We Hear You! Letters from Our February 2012 Issue

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Thank you for your last two covers of More Magazine. It was great to see women of color grace your covers. I am Caucasian, and I use blonde hair dye to give a more youthful touch to my "mature" hair. Yet I cannot identify with the myriad of blonde women that usually are on your covers. I work with a very diverse group of women, ranging from women starting careers in their 20s to women soon to choose retirement. They are also ethnically diverse, and they have enriched my life each working day and year.

Though I had a subscription to More several years ago, I did not renew it when it expired. Part of the reason was the cover image. I wasn't sure to whom the magazine was being marketed, but it seemed all the interesting women I worked with were not included. Your articles seemed to cast a wider net, but I didn't know how women of color would be able to tell that. I hope that you will continue to draw from a diverse group of women to grace your covers in the future. Your magazine has much to offer women from many different backgrounds, and I hope your covers will continue to draw them in.
--Jean T. Giannasi

Thank you for your “Against All Odds” article in the February issue. As someone who has dealt with health issues since I was a teenager, I feel it is important to highlight women who realize that while they have a chronic illness, it does not need to define them as a person.

I know that the idea of ostomy surgery of any type is frightening, so I wasn’t surprised when Dede Cummings said the thought terrified her. Because Crohn’s disease is not limited to one part of the digestive system, ostomy surgery is not necessarily a cure for her disease. However, I would like to reassure people who may need ostomy surgery, that it is still possible to live a full and active life following surgery. After living with Ulcerative Colitis for 10 years, I had an ileostomy at age 23, that was 34 years ago. Since my surgery, I have given birth to three children, actively managed a large grain farm, taught school, traveled, served on volunteer boards, and participated in a variety of sports and exercise activities including biking, snow skiing, swimming, aerobics, and Pilates. The point being, I am able to lead a normal life and am not hindered by the fact that I wear an ostomy pouch 24/7. Life with an ileostomy allows me to actually live my life without the constant pain and the worry about restroom locations that dominated my life through high school and college. There are definitely challenges related to living with an ileostomy; however, I do believe, in my case, the benefits have far outweighed the challenges.

I would be the first to admit that the most important factor that helped me accept my surgery and lead a full active life was the support of my husband. He understood 37 years ago when he married me that I had a chronic illness that may require surgery at some point. Neither of us could have guessed it would come so early in our marriage. Knowing that he sees me as a beautiful and desirable woman has allowed me to accept the bodily changes and inconveniences that come with a surgery such as this.

For those facing ostomy surgery, I suggest visiting the United Ostomy Association of America website, where you will find articles on the various types of surgery and tips on living with an ostomy. To read inspiring stories about people who have had ostomy surgery, check out the Great Comebacks website. We all have limitations, but we also have the choice to move beyond those limitations, whatever they are, and live full productive lives.
--Carol Nelson, Spokane, WA

I was sitting on a beach in Cabo this week when I read your Letter from the Editor in this month's MORE. I actually ran to find my husband and read it out loud. Finally, my frustrating lifetime "malady" that has driven me crazy at times was not only my issue and had some basis in brain chemistry. I always believed it did, but my theory was generally regarded with laughter. At 60, it was no laughing matter to me.

I, too, am ambidextrous, using a pen and fork with my left hand and throwing a ball and using a knife and scissors with my right hand. But, more importantly, I have spent many tearful moments in my car trying to figure out how to get from point A to point B without getting lost. I have no sense of direction and, even if I have been there before, many times I can't remember how to do it again. My husband and sons, all right handed, never could understand why I was so mixed up and would try, patiently, to have me look at the sun and where it was rising and setting to figure out east from west. Believe me, that never worked!

I am the CEO of a pet product company, have been a senior executive in Fortune 50 companies and have made it a habit to let others drive. I despise driving because I have gotten lost so many times. You have given me a shot in the arm of confidence to trust the GPS and go for it.

I'll look for you on the freeway!
--Jane

I just wanted to drop you a line and tell you how much I loved....ready?.....the photography in some of the articles! My favorite shots were in "Who Owns Your DNA"...really, wonderful images. This is the first time I picked up a copy of "More", and I was pleasantly surprised. Beautifully done!
--Brigitte Petersen, Bedford, VA

I want to begin with telling you and all of the More staff how much I have enjoyed your magazine over the years:)

I enjoyed all the articles in this issue (especially the Michelle Obama article), but was dismayed by the "Dressing Is A Picnic". Did y'all (yes I live in TX!) forget there are many people out there unemployed?? Who spends this kind of money on shoes, purses & broaches?? As I was reading this my 15 yr old daughter kept asking me what I was so angry about as I was making comments with each page I turned. I gave her the magazine to see for herself without telling her why I was angry. Her comment was "who spends this kind of money and seriously $3,800 on a gold bee broach?" I couldn't agree with her more. I can tell you it's not in my budget to buy any of the things you showed on those pages and I'm sure I'm not the only reader who feels that way. How about showing us affordable things we could buy??
--Susan Honeycutt, Highland Village, TX

Hello, Ms. Seymour! Greetings from beautiful, snowy southern Colorado.

Checked the Feb. issue out of the local library to read the nice article on Michelle Obama. Very good. It was interesting to learn about her good work with teenage girls. What a wonderful experience for them.

However, I do have a bone to pick with you. Also on the cover of the Feb. issue is this tempting note "Your Best Haircut at 30, 40, 50, 60." What happened to 70,80, 90, 100 even????? I will have my 71st birthday in a few days and would love to have seen what More might have chosen as good haircuts for my age group and beyond. Please don't cut us off at age 60. There is plenty of life, and good haircuts, left in us for a long time yet!

