We Hear You! Letters From the November Issue

Here’s what you have to say so far about the November issue

By the MORE.com Editors

Gleeful for Lynch?
I was really happy to see you feature Jane Lynch. She’s everything you covered in the story. I find her Glee character, Sue Sylvester, to be one of the most complex on television. She’s a terror to her Cheerios and Glee kids, but is proud to be an educator. With the Glee writers giving her a sister with Down syndrome, you can see the heart of Sue in those scenes where they interact. Each facet of Jane’s character keeps me interested and impressed with the show. Plus her Madonna rendition kicked butt.
Sheri Jones, Cortez, Colorado
 
Jane Lynch’s Dream Girls
More power to Jane for being “out.” So why on earth would lesbian Jane Lynch be put in a photo shoot with men wearing sexy short shorts? Shouldn’t she have been surrounded by women in bikinis? Next time I want to see her own fantasy shot—a la K.D. Lang and Cindy Crawford!
Beth Hansen, Easton, Maryland
 
Cutting The Cord
Michelle Blake’s memoir "What Your Kids Don’t Tell You Until They’re Grown," couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me. I stress every day over the future of my two boys (ages 13 and 15), wondering if they will ever survive as adults!  It is reassuring to know that there is hope. I need to step back and simply watch instead of worrying, as my husband has been telling me this for time. I just needed to hear it from your magazine!
Victoria Grimes
 
The Real Lynch
While I loved seeing Jane Lynch on the cover in her gold tracksuit and megaphone, I was very disappointed by the inside photos. Perhaps you were trying to present a campy approach, but isn’t there another side of Jane that you were trying to bring forth in the article? Jane’s wedding announcement in the New York Times, along with the photo of her wife and daughter were beautiful and touching. This was something not captured in your article or photos.
Linda Barat, New Rochelle, New York
 
Fantasyland?
Thanks for putting Jane Lynch on the cover and for telling the touching story of her new wife and family. MORE does a great job of treating all women with respect. Although I must admit, I didn’t understand the photos of her with nearly naked men. It seems like that would be more my fantasy than hers! 
Mary Wisgirda, Friendswood, Texas
 
Too Revealing
I find the photographs in the Jane Lynch story to be repulsive and disturbing in a pedophile kind of way. First of all, MORE is a forum for women in their 40s and beyond. I am no prude by any means, however, the scantily clad, very young men photographed with Jane makes this issue one I will toss in the trash.  I for one, am very fond of nice looking age-appropriate men. But these young men photographed are obviously in their 20s (my sons’ ages), dressed in revealing bikini garb. Pa-lease! I had thought of MORE as a very sophisticated and classy magazine, but this article has changed my opinion.
Sharon 
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Hitting Home
I loved your stories in the article “After the Big C.” Thank you to each of the women for sharing their feelings, because they touched me. I lost my mom to cancer a year ago. The letters helped me to understand some of my mom’s actions and explained how and why we all change after a cancer diagnosis. I especially liked the included essay “The Patient Lived, but the Friendship Bit the Dust.” Cancer changes not only the patient and her relationships, but her entire family. Everything was so moving, thank you.
Harriet
 
Who You Calling a Feminist?
At 49, I have taken crap from many men in every job I have ever held. But, you know what? It’s not hard, you just go through it. Because of what I went through, it made me laugh at these so-called feminists in "This is What The New Feminists Look Like." 
These stupid, vapid, shallow women (with the exception of a few), think they can blog themselves through life while pretending that promiscuous sex, guiltless abortions and the condemnation of marriage is the norm? These young women are not enlightened, but are the products of colleges that focus on women’s studies, and every other leftist course that encourages women to think that marriage and motherhood is evil.
In Editor-in-Chief Lesley Jane Seymour’s editor’s letter “Let’s Bridge The Divide,” she seemed more obsessed with getting Jenny Sanford to admit she was a feminist than to just admit her husband was an a__hole and that she responded correctly to his behavior. Why do we as women have to make everything a big deal? Thank God I had two sons, because I would not want to bring up a daughter in this toxic, victim mentality of a society.
Anonymous
 
Rantin’ and Ravin’
??I’m not much on writing rants or raves, however I’ve really found MORE inspiring and encouraging over the years. But the November issue was disappointing. Only two feature articles were worthy of my time: “After the Big C” and "You Can Go ‘Om’ Again." The photography and the gracious studs in the Jane Lynch article made me turn the page without an ounce of curiosity in what she had to say. Since I’m finally making peace with my over 50 body, over 50 husband and over 50 life, this dose of fantasy was a bit over the top for me. The Monica Potter fashion feature, "Diva La Dolce Vita," was sad and depressing in look and feel. For a woman who is “thrilled to save $60 with drugstore coupons,” yet lounging in a “priced on request” brocade evening dress and wearing a $955 evening robe, I find it amusing and unreachable for your average woman.  
Plus, maybe it is time for me to see how the younger women are doing feminism differently? But how does reading about 10 women (99 percent of which are under 30) in "This is What The New Feminists Look Like" encourage me to reinvent myself over 50? I’ll admit, I read the article just to see what I can learn. Too many ads this time, and the content got lost. Sorry, this issue is bound for the recycle bin rather than my “to read again” basket.
Lori Cavicchioni
 
Speaking the Truth
?Thank you for “After the Big C.” I confess that I began the article feeling cynical. I expected the usual shock, battle, triumphant recoveries, and appreciate-life-more narratives. But instead, you printed four very individual descriptions of a life-changing illness and its continuing aftermath. Like writer Julia Glass ("The Years of Magical Thinking,") I am a mother of two growing boys and I cried over the beautifully written and poignant story of her ongoing bargain with fate.
But I was especially grateful for writer Melinda Henneberger’s words in "The Patient Lived, but the Friendship Bit the Dust." For the last two years I have fought against systemic lupus erythematosus, a chronic and debilitating disease. Because it seems like there is never an endpoint for my symptoms and treatments, the experience hasn’t made me a better person either. When you are in a war for your life while trying to also work, raise children, be a good wife and a giving friend, there can be painful and surprising additional losses along with the physical struggles. 
Ms. Henneberger’s article spoke a truth that many of us have experienced. I appreciated that she didn’t pretty it up or blame anyone for the end of that friendship—including herself or the other woman.
Anonymous 
 
A Beauty Spot-On Dispute
I’m afraid the writer of  [Ch-Ch-Changes!] "You’ve Been Spotted" really dropped the ball on this one. The Intense Pulsed Light  (IPL) therapy is a much better treatment for dark or red spots than the Fraxel laser. The writer never mentioned this option! Women look to your articles for complete information and by not giving them that information, you are doing more of a disservice than giving them incomplete facts.
Cynthia Short,?Kingman, AZ
 

First Published Mon, 2010-10-25 13:19

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