We Hear You! Letters from Our December 2012/January 2013 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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Consider me converted! While on Mexican vacation, our hotel had several back issues of your magazine available for guests in their beach library (you take one, you leave one - a place to recycle and re-use books and magazines). I read three issues consecutively from cover to cover! I couldn't get enough! I wanted MORE!

What a refreshing change from my regular magazine that preaches spirituality and inner peace but spoon feeds us images of adolescent models and lists of favourite things that would take me years of working two jobs to pay off!

Loved the October issue-my mother-in-law gave it to me and I was really impressed as a first-time reader! I did find it odd that you ran an article about Jessica Herrin and Stella& Dot and then featured an article about jewelry as well, but didn't include Stella&Dot's fabulous jewelry! You would think the two articles would go hand-in-hand! Looking forward to seeing MORE Stella&Dot in future issues.
--Linda Kunkiewicz

For the first time in years, I've felt at peace with my age (now 45 years old!). Being a child of the eighties, I can totally relate to Christina Applegate and Marisa Tomei and will continue to applaud them for many years to come while doing Warrior Pose and working on my next great adventure!
Your newest fan,
--Rebecca Melenka

I have been a MORE reader almost since the inception and remember you being the editor of Marie Claire. (Really loved Marie Claire then!) I still remember your first "Letter from the Editor" for MORE. It was forward, direct and truth-felt. It was your letter about not having to cater to the youth of the month. Instantly, I wanted MORE!

I just read your letter for December 2012. First, I want to pass along my condolences for Miu. I too am a cat owner and definitely get losing a furry family member who has enriched everyone in the household's life. As I read aloud your letter to my partner, he laughed with glee as you recalled Miu's daily antics. We too are a feline house and they do enrich your life beyond words.

Lastly, keep up the wonderful work. I look forward to reading your letter each month; in fact, I always read it first before I dive into the magazine. Enjoy a safe and happy holiday season. Thank you.
--Tara Daugherty

I'm 65, still working full time, playing golf, teaching university classes, hula hooping with my grandson, traveling, biking, etc. I wear a size 6, look pretty good, and am really annoyed that you do so many articles about "This is what 40, or 50 looks like"  What are the rest of us--chopped liver?!  Sorry, but we aren't all fat gray haired old ladies!!
--Claire

I love reading More when it comes in the mail. But, I have to say that the women that are featured on the cover seem to keep reappearing. Marisa Tomei, Julianna Moore... Certainly there are enough women over the age of 40 that would qualify to be on the cover without repeating the same women. I'm still sharp enough at 60 to remember reading about them in the last couple of years in your magazine.

Also, your letter is one of my favorites of the issue. Keep up the great work!
--Diane Kerr

I recently received my December issue of More magazine and just finished reading it. Most of the "magazines" or periodicals I read are online and necessary for my business.

One of my very few indulgences is More magazine. I love holding it and carrying it to whatever room I am able to take a quick break from business. I appreciate the ability to fold pages and bookmark articles or information that I want to reread.

Most of all, I look forward each month to reading the Letter from the Editor. I have to admit, that letters from the Editors never really caught my interest. But when I get my magazine out of the plastic, it is the first thing I turn to and read. It is always fun, interesting and sometimes inspiring.

Thank you for this wonderful experience each month!
--Dana Kichen
 
In our increasingly digital age, I find myself subscribing to fewer publications. However, More is special...it has smart, insightful and relevant articles. But not only that, I must thank you for making my day.

When I received my January issue in the mail today, I was pleasantly surprised to see the beautiful Marisa Tomei on the cover (one of my favorite actresses). Then I opened the magazine to see an article on the talented Elizabeth McGovern of Downton Abbey (one of my favorite shows).

More will continue to be the one piece of mail I actually look forward to receiving each month!
--Pamela Braddy

Thank you for the article "Blessing of the Animals".  It could not have come at a better time for me. Our family recently lost a little rescue puppy to cancer. Though we were only privileged to have had Daisy for a short time she will forever be in our hearts.  She had a rough road as a young stray getting to her forever home and was so grateful to be with us. I wish more people would consider adopting. These animals so need our help and it is amazing what they give back to us.
--Juli Healy
 
I always enjoy reading my monthly issue of More magazine and enjoy your Letter from the Editor section. This month’s article however left me sad and wondering how a highly accomplished and educated woman could be so careless as to let a cat outside unattended to get, as you say, "assumed hit by a car". What? As an animal lover and cat owner, I would never leave my precious cats outside by themselves without being on a leash or in a protected area. This is pet ownership rule 101. Please Meredith, let Miu's spirit guide you to do better with Zeus and Rain....keep them inside where they belong. 
--Kimberly Apgar

Thank you so much for the cover story on my favorite actress, Marisa Tomei. I enjoyed reading about her professional endeavors, her ability to maintain friendships, and her desire to keep her Italian culture of cooking special dishes as a time-honored tradition. 
 
