More: You ended your engagement to Omar Slimm White about a year ago. How are you doing?
Vivica A. Fox: I am very happily single and taking applications as we speak [laughs]. It was OK. The reason I decided not to get married was because it was not right. Even my gut was telling me this wasn’t right. It was the strength of my family that saw how I wasn’t happy and this wasn’t a right fit for me. I was trying to force this because I wanted to get married and start a family. Although my ex is a really nice guy, we weren’t meant to be married.
More: There is a big age difference between you and your ex-fiancé. Is that something you will stay away from going forward?
VF: Yes. I am going to try and stay away from that and date someone closer to my age. However, I don’t have a problem if there is an age difference; I just don’t think it should be too drastic. I can say, I have noticed that younger guys seem to be attracted to me.
More: You go, girl!
VF: I appreciate that, and being the cougar. Seriously, though, I probably should stay closer to my age.
More: Do you like being labeled a cougar?
VF: It used to have a negative connotation because people defined it as if you were on the prowl for younger guys. To be honest, the younger guys are often the ones attracted to older women, not necessarily the other way around.
More: Because . . .
VF: Because they take great care of themselves, they have money, they have less drama in their lives, and they are confident. I think the younger guys are saying, “Hold on, girl. Come over here and let me get to know you.”
More: You really celebrate your age, huh?
VF: I am 48 years old, and I am like a fine wine: I keep getting better with time. I have nothing to hide. There is no curse attached to getting older. In fact, it is full of wisdom, knowledge, and I believe you should embrace that. I work out and eat right so I feel fabulous in my forties. Life does not end because you aren’t 20 anymore. I am here to tell you it gets better. I am also more confident, smarter and more comfortable in my own skin.
More: Come on and dish—are you trying to fight the age clock and do other things to look younger?
VF: When I wake up, I know I have to work harder by avoiding certain foods. I also know I have to hit the gym and take better care of myself. But to answer your question, yes, I have embraced it.
More: You strike me as a take-charge kind of girl.
VF: I have always been a type A personality kid. I guess in my case that is a good thing because that is what I get paid for.
More: You’re working on quite a few projects right now.
VF: Yes, I star in a sitcom called Mr. Box Office, where I play a sexy cougar. I also just finished an indie film called Golden Shoes, I have my own hair collection, and of course the two other projects we just discussed. Who am I to complain, especially considering I was ready to quit show business a few years ago.
VF: I was frustrated with the roles that were coming my way. I also had people treating me like I was starting over from scratch. I wasn’t happy and felt maybe I needed to challenge myself and do something new, like moving to Miami to become a sportscaster.
More: But here you are.
VF: I started to produce stage plays and landed Brian McKnight. I was on the road for 14 months [starring with him in the romantic comedy Cheaper to Keep Her] and it was in that time I reinvented myself. I think people got so caught up in my personal life and forgot I have all of this acting and theater experience. I felt my talent had taken a back seat because many stories about me were centering on my personal life.
More: Does that upset you?
VF: It sucks sometimes that people focus on that, because I have worked so hard to build a career and that part tends to get overlooked. However, I have learned you have to roll with the punches.
More: With work? How have the roles changed over the past few years?
VF: I love playing the smarter, head chick in the driver’s seat, because she is intelligent and sexy. I don’t want to be running around in revealing clothes or a skimpy bathing suit. I really think men love seeing a take-charge woman who can get the job done.
More: Would you want to channel your experience and do something a bit more risqué?
VF: I am not a writer per se but I have produced some stage plays, TV programs and reality shows. I was also the co-producer of a series called Glam-God. I am a woman who is full of ideas and can seal the deal to make things happen.
More: You also just starred in a movie called Annie Claus Is Coming to Town, which is now available on DVD (click here to buy).
VF: For the past two years I have done the Hallmark Christmas movies. I started with a small cameo, playing the boss of Christine Taylor, who is Ben Stiller’s wife. The director told me he liked me so much, and I was invited back and got a bigger part. For this film I was portraying the owner of a place called the Candy Cane Motel. A little girl named Annie arrives and restores my hope in Christmas.
More: How sweet.
VF: It was sweet, which was why I signed on to it. I like doing films the whole family can sit down and watch together. These productions are so full of innocence, as opposed to bullying, bad behavior and violence.
More: Do these films restore your faith that there is still good in the world?
VF: Absolutely. This is supposed to be a warm, fuzzy time of the year when you appreciate your family and make someone else smile.
More: Have you felt down or had the holiday blues?
VA: Have I had some lonely Christmases? Sure, I have had a few. However, I have a wonderful manager who has three kids. If I am feeling down and lonely I just go over to her house and we cook, drink eggnog and have fun.
More: Vivica Fox alone on Christmas? I don’t believe it.
VF: I am an actress living in Los Angeles so, yes, there have been a few years when I was home alone.
More: So what’s up with your reality show?
VF: I am the host of Prank My Mom, which recently premiered on Lifetime TV. As for a reality show about me, myself and I? That is not happening. I have no desire to go down that path.
More: It sounds like Ashton Kutcher’s MTV series, Punk’d.
VF: Yes, and might I add that he and my best friend, Tichina Arnold, got me real good once. When Tichina was pregnant and I was in the midst of a photo shoot, she pretended to be in labor. The paramedics from hell showed up and, needless to say, I lost it and turned into an angry mama bear
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