We Hear You! Letters from Our May 2013 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
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Wow.

 

I'm always so nervous when I receive my copy of More that it will be just another "pretty head" magazine, but you really outdid yourself on this issue.

The piece on female Catholic priests was WONderful and inspiring. And the shorter one on three women with mental illness was great.

Thank you for combining "pretty" stuff with the more substantial.  Love my subscription!
--Charlotte Versagi

Dear Lesley,

My co-worker let me see her May issue, being the first time I ever read your magazine, and I am more than just inspired. Although I am only 20 years old, there was so much I thoroughly enjoyed reading. I plan on buying quite a few products that were suggested and trying some new things that were mentioned. Thank you in advance!

What I really wanted to share with you was my mindset before and after reading Jenny Allen’s article “Once more onto the beach.” I just started planning my trip to the beach this past week. After my initial excitement about going, all my bathing suit insecurities set in. I soon went into frenzy about which workout plans I had to discipline myself to and which diet I had to stick with. Jenny’s title caught my attention because I did indeed need to know how to “suit up.” After I finished, I was just disgusted with my previous thoughts and already had a new mindset. I am going to the beach next month, I’m going to wear that bikini and I’m going to love every second of it.

Thank you again for all the inspiring words.

Sincerely,
--Laurel Hudson

Dear Lesley:

I thoroughly enjoyed Martha Ann Overland's essay, "The Boy Who Can't Wake Up," in the May issue of More magazine.

Like Overland, I am a middle-aged parent of a child with an undiagnosed disorder.  While Overland battles against her son's sleep disorder and chronic headaches, I battle against my son's autism and chronic gastrointestinal disorder which causes him to eat every two hours, both day and night.  I felt alienated and alone until reading Overland's essay. Now I realize there are other parents with teenage children who don't function like normal teens.  I'm not the only parent who sometimes wishes my struggles were more apparent and acceptable.  After all, it's easier to sympathize with a parent of a stoner than a parent of a child who looks normal although he can't wake up or stop eating.

Thank you for including stories from women who struggle with parenting abnormal children.  Our voices need to be heard.

Sincerely,
--Angela Lam Turpin

Hi Lesley

I know you welcome feedback and as I have recently unearthed one of the few Mores sold in this part of the world I thought I would tell you how delighted I am to have found you.

I'm a journalist/blogger specialising in news and features who lives on the West Coast of Scotland between Glasgow and Loch Lomond . I buy More in a small shop near Glasgow University and three copies on I am absolutely hooked. Reading is how I like to relax and adding More to the mix represents a real discovery.

I should say I am 42 and increasingly feel that a lot of publications really aren't catering to me. I Generation X and have only just swopped my Converse for Supergas -because Converse has of course been colonised by one and all! Does it sound precious to say I feel ageless? I do normally and especially when I read More but NOT when I read a lot of other publications.

I buy quite a few US magazines - I won't buy this month's Elle because the cover star is at least nearly three decades younger than me and why would Milie Cyrus interest me anyway? I can't give up Allure because I am too crazed about makeup and dream about going hog wild in Duane Reid all the bloody time! (I've been to NYC yes and Seattle when I lived in Vancouver for six months and I would love to come back to the States at some point)

I also buy O and I do think some of the articles are really thought provoking and the artwork excellent  but I do find it a bit vanilla pudding normalcy if you see what I mean. This is not entirely because I am single and childless but because it can seem a bit too cosy at times. It is also a bit girlie which I'm not big on.

My compatriot Anna Wintour is someone I really admire BUT I don't particularly enjoy US Vogue because I just cannot relate to it.

Randomly and from different issues: I particularly enjoyed your article about women who are handsome, the different types of marriages people had (I only doubted the couple who had a celibate relationship) and the fears of the woman whose husband was not paying his way. Your choice of cover stars is also a very big draw to me because they all sound like women who actually have something to say.

I think your magazine has a very European sensibility and is very sophisticated.  I just got back from Prague (I'm lucky enough to be able to travel quite a lot in Eastern Europe) and I can just imagine sitting reading More in a cafe there . Believe you me - I'd love to!

Anyway, I just thought you would like to hear!

And if your magazine ever needs a UK perspective on anything, all you have to do is ask!

All the very best to you and your staff
--Clare Grant

Thank you for the excellent article about Women Priests!  I am a fallen away catholic – so sickened by the sex –abuse scandal and the way it’s been handled.  I’ve just completely lost my spirit in the catholic church.
This article gave me new hope for our church!  You’ve given me some new resources I hadn’t run across before.  Thank you!