The next time she has another movie coming out, such as Love, Marilyn, please do another editorial piece on Marisa; she reveals a lot to women in our age range. 

We may be in our forties, but look like we are in our thirties.  Thanks.
--Barbara Render

I love More Magazine's articles. It is so refreshing to read about peers and cohorts instead of twenty or thirty somethings!

I loved the Dec/Jan issue's "The Blessing of the Animals". I wonder if that could become a regularly featured section.

In addition it is very disheartening to pick up a fitness magazine and have those same twenty somethings sporting a toned body that is more youth-aquired than sweat-induced. Not to mention the abundance of energy those individuals reserve compared to their elder counterparts. Let's face it, it's not an accident that road races have age categories or that tennis greats retire at thirty!

I would love a regular fitness section of fit, 40-50 somethings that achieve amazing fitness and realistic but admirably toned bodies. They could share their stories about routines and diets and special extras that work for them. You know, like Shape mag, or Muscle and Fitness Hers, or Fitness, etc... those articles are related to a young population and are seemingly unrealistically achievable for those of us who are pre and post menopausal.  Just a thought. 
--Lori

First of all, I would like to start by letting you know what a wonderful publication I think More is...I still remember thinking, oh, no, that is for "OLDER WOMEN", I will never read it...well, here I am, on the far side of over 40, and loving it!

It was with interest that I read your Letter from the Editor in the December issue, regarding your cats.  I am deeply sorry for the loss of your Miu-Miu.  Having lost three of my beloved elderly cats in the last year and a half, the last one, Tricki Woo, just a couple of weeks ago, I completely understand the sense of loss. 

I do want to gently suggest that as a cat owner, you please consider keeping your cats indoors.  I am president of the Huntington-Audubon Society as well as an ardent cat lover, and know both sides of the coin of allowing cats outdoors.  A. They kill billions of animals, including birds, small mammals and reptiles, each year and B. Their lives are in constant danger, as it is a scary world out there for a kitty. 

I am attaching a brochure I designed,titled, "It's 10:00am, Do Your Know Where Fluffy Is?".  It outlines the dangers that cats pose to wildlife, as well as the dangers that they themselves face.  Please consider keeping your other cats indoors-cats deserve to live long and pampered lives, languishing on our furniture and counter tops!  I am also attaching an article I had written on the topic, so that you can read up a bit more.

Thank you for your time, and again, thanks for putting out such a wonderful magazine!!!
--Stella Miller

I am an avid More reader. Each month I really look forward to your Letter from the Editor…it speaks to me.

I have the wonderfully fulfilling job of being a single working mother of 4 beautiful yet extremely loud children.

I have been married and divorced twice…I like to say that I gave each husband a decade and now I’m gifting  my 40’s to me!

It seems to me, as I look back, that I have done a lot of things out of fear.  Fear of being alone, fear that I am unlovable, fear that I may not be good enough.  What transpired was I thought if I made a perfect home for my husband and children, lived in a perfect suburb, and made perfect friends than everything would end up … perfect ~ which obviously didn’t happen.

When my second marriage failed and I was forced/chose to enter the work force at 40 without having finished my college degree I knew what real fear was and I knew that “perfect” was not within my reach any longer.   Your September letter to the editor impeccably described my “mid life, cut the crap, friendships.”

I have a handful of friends “sistas” (which is all anyone really needs) who’ve supported me through yet another divorce but the majority of “friends” that I had stood next to on the soccer fields, bake sales, and grocery lines seemed to turn the other way when they saw me (which was infrequent as I spent most days in my office or in traffic attempting to make it home in time to throw a dinner together for my “army”.)

I was very fortunate that my hard work landed me a kick ass job, with a fantastic boss, and a great company that believes in the working mom and our need for flexibility.  Along the way I met new friends, great women from all walks of life.  I agree with you…they are fresh and fascinating and they get to meet me at a time in my life when I feel I am at my best, strongest, and incredibly empowered.   My new boss is one of those women.  She is also a working mom and she totally “gets it.”  She has become a friend, mentor, and confidant.  Occasionally she is also my drinking buddy but that’s another story  ~ I would title it “where can you find the best margarita in Boston?”

