We Hear You - June issue

Readers respond to the June issue

by More.com Editors


How She Looks Great

Hello, Whenever I read an article about a woman—especially a celebrity—over 40 I always brace myself for the "still" as in she "still" looks great or has a great body, etc. This makes me so angry! It is condescending and sexist—as if it is somehow shocking that a woman over 40 could have a great body, great style and a beautiful face. I look and feel much prettier and sexier now at age 47 than I did in my twenties. Then, I was pudgy, depressed and unsure of myself. That wore off and I became a lot more comfortable in my own skin and with trusting myself.

Thank you for NOT doing the "still" when describing Sharon Stone. When I read the Sharon Stone article, I read that she looks great at 52—and how! Women look best when we take good care of ourselves. I love magazines and articles that celebrate being your best in a healthy, natural way. Most people who have a lot of work done such as face lifts and botox don’t appear younger to me. They just look like older people who have had work done! It isn’t natural, graceful or sexy. I have seen women in their 70’s that are gorgeous and elegant. Getting older doesn’t mean we have to look frumpy. Thanks for your magazine.
Denise Howell

Stop the Nudity!

Your June issue really disgusted me. It’s bad enough to feature nearly nude celebrities on your cover, but you really went over the line with the trashy nude photos inside of "regular" women. If I didn’t know better, I would have thought that I was reading a men’s magazine or Cosmo. Do you really think that most mature women want to see other women with their clothes off? If you are trying to equate self-esteem and self-worth with sexy – I don’t see the correlation, frankly. So what if these women are survivors of whatever serious life issue. I am too—I’ve been through so much in my life (including struggles with serious chronic illness), that I am constantly amazed (as are others close to me) that I am still very much alive! That doesn’t mean I have to step out of my clothes just to prove I am still here. Please focus on issues women of maturity and substance can really relate to and leave the nudity to Playboy.
Esther Siegel

No Comfort Found
I feel compelled to respond to “My Body as a Work of Art” (June 2010), the experiment to determine if being photographed nude might change a woman’s feelings about her own body. Viewing the photographs themselves, I was left sad: the faceless bodies, slouching, covering themselves awkwardly, burying a face, seemed not to celebrate anything, but actually portray women still struggling with how to feel about themselves. It is in sharp contrast to a piece that appeared in your April 2007 issue, “Body Images”, by Rosanne Olson. Those images are graceful, strong and somehow more whole. Those women speak in a clear voice about their journey to love themselves.

As a psychotherapist, working with women in groups and workshops, I actually use Olson’s book, This Is Who I Am, since its publication two years ago, using the photographs and stories to motivate and inspire. Her powerful images are compelling and so encouraging to other women as they “work” to accept and love themselves. I would refer any woman interested in moving herself forward, to Olson’s book or—more ideally—to her studio for a transformative experience in front of her camera. Thank you for a forwarding-thinking magazine for all women.
Margaret Moore

Time to Voice My Opinion
I am thoroughly disgusted with your June 2010 issue. The photo on the cover with Sharon Stone looked so much like a porn cover that I could not read it on the treadmill at the gym. Then when I saw the nude bodies later in the magazine, I knew I had to voice my opinion. I thought MORE was a nice magazine with articles, ideas and style but not this trash. As far as I am concerned you can cancel my subscription. I do not have my account # at hand but you can cancel my subscription.
Sue G. Tucker
Houston, Texas

A Challenge

Dear Ms. Seymour, The front covers are beyond tiresome. If you want readers who are intelligent, curious, sophisticated women in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, etc., to continue to be subscribers, I don’t believe you will attract us with nude pictures and silly articles about (not very bright) actresses. I suppose we could buy Cosmopolitan or something of that ilk if we like that sort of thing. I really would appreciate a cover showing Hillary Clinton, Sheila Bair, a current serious author or activist (all clothed). I realize that there must be a significant number of readers who like the current cover choices or you wouldn’t continue the trend.

I think I won’t be a MORE reader much longer unless your focus changes and there are enough other like-minded women out there also objecting to gratuitous nudity apparently as the main attraction of the magazine. I have had such high hopes for a publication aimed at my age group. Can you do better? I’m betting that you can.
Kristine Wood
PS I am 62, very thin, very fit, beautifully dressed (so I am told) and take great interest in looking good. (I actually think I look fine when I am undressed. But I wouldn’t appear undressed on the cover of a magazine if I wanted to be taken seriously.)