--Stephanie Perry

Hi Lesley, I loved your editorial in this months magazine. Thinking with a beginners mind is so freeing, there is no pressure to do it perfectly and making mistakes is expected. This really resonated with me and can make life a lot more fun. Thanks for the reminder!
--Heather Carey, MS
Culinary Nutritionist

Dear More (especially Ms Duin):

Wow! This article really left an impression on me and I am so joyful that there are women who are taking a stand for maintaining their faith and being who they are. Religion can be such a sticky and double-edged topic and this article really spoke to what is important while pointing out some of the injustices within religion for woman.

I grew up in a closed religious community (as many others have) and told I could be anything, just not this or that, and certainly not a priest. (We were told it was too "distracting" to men - don't get me started). So, now as a psychologist I am starting to understand the fear that is triggered when human rights "threaten" the status quo. I have never taken a stand as these priests have, with so much to lose. They are courageous. They must truely feel God's love and the action of the Holy Spirit. Change comes slowly and they will be remembered!

Thank you so much for publishing this article,
--Jessica Del Pozo, PhD

Hi Lesley. As a returning reader, I thought you'd like to know that I love your magazine and won't let my subscription lapse again. Also, for the first time in 40 years of magazine reading, I now read the Letter from the Editor, thanks to you. I read your February editorial, then loved the March questioning of why one fashion is suitable for a 40-year-old, but not a 50-year-old, and totally connected with your never-ending love of learning in the May issue. (I started studying archaeology in my 40's during a great career as a librarian.) I now read most of the letters from the editor in my 15 or so magazines, and I understand why you'd want to put your stamp on each month's issue, like naming a baby. Thanks for opening my eyes to the editors perspective on each issue.

Sincerely,
--Karen Conaway

Dear Ms. Seymour:

My roommate subscribes to  your magazine and I enjoy reading it; I especially want to commend you for the article "Fierce List" in the May 2013 issue, I noted Brig General Tammy Smith and Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth featured.  It looked like Congresswoman Duckworth was at the Women In Military Service For America Memorial at Arlington National Cemetery!  Both of these women are examples of "fierce" strong women who have served America and continue to serve.   Your magazine is uplifting and a positive influence for women, thank you.  Have you considered doing a feature article on the Women's Memorial, it is the only memorial to honor all women from all services who have served throughout American history.  It's a beautiful education center located at the gateway to Arlington National Cemetery?  Brig General Wilma Vaught, USAF, Retired is the President, she is another fierce woman who has worked tirelessly to raise the funds and build this memorial honoring our nations women veterans!    Thank you again for recognizing American servicewomen along with the other noteworthy women featured in your magazine. 

Sincerely,
--Pat Childers

Hello Lesley,

Your letter in the May issue made me question my self-diagnosed addiction to learning! I was truly humbled by your make-it-happen ambition.  I love your description of grasshopper moments, so I thought I would take you up on your offer to submit my own personal moment. 

I, like you, love to seek out new learning for my own personal growth.  I often feel myself being pulled toward new ideas and I have learned to follow and see what happens.  Currently,  my grasshopper moment is writing children’s stories.  I am a school teacher immersed in the world of children’s literature.  Although I have always been interested in writing, through the years I fueled my interest with my activities in the classroom.  This past year, I decided to take it a step further.   I decided to explore the world of publishing and see where it leads me.  After submitting to a few publishers, I definitely feel like a tiny green grasshopper!  Although I’ve been discouraged lately, reading your letter gave me a whole new outlook.  It awakened my usual positive self and revved me up for my next hopping adventure.  

Thank you,
--Franca DiFazio

Lesley,

Loved your "grasshopper" moments. I too have had many of them.After raising my family,  I went to college, at age 45,  and received my Masters degree at age 50. I had many great experiences as a social work/psychotherapist including doing therapy groups fin a women's prison, developing a diabetes program in a hospital and running a teen half way house before I opened my private practice. During the 27 years of practice I also co-wrote a book (Growing U with A Schizophrenic Mother) which had been a heart's desire for many years. I retired at 77 and said to myself, "Now what?" So, first I became more computer literate. Then, to learn  how to self-publish,  I wrote a small workbook (When He Won't Say Yes) Next, Next, I joined a feminist  book club with wonderful young women my granddaughter's age and  more  recently have started to sell books on the Internet. I keep looking for more "grasshopper moments" especially now that you have given me a name for them. Thanks for a great viewpoint.
--Doris Parker Roberts

Hi Lesley,

First let me say how much I enjoyed the latest issue of MORE.  I found inspiration both for myself, and for my cousin. to whom I sent several of the articles.  Thank you so much for having a magazine for us older sorts.