Throughout any of my struggles I know that I would never had come as far as I have without the support and guidance of my girlfriends ~ old and new.  It definitely took me the full 40 years to figure that one out.

Thank you for writing about the real stuff!!
--Julie

..Thank you for writing [your editor’s letter] and for sharing the fact that you went to shelters to find your special match.

And by the way, congratulations!
--Nancy Flemming

I really enjoy your magazine. I first picked up your magazine about five years ago in a hospital waiting room while I was waiting for my mother to come out of surgery. Someone had so graciously left it there for me.
It was October 2007 issue with Marg Helgenberger on the cover and the best fashion spread I think you all have ever done. I still have this issue because the clothes still inspire me.It was called "Perfect Jeans" and featured several women, each wearing a style of jeans that flattered them. At the time, wide legged jeans were in and I LOVE wide legged jeans. One look and I was hooked. I've been a fan ever since, although I must admit I would like to see more spreads like that instead of just showing the articles of clothing. But I guess it is more economical than hiring models.

I would like to thank More for recognizing that women 40+ deserve real fashion and a magazine that fits this season of our lives without making us look like "little old ladies"…

Thanks for a great magazine.
--Sherri Wrather

I do really enjoy your magazine.  I particularly love the fashion and make up tips that are age appropriate and personally tested by the staff.  I appreciate the encouraging articles that affect women at this piont in our lives. 

My one suggestion would be to include calories per serving and nutritional facts for the delicious recipes you feature.  This information would be very helpful for those of us who are watching our weight and trying to lead a more healthy life
--DeVonna Dalton

I always enjoy reading my monthly issue of More magazine and enjoy your Letter from the Editor section.   This months article however left me sad and wondering how a highly accomplished and educated woman could be so careless as to let a cat outside unattended to get - as you say "assumed hit by a car".   What?  As an animal lover and cat owner, I would never leave my precious cats outside by themselves without being on a leash or in a protected area.   This is pet ownership rule 101.   Please Meredith, let Miu's spirit guide you to do better with Zeus and Rain....keep them inside where they belong. 

--Kimberly Apgar

I love More Magazine's articles. It is so refreshing to read about peers and cohorts instead of twenty or thirty something! I loved the Dec/Jan issue's "The Blessing of the Animals". I wonder if that could become a regularly featured section. In addition it is very disheartening to pick up a fitness magazine and have those same twenty somethings sporting a toned body that is more youth aquired than sweat induced. Not to mention the abundance of energy those individuals reserve compared to their elder counterparts. Let's face it, it's not an accident that road races have age categories or that tennis greats retire at thirty! I would love a regular fitness section of fit, 40-50 somethings that achieve amazing fitness and realistic but admirably toned bodies. They could share their stories about routines and diets and special extras that work for them. You know, like the Shape mag, or Muscle and Fitness Hers, or Fitness, etc... those articles are related to a young population and seemingly unrealistically achievable for those of us who are pre and post menopausal.  Just a thought.  Lori

 

Why don't we see more about women in their 60's?  For example on-line you have hairstyle ideas for women in their 40's and 50's - what about the 60's.  The same with your magazine you constantly have all the starlets that have just turned 40 - what about the 60's.  

On the serious side why don't you have an article explaining about women in their 50's and 60's getting laid off and not able to get a new job in this economy?  What are they doing to survive?
-Merry Kruschke

 

I do not yet have a subscription to your MORE magazine. I am greatly considering it, but I have been reading comments on different websites to find out if it is something I would like to read.

For the most part I find I would enjoy your magazine.

But...as a conservative and being annoyed at the biased leftist media out there - I do not want to see this kind of bias in a magazine I subscribe to.

I read most of the comments about this situation on your own website where you comment "We Hear You!"  So what I would like to know is - do you just hear us or do you consider the comments made and make adjustments to your magazine.

As far as I can see there are a lot of conservatives reading/having read your magazine. To me this is an important issue to consider - probably more important than the rest of the comments. Definitely a first for you to look at changing.

If you plan to continue being biased - please let me know - until I see more positive comments about this issue I will not order the magazine at this time. I will continue to look at your website and see how things go because I truly believe that otherwise I would truly enjoy this magazine.

Thank you for your time!
--Grace Bright

First Published Wed, 2012-11-28 12:03

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