Now I need to strap on my snowshoes and go for a walk.

Cheers,
--Sheila Swan, Cuchara, CO

I am emailing to comment on your topic of BALANCE :)

personally I think balance doesn't mean do everything, or do it all. Balance means do what you can in the areas of your life that fulfill you - and balance a couple of things so that you can do SOME of both. When we try to do it all, do we feel balanced? not at all.

In my life, I realized this when I got way too stressed and pulled in too many directions; what did I do? I realized I could not do it all AND also be a happy person, mom, wife. So I decided to cut back on my business (removing jewelry inventory from 4 galleries, cutting the number of places I supplied from 7 down to 3, and using that extra inventory for my summer shows). Ahhhhhh, that was balance. Moving some things around in my life, to create space, happiness, less stress. And that's to me just the way it goes, yes some parts of life have to wait, but in the process the everyday life gets so much more joyful. Totally worth what some people would call the 'sacrifice' but look what I gained. In 2-3 years my 3 year old daughter will be in school FT and I'll pick up right where I left off and build my business back up.

It might not work for everyone, but this is my definition of balance. Finding ways to create a balanced feeling, not just doing and being ALL.
--Linda

With all due respect, your magazine is, with rare exception, extremely, incredibly boring. Your staff are not making the most of it at all. You are not going to capture the interest, loyalty or dollars of the 40-somethings like myself who are, chronologically speaking, between the 'younger' magazines and the more 'mature' ones. Just thought I'd let you know, since I really do hope you can evolve into something that I would actually find enjoyable to read. Apart from the (yawn) motivation, education, information etc. I assume that the fun factor is in the end what will capture and keep your audience?
--Tara

I enjoyed Tamara Jones' article on Michelle Obama's White House mentoring program, especially because I have had the pleasure of mentoring new teachers to my school over the last ten years.

I know that Ms. Jones is a Pulitzer prize winning author, but I must object to her use of the term "mentee" when referring to the young women being mentored by the First Lady and her colleagues. The correct term is "protegé". Other words such as student, pupil, or advisee are acceptable, as well.

Thank you for producing such a fine magazine.
--Katherine M. Coughlin

I want to love More, I really do. I used to be a subscriber! As a 46 year-old, I appreciate More's beauty tips and advice and I like a lot of your health exposes as well. One of the main issues I have is with your style spreads. You make the unfair assumption that anyone over 40 is automatically making upwards of 75K when that is not necessarily the case. I work for a non-profit arts institution and while I get to exercise my big sexy brain every day, I am not particularly well-paid. Although I adore the butterfly print Manolo's you featured in February's issue, I can no more afford a pair of $655.00 shoes than I can fly to the moon. Get real folks, not all people over 40 make a ton of money; that stereotype is outdated and insulting. Heck, even Vogue has a "Steal of the Month" feature!
--T.T., Denver

I am a new subscriber to More and have to offer some feedback. Recognizing that your target audience is the +40 age women and I fall into that category at 49, you are missing something terrible for this group. Your font size is TINY. Even with reading glasses (which most 40 somethings and up wear) it is a struggle to read your articles. But the information for items featured in photos is the worst. The art team is doing a great disservice to the core audience.
Thanks for listening,
--Nina

I believe that the target audience for More magazine is women in their 40s & 50s. This is also a time in our lives when eyesight becomes more farsighted and it is difficult to read small print. For that reason, I question your choice of using such a small font in the magazine. It is actually smaller than your magazines geared for younger audiences. I would appreciate your consideration in using a larger font. I recognize it will make the magazine look more cluttered with less white space but at least we'll be able to read it. Thank you
--Anonymous

I just took your wisdom survey and thank you fo finally recognizing that women in their late 50s and 60s read More as well. I really like the magazine but it is really geared for women in their 40s. I hope you will continue to include articles, health and beauty information for women in the 50-60 age range. I understand that trying to meet the interests of women from the age of 40 to 60+ is hard. But women in their 50s and 60s are not like the previous generation and want and need advice on the same topics we had to deal with when we were younger and we look to your magazine to provide it.

I also suggest that you select clothing that is not as costly as some of the clothes and accessories featured. While I understand that is better to purchase classic clothing in smaller quantities, most women do not have the resources to buy many of the clothes featured in the magazine.

Thank you for your time and continue with the great work.
--Joanne Gallivan

I’m very glad a friend who lives in Colorado Springs shared with me your profile of Kathy Raasch. That article introduced me to your publication. I’ll look for MORE on a newsstand nearby.
--Carmen Ambrosio

Periodically I will purchase your magazine from the newsstand. For a magazine that caters to the older woman, I found your article difficult to read due to the font size used (see size in your "Help be Make More even more fabulous" area).

I have bi-focal contact lenses so I recognize my eyesight needs help - but this is the main reason I do not subscribe to your magazine - I can't read it.
--A S Crawford

This was my first issue of More which I am not sure why I received it. There were a few articles in there I thought were very good. However I was totally turned off my the cover of Michele Obama. Before I could even read the magazine I had to rip the cover off. I think you should stick to articles not politically involved.
--Karen Crowder

I've been a reader of More forever.....

Three years ago, as I walked the More half marathon with my daughter (I was 58 and she was 37), I decided that the magazine no longer applied to me. It was meant for much younger readers.

I was going to let the subscription run out and then, out of the blue (or mail) came an offer - two free subscriptions with my paid one. Well, both of my daughters were approaching THAT age, so why not. I continued.