I had a bone marrow transplant two years ago, and have many compressed vertebrae from the cancer I have been recovering from, so I had to retire from my elementary teaching job and learn new things to do at home that are easy on my back.  I have always been able to knit scarves, but not much else, and decided to teach myself to knit sweaters.  I started out with one book of patterns and another book that visually showed how to knit different stitches.  Well I made a couple of sweaters on straight needles, then decided I had to take the plunge and learn how to use circular needles.  I have been knitting like crazy for the year and a half, always have a project, and have progressed from simple vests and cardigans, to short sleeved sweaters with lace patterns, and pullovers with a cable pattern on the top.  I've been learning to do some improvising on the patterns, and learning how to make them fit better.  Believe me, there are a lot of things that haven't worked out, and some of them I've given away (if they didn't fit me) or taken out and re-knit into different patterns.  Some sweaters just have mistakes, and that's the way it is.

But the most enjoyable thing about learning this, is that I had plenty of time and could learn by making mistakes, re-doing, and experimenting.  I think this way of learning is often lost in the hurry-up stressful world we live in and even if I wish I had never had cancer, I do appreciate the time it has given me to learn something from the bottom up, the hands- on way. 

Thank you for also appreciating how it is to be a new learner, and the wonderful perspective that gives us.
--Susan Alexander

Dear Lesley,

Let me explain how I came across your magazine. I am a 28 year old chef, and I live with a 65 year old retired artist. She is a great friend of mine, and an avid reader.

Now, I majored in English in college and minored in feminism. I enjoy the artsy stimulus of women's magazines, but as a whole they are terrible and vapid. I used to subscribe to some feminist magazines, I think Oprah's magazine is positive. But I am never really blown away by a magazine article.

This morning, my roommate and I were having coffee, and I noticed the "More" magazine on the table. The "style and substance" part caught my eye.

Hooray for substance! First, I read your article, "Living in the New." I loved it, and I completely get where you are coming from. I am returning to school for a second degree, and I think as a nation we should all just continue to study new things every year. It helps you feel young and progressive.

Then I read the article on Amy Baxter and her pain-relieving bee. Amazing. Really blown away by her power and persistence. What I really noticed about the article is how, as a person, she didn't just accept defeat when the factory burned down. And she didn't quit after the first 8 prototypes. Today's culture encourages the idea of instant success, and light should be shed on people who worked daily for years for one shred of promise. Today's culture encourages self-pity and wallowing. Just look at my entire 90's CD collection, all wallowing music. It is so easy to give up and cry about things. I am really proud of Amy for being relentless. That article was incredible.

Then, when I was super amped about my life after reading that, I read your "fierce" list. I had consistent goosebumps and was in awe of all of them. I am cutting the article out and keeping it. I wish Cosmo and Seventeen would publish equally substantial articles for young women so they know they are more than just their parts and their well-assembled outfit.

Thank you, Thank you, thank you. And thank all of the women on your "fierce" list for me. They are my models now. I needed some good models at this part of my life.

Sincerely,
--Heather Martinsen

Dear Lesley,

First let me compliment you on the magazine, it has lovely stories and is inspiring to many of us older women, in many ways. But, may I just give you my slant on getting older...I am a 61 year old, wife, and mom of two adult children, and a 12 year breast cancer survivor..With that said, I feel almost guilty in confessing to you, I do not feel particularly lucky on a daily basis and have a less "upbeat" take on life, rather than the always grateful and happy people that seem to be reflected in the stories in your magazine. I guess what I mean is that there do not seem to be any ladies who reflect the negative and angry way that disease( and others) affect us and am I the only one who not only feels like "why me?" but in fact, "why the HELL me?" and the many ways the experience has affected my life, EVEN THOUGH I HAVE SO FAR, SURVIVED.  For example, the lousy body image we see every day when getting dressed, the ever present fear of the next mammo, and of course, the lingering dread that we may have indeed passed this horrible thing tour daughters and grand-daughters both of which I have. I just wanted to say that..Please do not understand me, as I have received your publication for several years and will continue to. I love it. But just needed to vent. Thanks for listening and again, I especially enjoy your letters from the Editor. Continue your special work.