We Need a More Common Struggle
A few years ago I discovered MORE & loved it. I found inspiration in the articles about how life could be so free & different in my 40s. Then I had [a relative who was] addicted to meth. I am having a very difficult time relating to stories about women who have turned their passions into successful businesses. I know there are many out there like me, who have had to deal with this common phenomenon & are struggling. Please add some stories about real life that women are dealing with. Sincerely,
Kathleen Peck

Biggest Loser Disagreement
Publishing a story about a weight loss camp for seriously overweight people written by someone who is not concerned with her weight but just incredibly narcissistic about it (she mentioned her own BMI several times) was a real low for MORE magazine. I have subscribed for years and while I do not always agreed with the view points of the authors I have found it fun and stimulating to read. This article sickened me. The author, her mother and her sister should be ashamed of themselves-but they will not be.
Dena Broderick
Massachusetts

This Issue is a Keeper!
I found the June issue to be the best I’ve read since I started reading MORE a couple of years ago. Each article was something I was interested in, particularly the article regarding bone drugs. It presented very important information in an understandable yet intellectual way. Secondly, I have always wondering about the Susan G. Komen Foundation and why it seems to ubiquitous. Now I know – another example of what the "power of one" can achieve. And having a Vietnamese daughter-in-law, I was particularly taken with the gorgeous photographs of Vietnam and the accompanying article. This issue is a keeper. Thank you!
Holly Campbell

Models Over Size 2
I have been a supporter of MORE magazine since the first issue came to Canada. As a size 14, 47 year-old female I have to say I am hugely disappointed in your choices of models in your magazine.

I have noticed, especially recently, that yes your models are over 40 but do you have a requirement that they have to be a size 2 to 4? With approximately 30% of our population over size 10 why would you not have at least some models reflect that demographic? You must realize that EVERYTHING looks good on sizes that small but when you have a larger body size you have to be creative in your fashion choices. It would be really nice to be able to use your magazine as a guideline. Dove has a wonderful ad campaign that covers all shapes and sizes. Sincerely,
Deb Grantham

Embarrassing Cover

Dear Friends, Overall I love MORE, but for a magazine intended ‘for women of style and substance,’ your covers are getting worse and worse. I shouldn’t have to hide my copy so that my son or my husband don’t see Sharon Stone’s breasts! I was appalled and embarrassed by the June cover. I hope this is not your intention. I noticed the supermarket copies had a different, modest cover photo. I wish that was what mine looked like. I appreciate the attitude of being comfortable with our bodies but do not wish to receive a magazine whose cover looks more like Cosmo, and would be detrimental to leave around the house in case my husband or son were to see it. Sincerely,
Tina Matteson

Nice Balance
It was good you balanced the self-centeredness of Sharon Stone with the selflessness of Nancy Brinker.
Laurie Gehner
South Dakota

Wondering Whether to Renew
Hello. I am a long-time subscriber to MORE but I’m seriously considering whether or not I want to renew my subscription when it expires in October. Here are three reasons why:

1. The narrative of most of the content in the magazine is "I got married in my 20s, now I’m in my 40s, the kids are out of the house and my marriage is going to hell." There are legions of women that read your magazine who, after marrying in their late 30s, are trying to have children in their 40s. There are very, very few mentions of this trend in your magazine.

2. I was dismayed to get yet another issue of the magazine that features Jamie Lee Curtis on the cover. especially considering that the editors chose to put Pam Grier’s small photo on the inside alongside a small mention about her upcoming book. I’m not sure what the editors are thinking when they decide not to put a gorgeous 60 year-old cinema and fashion icon who’s hot off the heels of a successful HBO show and steamy tell-all book about her life as a celeb in the 70s on its cover in favor of Jamie Lee Curtis. What has Jamie Lee Curtis done in the last two or three years except star in yogurt commercials? Ms. Curtis must have an excellent publicist or a family member on MORE’s editorial board.

3. And, yet again, another Sharon Stone cover. Really?! "Gee, she’s sexy and outspoken" is the best MORE’s editors could come up with? This is just another re-hash of the same old "Basic Instinct" story, and it seems like MORE editors are the only people still interested in Ms. Stone. She hasn’t been in anything interesting in more than a decade.
Rena Jordan

My Inspiration
I just wanted to say that I get a lot of inspiration from your magazine. When I turned 40 I started 365 days of goals to improve myself and prove to myself that 40 can be the best year ever and it has been so far. I get a lot of ideas from your articles. I have done things to improve my family, my looks, my fashion, and so forth. I just wanted to let you know that I love the magazine. 40-years-old is so not old.
Polly Morse

More Goodwin Please
Ms. Seymour, While reading Jan Goodwin‘s article about Vietnam in the June 2010 issue, I found myself myself wanting to read more about her town’s battle over gas drilling. I live directly on the Delaware River in Philadelphia, and my husband and I frequently stay in B&B’s north of New Hope, PA. I love those beautiful small towns and, like Ms. Goodwin, dream of retiring there.