In the last few issues I noticed that something has changed. There are more articles I like to read and more "my age" interesting tid bits. So, I just wanted to thank you. I am now 61 and even though I am not reading everything in the magazine, I read the majority of it.

By the way, your February letter from the editor about not having any sense of directions, applied to me completely. I am also ambidextrous and couldn't find my way out of a box without my GPS.

All the best,
--Liz

I love your magazine and seek it out at my local grocery, that is the good part. For the life of me however I just can't seem to commit and invest as a subscriber.

I am a freelance writer and that sometimes could be a blessing and a curse. It leads to a deeper enjoyment of what you read however it makes you aware if the magazine is not quite giving you that sense of fulfillment when you come to the last page.

So "More" needs a little bit more. I would normally not be "ballsy" enough to write this especially since I want to pitch an article idea or two to your magazine. But every time I read your "Letter From The Editor" section I feel like I've received correspondence from an old friend that is catching me up on the latest escapade in her life. So, pardon my familiarity this one time.

Thanks for your time and a magazine that certainly resonates with me and other women of a certain age. I am looking forward to sending a query.
--Debra Harris Johnson

Thank you for a balanced publication which encourages me as I go through huge changes that would feel isolating otherwise. Thank you for sharing some of your struggles with being taken seriously and merging many facets of your being. I believe you impart a considerable influence on the magazine so I feel you deserve thanks for your efforts.
--Cheryl Carlson

I received a gift subscription to More. It is a classy magazine, very nice and I have enjoyed it. Contrary to what some people said, even though I don't especially love Michelle Obama, I thought the photo of her on the cover was the prettiest I have ever seen her look. It's obviously airbrushed but still a very nice picture of her.

My issue is the ad in the back of the magazine for the Trojan Intimate Massager with a picture of a woman on top of a man. Why would you put something like that in your magazine? I felt I had to hide this magazine away when my grandchildren came to visit. Yikes.
--Dottie Guterres, Lafayette, CA

I recently bought an issue of More (Michele Obama is on the cover). I enjoy your magazine because there are older models. I am 44 and actual like my aging face.

BUT do you think there is more you can do to get people to accept their wrinkles? I always enjoyed fashion role models when I was younger. I am a sucker for Madison Avenue as they used to call it. But I really can’t buy the products as advertized – you see familiar old super models airbrushed to death or worse (and sadder) yet, former starlets botoxed and collagened. I also noticed one of your featured women who at first glance was a very cute – but upon closer inspection, looked ghastly – all her character lines were airbrushed out and it didn’t look at ALL like she was proud of her 45 plus years. She would have been SOO much cuter if you could see her eye and cheek crinkles. It also would help to see how make up really looks on her in reality.

We NEED to see the wrinkles so we know how to work with what we have. I hate that air-brushing, botox, collagen, and invasive surgery are the clear solutions advocated (action speaks louder than words). We need a magazine like More to give these women the ability to accept who they are!

Julia Ormond comes to mind as a pretty, yet wrinkled actress who still looks great. Models look better than the normal human and get the airbrush fixes - but it doesn’t effect their essence. Getting rid of the wrinkles changes the expression to something unrecognizable as a middle aged person.

Some older women age better than others. I don’t object to the preternaturally beautiful as long as it’s REAL. Don’t try to clean up familiar faces with unnatural techniques. It crushes any chance we have of developing a sense of beauty as a middle aged woman and eliminates any positive attainable role models.

Thanks for reading and doing what you can! I do appreciate your work as is!
--Jane

Women have a life after 60 and would you believe 70 and 80 and 90???

May I suggest you need more life experience.........and older friends.....Have you ever heard of Barbara Walters for instance???
--Audrey Friedner

I read the article in your February 2012 Issue on “Scent of three women” and it really hit home. When my mom past away 15 years ago, I was cleaning out her house and threw out her scent “Aprodesia by Faberge”. In the past few years I am trying to find it to no avail. Is there any way you can help me? I went on e-bay many years ago, but did not think it was really the correct fragrance. I now tell anyone who has a death of a loved one, and they had a signature fragrance to keep it, or stock up because someday they may want a whiff and cannot find it.

Can you please help me? I really would like to smell my mom again.

Thanks for everything.
--Deb

I read your editorial on the above w/ a sense of amusement, as I myself am ambidexterous.

I wanted to share a couple of things w/ you so you can have a laugh and relate to . I am a nurse, and when we were learning to give injections, I didn't know which hand to use. I can remember clearly transferring the syringe from hand to hand, trying to decide which hand to use. I decided on the left one, and, as I've come to realize, I do better with my left hand doing the things that require more dexterity.

I also read a column in Anne Landers years ago on same subject, and she referred to it as "directional dyslexic".
I have used it a lot when I'm in a directional crisis! It usually brings a laugh and I always credited Anne w/ the term.

Long live GPS.
--Beth Townsend

First let me say I've been a More reader for many years. In the February 2012 issue page 31 there were a pair of Converse gold sequin sneakers in your "How to look Fab on weekends" article Stylebook. I contacted Converse and they told me the sneakers were produced before the holidays and are no longer available. I am really bummed! I think they would look great with jeans (as you said).
--Monica

Thank you for the wonderful article on the First Lady and her work with girls in the Washington, DC area. As a former teacher in the southeast Washington neighborhood of Congress Heights, it has truly been such a value-add to watch the first family invest in this city again. The First Lady in particular has done so much to encourage young people in this area and has simultaneously helped the rest of the country rediscover the richness of DC. I am thankful to know that people might look upon the students with whom I work differently because the First Lady & President have shined such a positive light on them.

