The Attention Grabber: Pick a main photo that indicates your interests and gives others a reason to click-in. We see a lot of success when members use a shot that isn’t just a portrait, such as travel photos (showing a well-known landmark or picturesque scenery) and hobby photos (like playing your guitar or rock climbing). The Portrait: We need to see what you actually look like. Keep it real. A nice shot of you smiling in a natural setting is perfect. Try not to use a photo where you’ve cropped friends out (it’s abrupt and unsettling), and opt for a solo shot when possible. You Being You: Daters look for photos that say "I can really see myself in a relationship with this person” – and that includes everything from movie night at home to out and about on a Friday night to the office holiday party. Photos that reflect this show you doing an activity that others can imagine being a part of.
Dates with the words “jokes,” “funny,” and “laugh” are more successful than the average date. The ability to laugh and make others laugh is a universally attractive trait. For example: “How about we have a staring contest in the park and see who can make the other laugh first. Loser buys a round of drinks after.”
Long messages get fewer responses, period. “Hello, nice to "meet" you, I've read your profile, and I think you sound nice..." is way less engaging than "What?! You like Friday Night Lights but not the West Wing?! I'm appalled. What's your argument?"
The ideal date proposition is 120-140 characters. Though there are exceptions to both extremes, dates that fall into this window get the most responses. Here’s an example of the ideal length: “How about we grab a sandwich at Torrisi then go for a walk on the Westside bike path.”
Wednesday is the best day to ask someone out on a date. The worst day to propose a date? Sunday. However, we’ve also found that Saturdays are ideal for proposing same-day dates, such as “How about we go see the show at Joe’s Pub tonight? I have tickets!”
Most people can tell if there's chemistry within the first 15 minutes of meeting someone. That’s why the top 60% of the most responded to dates are two-fold: a short, active first part followed by a more intimate second location. The rationale? An activity eases the awkwardness of a first meeting and helps create a more positive experience. Then, if you hit it off, you can go someplace more intimate for the get-to-know-you conversation. For example: “How about we see a photography exhibition and grab tea or a drink afterward.”
...or vague with your profile information and date ideas. One-word answers don’t provide any insight into your personality. Instead of simply answering "What's an awesome place you've visited?" with “Italy,” describe something that you loved about Italy. The same is true for dates. Dates placed in the catchall “out & about” category are the least likely to be responded to. Your answers also give visitors a reason to stay on your profile as they work up the courage to message you. Give them something to bite into.
Don’t: Tailor Your Profile To What You Think He Wants
Be yourself, whether that’s a nature-loving outdoor nut or a high-heels and mini-skirt loving shopaholic (or whatever lies between). Choose photos that reflect your true self and post dates that you’d genuinely want to go on.
Members with at least three photos get twice as many messages as those with only one photo. Like the rest of your profile, you want your photos to showcase the many things that make you who you are -- so make sure to diversify.
Forget about stereotypes concerning who should initiate: Men and women have equal success proposing dates. In fact, ladies are at a slight advantage. Dates proposed by women get an average of 5.4 responses each, whereas men get about 4.9.
Chemistry doesn’t happen in front of a computer. Message prospective dates to the point that you’d feel comfortable meeting in person and then get out there, in the real world. Most HowAboutWe.com members prefer to send no more than 4 messages before meeting up. As you would for any new encounter, take necessary precautions by meeting in a public place and telling a friend where you’re going.