Many people in this area are completely unaware of the Marcellus shale and the potential poisoning of the aquifers that "fracking" presents. With the recent oil spill, people need to also know about the dangers of alternatives as well.
Victoria Mikus

New Faces
Hi there, I am a healthy, active, attractive, 43-year-old that lives in a wonderful community that prides itself on being active. I recently came across your magazine while waiting for a doctor’s. appointment. I was rather intrigued to see a magazine targeted at my age range. I have to admit however, I was instantly turned off by the barrage of ads that featured 20 something year old women. One after another.

I realize you can’t completely control what ads you receive (I myself am a graphic designer that has submitted many an ad to national magazines). I also realize that your average viewer is in a constant search for a product to preserve her youth. But really – seeing all these completely nubile faces, with not even being a decade close to having a tiny wrinkle just seemed to emphasize the fact of my age (and believe me, I have taken pretty good care of myself, but there is a limit to what an average 40+ year old can look like without constant professional help). I personally feel much more comfortable looking at advertisements or catalogs that are really speaking to their audience, ie using models that might be slightly more mature, but have, of course, aged well.

I appreciate you making an attempt to speak to the 40+ audience, but having ads such as I saw, seemed to undermine what you are trying to do, and really seemed to reduce the credibility of MORE. Good luck with your future endeavors,
Lisa
Durango, Colorado

Stop the Pink
I am sick of pink! Especially when I think of all the women I know (and don’t know) who are suffering from so many other cancers. It is admirable the attention Nancy Brinker has brought to Breast Cancer awareness and we should keep the awareness going. However, the ridiculous, over the top saturation everywhere is overshadowing the other cancers that women are dealing with. A close relative of mine was diagnosed last month with terminal Leukemia. My best friend’s sister, who was 41, died in February of Bone Cancer and my neighbor who was 54 died last year of Pancreatic Cancer. Cancer (not breast cancer) is affecting everyone every day. Stop the pink  and start purple which is the universal color for all cancer awareness.
Andrea Bach

Thumbs up to Nancy Brinker
Dear Ms. Seymour, Editor-in-Chief, More magazine, Congratulations on your More magazine for women. I enjoyed your June 2010 publication. Compliments on your article paying appropriate tribute to the work of Nancy Brinker [on] Susan G. Komen for the Cure. She is to be commended for her efforts and major contributions in exploring breast cancer and research. Her heart is definitely in the right place.

Having been in the healthcare/wellness space for the past 30 years I have had the opportunity to work with many men and women who have been challenged by all manners and forms of health issues, including the various forms of cancer. In my experience I have found that the women who are the most successful at reversing and preventing cancer, including breast cancer, appear to be more open to considering a more encompassing paradigm of health and healing than what western medicine (medical model: surgical and pharmacological intervention) offers at this time.
Best in Health!
Dr. Stephen Bizal
Washington, D.C.

Style and Substance
I usually let magazine issues sit for a few weeks, saving them for weekends or vacations or any time I have a few spare moments. For some reason, I grabbed the June issue as soon as it arrived. The article your magazine ran on former nuclear physicist and DNA pathologist Colleen Fitzpatrick (page 42) completely enthralled me…Thank you, More magazine, for featuring someone who truly is a woman of style and substance, as well as a woman of knowledge and generosity. Thank you, also, to Lynn Rosellini for an informative and absorbing piece of writing. Out of the ballpark all around!
Audrey Nicholson

Savvy Bunch
I love, love, love your magazine and have been a subscriber for years. Regarding your Sharon Stone article, I had to laugh at her comments about The Paris Match topless cover, I am sure that she realized it was a very sexual and controversial photo. Just be honest about it- Sharon- you were trying to shock, your career has been based on this type of image. More readers are a savvy bunch, at least be honest, Miss Stone.
Lisa Furnari

A Quick Read

Dear Lesley, I have serious concerns about the June issue — which arrived in the mail yesterday, and which I was eager to read last night. Usually MORE takes me several nights to read, as I savor the wide variety of articles and columns. Except for the piece on Viet Nam (which I’ve saved for later) I finished the entire magazine in an hour. This has never happened before, so this morning I’m reviewing your Table of Contents to see what I liked and what I did not.