One of those students in particular bears mentioning. Patrice Haney, valedictorian of DC’s Anacostia High School Class of 2011, is the young lady featured in the photo hugging Mrs. Obama. I, too, am one of Patrice’s mentors, and was so thrilled to witness her moments with Mrs. Obama and the rest of the young women in the program through your story. I know that Patrice was incredibly blessed by being able to work with the First Lady and her staff, and grew tremendously during her time there. Though Patrice has come from difficult circumstances, she worked diligently to maintain an over 4.0 GPA throughout high school while juggling demanding athletic responsibilities and work. Patrice has earned many merit scholarships and is now a freshman at Middle Tennessee State University—where she earned a 3.6 GPA in her first semester. Patrice is an incredible young woman with great poise, dignity and an fantastically bright future. As we honor Mrs. Obama, I am glad took time in the article to honor Patrice and all of her incredible accomplishments as well.

Thank you, Mrs. Obama, for all that you have done and continue to do for deserving young women like Patrice, and world, Patrice Haney is ready to take you by storm!
--Brittany N. Packnett

I just finished reading Sandy Hingston's piece on The Scent of Three Women. I laughed and then I cried and cried. I could so totally relate to it. My mother is 94 years old (she would say young). All through my life and her's as far back as I can remember, she has worn and still wears Este Lauders "Youth Dew". It simply is her. She always received a gift set of perfume and powder from Dad every Christmas. I too when growing up and going out on special dates would sneak a little spray and feel grown up. I generally do not wear fragrences as my husband is bothered by them but, not to long ago we were going to a wedding and I felt the need to spritz on a little something. We were at my mothers house so naturally I spritzed on "Youth Dew". When my husband and i were dancing he stopped and looked at me and told me "You smell like you did when we were dating!". Now isn't that nice after being married for 40 years? Once my mother passes I know that everytime I smell that fragrance, I will be transported back in time and place to a spot where mom was young and so was I. Keep up the good work.
--Pat Crawford, Portsmouth, NH

The first thing I noticed about the February issue of More was the extensive photo image editing to Michelle Obama's photograph. The photographer, Peggy Sirota, is given credit, but why isn't credit given to the person who did the great "photoshopping" of Michelle's face?
--Susan Stover

My name is Mary Michels and I have been a long and loyal subscriber of MORE magazine. I've always enjoyed the the magazine for it's inspirational articles, celebrity bios, the shopping tips and hints and of course ALWAYS knowing what to wear season to season!

I had always admired this magazine as it never took an overt political stance... oh it clearly does have an undercurrent political slant but I usually overlooked that while enjoying "which shoes go better with what skirt"..... But when you featured Michele Obama on the cover a few years back as a "fashion icon", it disappointed me greatly as I had wondered then, why no other First Lady had ever graced your cover....... Shortly after that issue came out, I was out with two friends and both had told me that they had canceled their subscription to MORE as a protest of glorifying this woman and turning this pleasure reading into a political stand.

I stayed the course and remained a loyal reader until I opened my mailbox yesterday! With this being a huge and contentious political year, it is blatant statement that you too feel the need to influence people's vote!

Poor choice.... Should of kept it neutral.....

Please cancel my subscription and refund me the remainder of my subscription.

Thank you.

P.S. My recycling bin just got got a little heavier!

AND just talking to my sister (Susan McKibbon) and she cancelled hers YESTERDAY as well!

--Mary Michels (52)

I began with More with the first issue. I must admit I wasn't impressed at first. Seemed like alot of ads and "Stuff". But as More grew it has grown on me. I don't want to miss a single issue. Thank you for creating this magazine with its depth and width to cover the deminsions of life within women. In our style, in our business, in our work relationships; More has something to offer. I truly am a fan.

In the Feb.2012 issue the article "Couples who reinvent" was close to my heart. My husband and I have began to work in a business together. We teach CPR and First Aid to various organizations in the state. It takes us to places we've never been and we have met so many interesting people. To say the least we have a few great stories.

My husband purchased several pieces of the necessary equipment 8 years ago but he isn't blessed with business sense just good ideas and super great with creating websites and such. As our children grew and left home, I came across his equipment and decided it was time. I became a certified instructor last year and have been training weekly ever since.We are a new, small business and I was wanting to ask your staff for any insight and ideas on ways to grow a business with very little investment. We have all our equipment paid in full. I prefer to work in the black. With children in college and one in high school our cash flow is small.
I work with the State and have their approval to offer our service to state agencies and such. I am also wanting to better understand how to gain business from manufacturers, industries and the general business population.

Any insight and information would be greatly appreciated.

Please keep up the great work at More. It is used and re-used.
--Martha Reid, CPR Coordinator/CO-Owner, Missouri CPR

I am 64, married, in a second career working fulltime, and I am a More reader and subscriber. I have been looking for a publication with a target audience of "older" women; hence, my interest in More. I have been struck over the past year by your editorials, advertising and feature articles that do position concerns and interests of your target audience of women over 40, of course, with an emphasis of women in their 40's and 50's. Since I am in the next level of 60's, not all of these articles apply to my status in life, although I do enjoy the fashion and beauty segments, as I, like my counterparts in their 40's and 50's have a keen interest in these issues. I have been hoping that women in their 60's would find a prominent place of regular inclusion in your publication. When I saw the notice in the February, 2012, issue inviting women in their 60s to respond to your wisdom project survey, I was taken aback. You are calling for us to complete a life report card. Maybe it's the title of "wisdom project" that is offputting to me. The implication is that women in their 60's have wisdom that women who are younger do not. I believe that wisdom is experiential and that signature experiences can occur at any age that will shape one's wisdom. Maybe it's the invitation to complete a life report card that is grating to me. I am too busy for that notion--I am still building my life full steam ahead and not in the mood to take the time to reflect on my "report card."

