve never been married and never been happier! I enjoy my life thoroughly. After working in the hospice field for 12 years, I’ve recently started my own baking business. I travel when and where I want, and my calendar is filled with dates, social events and vacations. I date successful, intelligent men who respect my independence and give me my space. Leave it to More magazine for finally letting others realize it really is okay to be fabulous and single!!!
Dana Vigilante
Nutley, NJ

Really?
I’ll be the first to agree that Veronica Webb is absolutely gorgeous and does justice to every outfit in your March feature, "Webb Master." But I don’t buy More Magazine to see how beautiful, slender women who look fantastic in anything dress; I buy it to learn how I as a forty-something with a lot to be proud of and a few things to conceal should dress. The Michael Kors dress on page 106 was the final straw: I cannot imagine any woman I know age 40 or older looking anything but ridiculous in that dress… anyone except Veronica Webb, that is. Factor in the $2,200 price tag and really? You have got to be kidding me.
Ruth Shure
Glendale, CA

Deaf to "Law and Order"

I wanted to assure your writer Beth Levine that one should never judge one’s hearing capabilities on "Law and Order." EVERYONE mumbles on that show! I am totally deaf in one ear, and I hear every other show on television, so I’ve given up on that one. Hear that, Director?
Amanda Abel
Sherman Oaks, CA

Home Is Wherever I Am Standing
I am a subscriber and have been for years. I must say that one of the pleasures in opening your magazine is reading the "Editor’s Letter" and seeing your photo. The photo of you is amazing. You look intelligent, thoughtful, concerned, mature. . . I could go on, but it’s a photo that puts me at peace whenever I look at it.

As to why I am emailing you, I loved what you wrote about "home." My mother was married five times and, to be honest, I could not keep track of my last name and where we lived, but now that I am 57 years old and reflect on my adult past, I cannot help but laugh because when I went to New York City my first time, people asked me "where is your home" and I replied "I feel like I am at home now." When I went to Noblesville, Indiana and lived there for a few months, a friend asked where is your home and I responded again "I feel like this is my home." Throughout the years, I’ve come to realize that home is wherever I am. Yes, I was born in Venice Beach, California and love Los Angeles like I love my country, but I have found, quite honestly, that home is wherever I am standing.

I have no college education, so I hope I was able to make you understand what I am trying so hard to say. I love your magazine, and, yes, I feel at home while reading it. Keep up the good work and thanks for taking the time to read this email when you must have so many other important things to do.
Lolly Hellman
Venice Beach, CA

Singling Out Susan
After reading Susan Dominus’ article "Living La Vida Solo", I turned my eyes upward and said out loud… FINALLY. Finally an article that supports single women. There’s nothing wrong with being married, but there’s also nothing wrong with being single, whether by choice or not. I wish American society was not so couple/marriage oriented. I never understood why most people think there’s something "wrong" with you if you’re not married. We can be happy, social and fulfilled being single. Thanks Susan!
Janice Stief
West Grove, Pennsylvania

Congratulations on "100 Spring Essentials at Under $200," featuring smart clothing at truly reasonable prices. Fashion magazines that call a $750 blouse or a $2,000 handbag a "steal!" disdain the average American woman— and show how out of touch they are with reality.

Webb Master had few of the promised to-die-for fashions in cobalt and blue; the blurb and photos did not seem to match. Otherwise March was a superior issue!
JP Greene
Yakima, Washington

Who is MORE For?
I became interested in subscribing to More because the magazine appealed to my age group rather than just the 20 and 30 somethings. Since subscribing, though, I’ve been very disappointed in your publication. Your narrow demographic seems to be middle aged feminists with powerful careers and liberal political leanings. In "Politics and Power" (March 2010), the writer couldn’t wait to denigrate several Republican politicians in describing their indiscretions. Where was the equal treatment for Democrat politicians with their many sex scandals? I am a 50 something married mom with 3 teenaged children and a Master’s degree, trying to get back into the job market. I am also a conservative with a strong religious faith. To alienate me and the millions in my group severly limits your readership! Please cancel my subscription.
Gail Mackensen
Franklin, Wisconsin

Empathy? No. Common Courtesy? Gone
I haven’t read MORE in a year or so and was looking forward to this issue. I read "Fired at 50" and couldn’t believe that you would even consider printing such drivel. A never-married mother at 43, I am hardly unique and I can truly say that I would happily trade places with any of the women in the article. I have been unemployed twice in the past 2 years and am now, just barely employed through a temp agency. I have no benefits, have never been able to afford a home thanks to lax child support enforcement and am trying to look for a college for my almost 17 year old daughter. I just graduated college last March and I spend part of every day sending out resumes on various job sites. I have to stay in Baltimore for another year and a half so that my daughter can finish high school. This recession has taken a lot out of normal working adults, so empathy is hard to come by for people with second homes and the ability to retire early.

You should consider an article reminding everyone about common courtesy, which is severely lacking. I spend more time trying to contact businesses and receiving no feedback before and after an interview. No acknowledgement that your information was received and reviewed and no thank you for taking your time out to meet with us. I follow standard protocol and contact a company after my interview and check in to see where the hiring still stands. The worst part is when the job is back on the job board days later and still no response. I am either too old or too experienced for most positions and am offered far too little money in ones that would bother to consider me. It must be nice to live in a world where I can start my next multimillion dollar business after my executive position was dissolved. Next MORE will suggest that maybe I can land a rich husband instead?
Kimberly Siegert
Baltimore, Maryland

Not Hearing Chatter Is a Serious Matter
I could really relate to the article "Life in the ‘What’d you say?’ Lane" by Beth Levine. I was diagnosed with Otosclerosis four years ago. After examinations by four audiologists and three doctors, I decided to get hearing aids. Did I go into denial? Of course. Did I get depressed? Absolutely. Am I embarrassed? No! The new designs make them almost invisible. And the best part (not fart!) is that I can hear!

But, why do others, mainly family and friends, who know I wear hearing aids, continue to make fun of me? If I say “What?” they ask me if I have my “ears” in. If I don’t hear something, they will ask “You didn’t hear that did you?”, and then laugh. We don’t laugh at Ms. Levine in her “trifocal glasses” or “sensible shoes”. Having a hearing loss isn’t funny. It is frustrating. Like when I drive half way to work and realized my hearing aides are sitting on my dresser at home. It is isolating. Like when I am sitting in a restaurant and only hear parts of the conversation. It is eye (or is that ear!) opening. I now have a greater understanding of what it is like to have a disability.
Nancy Stevens
Clearwater, Florida

First Published Fri, 2010-02-19 13:23

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