The Jill Biden article was interesting, and revealed a different side of her. I enjoyed the piece on osteoporosis drugs, the Prada article and the photo selection of nude women (especially nice). But who in the heck still cares about Sharon Stone? The "Biggest Loser" is not a story for MORE, which is supposed to encourage mature women to be proud of their bodies as they are. "Her Sister’s Keeper" was nice, but not new material. And finally, "Sexiest Stars." C’mon! I really didn’t expect this from a magazine that purports (now) to be "for women of style and substance. . . ." It used to be a magazine that celebrated women over 40. By claiming to be for "women of style & substance," it feels like you’re selling out. I want my old MORE back! Thanks for considering my concern, and best wishes.
Sara Rath
Spring Green, Wisconsin

Handle with Care
Sharon Stone is indeed shameless for flinging a Dior Christal watch into a cement patio. It would be a privilege to own such a magnificent timepiece. Please take that watch from its abusive owner and send it to me; I will treat it with love and respect.
Rosemary A. Mebus
Abington, Pennsylvania

Anti-Arizona
First I would like to say how much I love the magazine. It really speaks to me a woman of 46. I enjoy my subscription and look forward to receiving the magazine each month. I was interested in going to the retreat with More in Arizona but I think More should consider choosing another spa outside of the state of Arizona. I will not attend any event in the State of Arizona until the unconstitutional immigration law is repealed. I hope More will join me and others who are boycotting this state.
LaWanda Edwards

Second Acts, Floating on Air
I just want to thank you so much for your magazine and thesecond acts piece in every month’s issue! It is an inspiration to keep our dreams alive even though we aren’t little girls anymore. I started a blog only a month ago and I can not tell you how much fun I am having and I feel like a different woman. Almost like I have woken up. This morning I did a post on More magazine and your second acts section and just wanted to tell you how much it meant to me. . . . Also, when I saw More magazine was following me on twitter I was floating on air all day.
Kristin

Body Parts
Cover shot of Sharon Stone in a plunging neckline with breasts prominently displayed-check.
More ridiculous shots of Sharon Stone wearing only a shirt, panties and high heels-check.
Photo of Sharon Stone’s Paris Match cover shot with breasts completely exposed-check.

Congratulations! You’ve just reduced an intelligent, interesting woman down to her body parts in a few quick glances. Are these the kind of photos you really think American women are interested in seeing when they buy your magazine? Please. We are more than our bodies and I would have thought that More could go beyond the usual T&A shots used in other magazines and come up with some truly creative shots of Sharon Stone. Apparently not.
Kimberly Lancaster

The Second Lady
I am proud of our Afro-American first lady; but I love Jill Biden. She is an inspiration to all women with her intelligence and style.I hope she continue to encourage and inspire women young and old to achieve their dreams.
Glenn Pope

"Sex and the City" Women
Dear Lesley, I used to enjoy your magazine, but it is increasingly not something I can identify myself with. Publishers like you need to remember that not all of us actually live the lives of "Sex and the City" women. Some of us are just 50+ women with jobs, families, homes, and lives very different than yours in cities like New York, Chicago, and LA. Am I a "modern" woman? Yes, very much so. I am married happily after three tries. I have no children. I am a vegetarian, long-time runner, politically progressive, educated through a masters degree plus 60 graduate hours beyond, not religious, and economically self-sufficient. People say I look ten years younger than I am and I dress accordingly. But I am not interested in Sharon Stone. . . .
Nancy Coscarelli
Attica, Michigan

No Different
I just picked up the June 2010 issue of More at the store today. I always enjoy reading the magazine and this month was no different. I was taken by the Jill Biden article. As a professor at a community college in California, I was happy to see her comment on the important role that the community colleges play in our educational system.
Dr. Jana Gonsalves

See Some New Faces
I have been a reader of More for several years and thoroughly enjoy your product. I would, however, like to see some new faces on the covers, as you seem to repeat more often than not. Props to all the ladies on the previous covers, but there are many more 40plus women that would be fascinating to read about, such as Melissa Etheridge, Felicity Huffman and Sandra Lee, to name a few. Thanks and keep up the great work.
TLR
Los Banos, California

First Published Tue, 2010-06-01 12:04

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