This project, although benign in its intentions, I am sure, strikes me as being a bit ageist. I consider myself to be in the mainstream today of work, career, family, health, fashion, relationship management and
balance and self development. I want to be known for who I am,
possibly what I have accomplished, and for my contributions to family and friends. Those are the same standards that defined me in my 40's and 50's.

While I applaud your outreach to women in their 60's, I am hoping that this outreach will result in a broader audience including women in their 60's in your mainstream articles and not relegating us to a strata to be "culled" for our wisdom to share with your younger readers.

Thank you and best regards,
--Rita Fagan, Vienna, Virginia

If the picture of Michelle Obama were photoshopped anymore, she'd look like Dolly Parton! Some may be good, but this is definitely not a case of MORE is better.
-Anonymous, Fallbrook, CA

Have read your magazine each month and the 60 or over struck my mind. Do you have a section that could be directed to those 65 and over? I;m 81 going on 82 in May and would like to see a few makeup or clothing instructions for our group. Maybe stylish but not revealing. I wore suits to work for 20 years. this low cut dressing is not for most of us in this age group.

Thanks for listening.
--Mary A Porter, Olathe, KS

Thank you for sharing Wendy Rodgers story this month. I was diagnosed with bipolar last year and was in and out of the hospital three times, lost my job and my confidence, had a horrific manic episode followed by the worst depression of my life. I didn't know how to go on and if I even wanted to. I have to thank my family and a few close friends for sticking by me and encouraging me to go to the doctor and the therapist regularly. I still have always to go but I am feeling stronger. After reading about Wendy's struggles and strength, I figure if she can do it, I can too! She had it so much worse than me. I am grateful for my physical health and should not take it for granted. I will be 39 this year so her story was that much more applicable to me.

Thanks!
--Shannon in Boston

Thank you for shedding light on my own "poor inability to navigate" which you have touched upon in More's February issue. I, too, have been plagued throughout my 56 years of a horrid sense of direction. Road maps were never of any help either. I'd turn them every which-way in order to make some sense to me and still I'd get lost. Mall shopping is an adventure until I become familiar with the lay-out. I park in the same area at the grocery stores and malls that I frequent so that I don't spend another half hour looking for my car. I've gotten lost coming out of hotel rooms, in parking garages (I now write down the section and aisle before I leave the car) and physician office buildings. My family just laughs at me and chalks it up to just being "Mom" and a little "nutso".

Your revelation, however, puts it all into perspective. I, too, am a lefty for eating and writing, but that's about it. I use scissors with my right hand and play, what few sports that I've attempted, with my right. (Maybe this is why I never persued any sport because I never was comfortable with either hand?) I sometimes will cut up vegetables using my right hand, sometimes with my left.

I digress, however, as I'm getting away from the subject at hand, pun intended. Yes, I am forever thankful for my "Garmin Lady" that my kids presented to me a few Christmases ago. It has certainly come in handy, (again pun intended) on several occasions and I've come to rely on her as I have my "smart" phone. And now I am also grateful to you for releasing me from years of navigational frustration in the knowledge that I'm not "nutso", just a little directionally challenged, for valid reason.

Thank you, Lesley, for inspiring me to move forward with the understanding that there may still some wrong turns along the way.
--Pam Sivers, Baldwinsville, NY

Beautiful cover; but INSIDE of the cover...good grief! I have shoes older than those girls in the Laura Mercier add!! I like your magazine and I like Laura Mercier's products, but don't you think you are missing (or pissing off) your target market? Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against seventeen year olds, heck in the 70's I used to be one. But More is the one magazine when I open it up the people look like me. You might want to rethink whom your selling magazines to and tailor your ads, especially the prominent ones, accordingly. Happy New Year!
--Anonymous

Congratulations on beginning The Wisdom Project. It’s a brilliant idea. We so need the vision and power of wise-women elders in this society and world.

I actually began to take your survey online but was stopped by the questions about ranking myself and my successes in various areas of life. It is a masculine principle to place ourselves in hierarchies, to give ourselves report cards. Not only is this not a feminine principle, it is especially harmful for most women who never feel or think they are doing or have done enough, anywhere. We all must work to dismantle thousands of year of the myth of female inferiority, the fears we all carry of feminine power.

The way to wholeness, to completeness, is the feminine way. It is not the way of perfection, because we know that even our falterings, our failures, are often our richest lessons, that allow us to follow new directions, find new life. The greatest success for any woman is to learn to embrace, to include all that she has experienced and all that she is, dark and light, joys and sorrows, to love her life.

One of my favorite quotations comes from Helene Cixous: We must come to the end before a new beginning can come to us. Your feature “Second Acts” is so inspiring because it is based on that hopeful theme. The way of the dynamic, transformative feminine leads us in a nonlinear direction, a spiral of self discovery, full of fateful detours and wrong turnings, to paraphrase Jung. We continue to emerge, to become more fully ourselves, throughout life. At a New Years’ yoga practice this year, we were meditating on seeding the future, affirming that the time is now for new beginnings. Except with the teacher’s accent, a 60 year old French woman, “Beginning” sounded like “BIGgening”. This is the time for women’s wisdom and leadership in the world. For us all to be as big as we can with our values, our creativity, our power.
--Marilyn Steele, Ph.D.

I just opened my Feb. More issue, read your "Letter from the Editor" and good grief! You were describing me, with the only difference being, which hand I do which things with. I write and eat with the left, do everything else with the right.

All my life I've been terrible at navigation, and today at 57 it's worse than ever, to the point of panic attacks when I have to go somewhere new, in the car, alone.

Enter the GPS several years ago, Christmas gift from hubby, when they were relatively new and very expensive. I do love it but still have trouble trusting it. Sometimes I'll make a paper map for reassurance, to take along in the car with the friend I've named Greta Garmin.

I am a voracious reader, but have never before seen this info about handedness/ambidexterity and its effect on navigational ability. Fascinating.

As with many things, it doesn't change how I am, but at least I now have an explanation. As hubby said when I read him your first few paragraphs: "You are handedness-confused." :)

I wonder what it means about our brains...

Thanks-- I've been a subscriber since the very first issue and still love it as much as ever.
--Ann Loveland, Dothan AL

One of my most favorite parts of traveling constantly these days is reading MORE on the plane (as I am at this very moment!). While I am a certified Hudson newsstand junkie (they actually sell "healthy" gummy bears now!), MORE has quickly risen to the top of my airport mag heap. It's so resourceful, cheeky, and so beautifully designed. I love love love it!

Just wanted to let you know you have a major fan in the online world...congrats! xxChristene
--Christene Barberich, Editor-In-Chief, Refinery29

I just received my February issue of MORE and as always, read your editorial first. I was captivated by your story of navigational dysfunction. My husband had it too.

He would always need me to be his navigator and would literally get "turned around" in a parking lot if I wasn't there to steer him in the right direction. Like you, he was ambidextrous. Officially right-handed but fluent in "lefty", it was a miracle for me to see him operate. Now I understand so much more about why his internal gyroscope was wacky. He too invested in a car with GPS and adored it. Putting in a new destination elicted excitement and confidence when taking a trip. At first I felt a little slighted but realized, time moves on and so does technology.

No happy ending here. My beautiful husband of 38 years died last May. I miss him terribly and still mourn him so much. But your column made me think of him and smile..You helped me today and for that I am grateful.

Keep up the great work. I love your magazine. It truly does celebrate all women, all shapes, sizes, ages, colors, educational backgrounds...We have a champion in MORE magazine.
--Patricia Smith, Henrico VA

I was a reader of your magazine, and I used to enjoy it but now I decided not to renew my subscription. What really disappointed me and made me lose respect for your magazine is the fact that you now regularly advertise vibrators. I personally find this kind of advertisement offensive and indecent, and I don't want to have to explain to my children what those gadgets are, should they come across and open your magazine, which is not anymore welcome in my house.
--Paola Iqbal

I really have to congratulate you on running a fabulous magazine. I waited until I hit 40 to subscribe and have been reveling in every issue of your magazine for the past 2 1/2 years. There is absolutely no other magazine that compares with the content of More. I so appreciate the substantive, thoughtful articles. I have always thought that there are just so many things to write about in this world, but so many women's magazines do not cover much of interest. There is such an excessive focus on beauty....the same miracle diet with the recipes, exercises, and menus. Boring. I love how empowering your magazine is and how you cover so many stories about reinvention and transformation. Ideas for where to retire overseas - fantastic article. Great idea. I have given More as a gift to three friends who have absolutely loved it. All three are going through major transitions (cancer, divorce) and your content is so useful and inspiring no matter what the situation. As an avid reader and consumer of magazines, I really have to say it's such a pleasure to read More - it is by far the best one out there. Thank you for delivering such innovative reporting and research -- as well as beauty and fun -- please keep it up!
--Audrey Wennink, Chicago
I am a subscriber of More magazine, the print version..I recently paid for a 2 year subscription. I want to leave some customer feedback; I find the font size for most of the magazine's articles to be far too small...ridiculously so. I would appreciate less articles and ads to accommodate a larger sized print, so I can read it without straining my eyes. I can read most everything else I come across in a day without reader glasses or a magnifier...but the print in More is smaller than the fine print on medicine labels and things like that. I hope I am not the only person in America who has addressed this issue. When my current subscription runs out, I doubt I will renew..simply because of this one problem I have with the magazine.

Thank you. Please let me know who I can send this email to, to address the probelm.

Thank you very much.
--Diane Gordon

I am a long time subscriber to MORE and look forward to getting the magazine every month. For some time now I have been disgruntled with the political situation in this country. It has been a LONG time since I have voted for someone instead of the lesser of two evils.

So here we are in the midst of debates, state of the union address, negative ads, and many Americans in desperate situations. Yesterday I picked up the magazine and see Michelle Obama on the cover. Yes, she is a strong female in her own right but this is NOT where I want to see further political fodder. No, I don't want to read about any of the other candidates wives either.

Being a professional who has been self-employed for 25 years in the medical arena, I look forward to MORE and just enjoying the articles. I work very hard, have a very stressful job and am available to the individuals I work with all the time. Therefore the activities I choose to participate when not working are precious to me.

Just wanted to let you know that for the first time, MORE disappointed me. No, I don't want to be in the magazine letters' section. I've never written in to a magazine before to complain but my refuges are important to me.
--Linda

I normally pick up a copy of your magazine every couple of months or so and skim through it mostly looking at the fashion spreads. When finished, my general feeling is "Why do I bother buying at this magazine - anyone can look good at 43; it's fifty and beyond that takes courage and skill." Well, your current issue stopped me in my tracks. I picked it up in the check out line last night and started my usual perusal when I got to the article by Emily Listfield entitled "How to let go of wanting to look Young". I have been struggling with aging (I am 58) having always been (overly) concerned with my looks. This article has given me a glimmer of hope for my future; that I can age with grace and dignity and that aging is OK. As silly as that sounds; because we are all aging and will all be old someday, aging is something we have been taught to fight and rebel against (for example consider all the anti-aging cosmetics we see in the store every time we shop). As Emily so eloquently advises, "Our generation owe it to ourselves to find another way to feel beautiful rather than trying to turn back the clock." For me, that's going to be a good long cry and then a search to find a place where I can make a difference in someone's life.

Thank you so much for this story and I beg you to print more stories for those of us who are older that 43!
--Nancy Haan

I love MORE magazine and in 2008 I read saw the ad in the magazine about the half-marathon and entered (on a whim) to it. I'd never done anything like it before and I wanted to do was finished. It was freezing cold! I asked some of my friends to join me and we all took part. I came in a weak 3:45 but I was very proud of the fact that I finished.

Four years later I decided to do it again. I've been walking everyday for the past 6 months and felt I could do much better than my 2008 time. Last night as I went to register I was SHOCKED to see that the fee is $85! I was temping in 2008 (I'd lost my job in 2007) and just trying to make ends meet. I know I didn't pay that much, in fact I registered late and actually paid the late fee.

Needless to say, I will not participate this year. I've been unemployed since Fall 2008 and $85 is just not worth it. It's really a shame, though. It's such a wonderful event; or it was when I participated. My friends and I came in at different times and we met other people from all walks of life. Now, it seems that it's really just another event for NYRR members. I hope you change this in the future.
--Andrea Herbert

Reading the stories compiled by Shelley Levittown "Against All Odds" was so inspiring. I think it would make an amazing regular column or feature as there must be countless women that have stories to share and so many readers would benefit from their sharing, as I feel I have today.
Each story had a message of hope and each story, although not exactly the same as my own, helped me to feel stronger - if they can do it, so can I. Thank you for that.

I also really enjoyed reading "How to Let Go Of Wanting To Look Young". At 46 I find myself identifying with many of the emotions mentioned and the advice found here offers the support someone like myself (who wants to grow old gracefully and in a natural but healthy way) seems to be looking for -especially when I sit down to read More.

For all of the comments written in about the First Lady, in the letters to the editor, I was disappointed in how negative readers can be. She is an extremely bright and educated woman, dedicated wife, mother and daughter and doing a fantastic job. Would like to see any of her critics step up to that job and make it seem as effortless as she does. Michelle Obama is the kind of woman I admire and I am glad More agrees.

Keep up the great articles!
--Catherine Soderquist, Crestwood, NY
I love your magazine and enjoy reading your, Letter(s) From The Editor. I can relate to the February 2012 as I too have no sense of direction and although I consider myself right handed, I use both hands throughout the day. I am a writer and once interviewed a psychologist who suffered from the same navigation flaws. She mentioned an explanation quite similar to what you wrote about. I recall being relieved at the thought that I wasn’t a complete dope, having to prepare mentally-while getting play- by-play directions from my husband-before my departures. My GPS also alleviated much anxiety.

I am a columnist for a NJ newspaper. I’ve written for NJ Monthly’s, Park Place, Parenting, and Raising Teens magazines, and an on-line magazine, Lake Hopatcong News and Review. I would love an opportunity to write for MORE. I’ve attached a variety of samples of my columns in separate emails. The columns are well received by readers and generate many positive email comments. My topics are humorous and/or may tug at your heart. They are written about life through a woman’s point of view. I’ve been told they have an Erma Bombeck(ish) style which I feel would be very relatable to your readers. I’ve written feature stories for over 10 years for various publications. I enjoy meeting with people and my psychology background proves very beneficial in the interview process

I reside in northern NJ and armed with my GPS, can travel to assignments when needed.

Thank you so much for your time.
--Lori Price

Okay, you’ve explained my problem with being navigationally-challenged!! I’m pretty ambidextrous with playing some sports with right or left hand and opening jars with left hand. Like you, I worship my GPS built into my mommy-van and now also get down on my knees and thank the ‘stars’ at Apple for my phone’s phenomenal GPS. Now, I don’t even need to drive my car to know where I am going! I just need my phone in hand. (should I say ‘apple’ in hand?) Anyway, thanks to you – I now realize that I am not alone and there is a good reason (not ADD) for being navigationally-challenged.
--Joanne Berardi

Avid reader of MORE Magazine-- PS- loved the article on Michelle ObamaI was an adult, always believing I was abnormal because I didn't know my left from right until one day my father-in-law, a psychologist, put a name on my disorder! Of course, I cannot remember that name, but he assured me it was quite common for us left-handed people, as we live in a right-handed world!

Love the magazine!
--Susie Sibley
I recently read the February issue of More and I loved what you wrote about re-inventing yourself, with regards to directions! I thought I was the only one-I have a GPS and sometimes I make a wrong turn and I am panicked for sure! I am 44 years old, recently divorced and I have one son who is 9. I m getting over my fear of driving to different places-the GPS has helped a lot. I thought wow, if the Editor –in – Chief of More magazine has the same issue from time to time, then I don’t feel too bad and I am in good company.

I also read a previous issue where you said Change is never too little or too late. I thought this was key advice.

Thanks for reading and listening.
--Ms. Erainia ( E-ray-na ) Jones

I will be anxious to see who you will be putting on your next cover. I feel that this was a campaign-for-Obama ploy by having the First Lady on the cover. I feel that there should be equal time for the 'other' party(ies). Don't get me wrong, I am a Democrat, but I don't like the idea of having her rammed down my throat.

I am rather surprised by this, and I just had to let you know.

Maybe you have had other first ladies on your cover; before 'my time.' This makes it look like you want four more years of the current administration. This makes it feel as though MORE is going political; and I'm not pleased.

Just my opinion; thank you for reading.

Also, I tried to write on the site; however, it was impossible for me to figure THAT out.
--Debbi Smith

I cannot actually remember if I have ever written a response to the editor before but your triggered something in me and I was seeing me right in this article. I an an oncology nurse of many years providing loving care and comfort to my wonderful patients throughout their journeys but.......I have challenges, and driving a distance all by myself was something that I conquered recently and thats why your letter was so great. When my husband and I visit our grandchildren out of town of course he did all the driving while I kept him company chatting, and knitting, (I have to be accomplishing something while sitting for the 4 hour drive from Baltimore to New York) but last year our children moved to Philly which is only 2 hours away. Less knitting accomplished but so happy to have them closer. I challenged myself to drive there by myself on one of my days off from work, especially when they invited us to do something special and my husband was out of town for business. I programmed my GPS (I call her my Girl Power.......System) and listened carefully and did it alllllllllllllllllll by myself. Many of my friends understood my anxiety and were soooooo very proud of me. I even went back for a grandparents program a few weeks later all by myself. I felt so empowered so I loved your article. (I am not ready to fly, rent a car and travel by myself but who knows..

I love your magazine and have been reading it and given it as gifts.

Thanks so much!
--Bunny

Sitting here reading your latest article in More magazine (First Lady Obama cover) and I immediately think of my hubby & mommy both of whom are "directionally challenged." The first is still in denial--men! There is an awesome app (actually several) for that!

I love RoadMate by Magellan. It was pricey but unlike some of the others it was a one-time cost. It has taken me all over as I have taken it all over!

I have it on my iPhone and iPad (1st generation). You get to chose voices too--neat! She/he will even tell you when you're over the speed limit. Not that I have been.

Just thought I'd share. It was my first time purchasing the magazine. I'm enjoying it! Great cover model!
--MgAnthony

Thank you so much for the beautiful article about Michelle Obama! I am inspired by her affirmation of young women, her healthy goals for all of our young people, her sense of self and family, and her incredible style. She's the kind of first lady I can admire and would honestly love to sit down and have tea with.

Thanks so much!
--Terri Byrd

I love getting new issues every month and was so excited when I saw the February cover "Your Best Haircut at 30, 40, 50, 60".

As a woman who has been declared "least changed" from several high school reunions, I have tried in vain to modify my locks for years.

Here's my beef- there was only ONE short cut for a woman (of any age) with curly/wavy hair. Every other cut featured women with long flowing locks or straight as a pin hair.

Am I sentenced to a life of "mom hair" as I pass from my 40's into my 50's? Please say no!

There's got to be more woman like me (small framed with thick Italian hair) out there, right?

Thanks for letting me vent! I enjoyed the rest of the issue, was just disappointed in your latest beauty/hair advice.
--Lisa

I haven't done more than look at the cover of this month's More, but I am so excited to see Michelle Obama on the cover! Not only is she an admirable voice for the children of this country, but she is also a beautiful example of what a More woman looks like.

Thanks for supporting our First Lady!
--Deborah Brannon

I notice you used [ballsy] in your February letter from the editor. Personally, I prefer a reference to brass ovaries.
-- Confidence Confidence Stimpson SVP, Associate Broker

This is the last straw for me. The cover which promises an article on haircuts for women age 30 is outrageous. I have read every issue of More since its inception. I have complained in the past about the mag skewing younger and younger, but this takes the cake. I have daughters in their 30's ! Maybe it's because I'm in my 60's, but that 's what I thought the mag was for... Women in middle age. For a long time there has been way too much coverage of 40's age level,but this? Consider this long-time, original subscriber really offended and just no longer interested.
--Kathy Schultenover

Thank you for giving me yet another reason to NOT renew my subscription to More.

First your offensive pages with Nancy Pelosi, which I saw many other members, disapproval of.
Now, the first lady, the woman who takes my tax dollars to Spain with a huge entourage and really nice clothes.

Then taking government planes a few hours ahead of her husband on vacations, costing us even more tax dollars! For no explained reasons. Unreal. And I don't care what background she comes from, it's well known that she has had very well-paid jobs which some call "no show" jobs! Oh, and do not tell me or children what they should eat - while eating and entertaining with some of the most extravagant and fattening foods around. Had to tear off the cover and inside pages... not that I find much else in your magazine of much interest to me anymore. A lot of repeat useless info.

Sorry!!!!
--Natalie Larkin

I laughed out loud reading your "Letter from the Editor"! I, too, am practically ambidextrous. I write with my left, cut with my right. I can't throw a frisbee and bowling doesn't feel correct from either hand. I fenced and was definitely a lefty which was a great advantage! I blame the nuns, though, since I went to 12 years of Catholic School. They don't approve of anyone being left handed. Or, at least they didn't in the early 60's! Did you know that in Italian and French the word left is sinistro/sinistre meaning sinister or evil! The nuns would remove my pencil from my left hand and move it to my right. Consequently, I have the worlds worst handwriting. And, like you, a horrible sense of direction. I'm so paranoid about getting lost that I take my iPad with my GPS app AND I have GPS in my car. At the same time. My late husband used to tease me because when we would be in a shopping mall I would come out of the store and turn the direction from which we just came instead of continuing on.

Anyway, I just had to write and tell you that you are not alone and enjoyed your letter very much.
--Paula Montgomery

 

First Published Tue, 2012-01-17 14:17

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