Sincerely Yours,
--Linda Tones

My daughter and I have always been Gilmore Girl fans and when I received your May 2013 issue and saw Lauren Graham on the cover, I instantly ripped open the protective covering to read the article. My jaw literally dropped when I saw the photo of Lauren bent over with her boobs falling out of her blouse and her legs splayed with the grass skirt exposing them.  I had to flip back to the cover to make sure I was not looking at Cosmo.  I felt as though Lauren should not have allowed herself to be photographed in such a sexually explicit pose; perhaps things were moving so quickly she was unaware of what was happening. What is wrong with Peggy Sirota and what was she thinking when she asked Lauren to pose like this? What is wrong with More Magazine thinking this is an appropriate photograph to highlight their cover article? Who is Jonny Lichtenstein and whose idea was this anyway?  Is someone trying to make us notice their name and achieve notoriety at Lauren's expense?

My impression of this magazine was that it is for the more mature woman who has richly experienced life and is smarter and more confident because of that experience. When a smart, confident and mature woman looks at a photograph of a beautiful woman who has allowed herself to be cheaply displayed as an object of pure sexuality, she wonders if perhaps feminism has not made as much progress as she had previously thought.  Lauren is a beautiful, intelligent, sexually attractive woman who does not need to expose herself to the world in such a provocative pose. Even if I had Lauren's gorgeous face and body, I would not allow anyone to photograph me like this in my own home. 

Maybe it did not feel sexual or provocative when the photo shoot was being done but it certainly appears as such when you look at the final result.  This photograph should have been given to Lauren quietly so she could hide it in her diary or paper shredder.  That would have been the only decent thing to do with it.  Instead whether Lauren was aware of it or not, this magazine exploited her beautiful womanhood to something that in the end truly cheapens this magazine.  My impression has always been that this magazine was for mature women who value brains as well as beauty but does not allow themselves to be thought of as sexual objects.  The cover of your magazine is More for Women of Style & Substance.  This is substance?
--Nancy Dahood

I love More magazine because, when I started reading it, I felt like I had finally found that sweet spot between being too old for Glamour, to down-to-earth for Vogue, and too into magazines to give them up.

But your newest issue (with Lauren Graham on the cover) made me sick.  It was so full of retro body-shaming that I could barely make it through the issue.  Please take a careful look at this issue. 

The piece called (I believe) "Once More Onto the Beach" is full of disturbing, self-loathing imagery. 

Your story on swimsuits did not feature a single thought along the lines of: love your body, however it looks.  Instead, the body-oriented editorial was about hiding or "fixing" our (apparently) uncool bodies so that, for example, a trip to the snack bar isn't a nightmare. 

And your piece about food obsession was just as bad.  I get that you were interviewing two women and therefore printing their opinions.  But your piece--especially in the context of the issue--left no room for an obvious truth: fat women can be happy and beautiful.  All women can be happy and beautiful, and their bodies need play a tiny role in that, or a huge role in that, no matter what those bodies look like.

More is in a uniquely powerful position to guide the conversation women have with themselves and with each other about our bodies.  Hating or complaining about our looks does not have to be one of the ways we bond; in fact, it shouldn't.  Summer and swimming do not have to be about shame.  Maybe you don't realize that by engaging in this dialogue you are perpetuating the problem; you are.

Why don't you consider changing the conversation?  How about a beach-going story that involves loving your body and enjoying the sun, water, fresh air, free time, and fellowship?  How about a swimsuit issue that exudes body-love instead of fear and loathing?  How about stories that show fat women as happy, healthy, and not hell-bent on being thing?  You have the chance to make a difference.  Why don't you?

Sincerely,
--Savala Nolan

Dear More,

I received a complementary copy of your publication in the mail yesterday, and I was excited to peruse it. I'm a 31 year old working woman who really enjoys reading women's magazines and subscribes to a fair number of them, but had not, as of yet, read yours.

At first, I really enjoyed the layout, the tips on beauty and swimsuits, and other items. I was absolutely appalled, however, to see your article on "women priests."

This was a pure journalistic hack job, especially including the reference to pedophilia, which is not confirmed just to the Catholic church, or indeed ministers in general. The author does not mention Catholic theology on why only women can be priests. There are also factual errors: men who come from the Anglican church and are married *can* be priests, and gay men can also be priests, because the Catholic Church requires celibacy of their priests, monks, and nuns. The entire tone of the article is that the Church is "mean". Also, only one priest was interviewed? The writer couldn't have found a bishop, or a cardinal, or even the United States' Conference of Catholic Bishop's spokeswoman (yes, she's a woman) to interview, or get a comment?

I was seriously considering subscribing to your magazine before I read this issue. I find it hard to believe that the editorial board wouldn't consider the notion that faithful, female Catholics may read this and be as appalled as I was at the was our Church is treated.

You have lost a potential subscriber, and I imagine you'll lose more, because there are quite a few women like me out there, even if we aren't polled by the New York Times and CBS about our views.
Sincerely,
--Emily M. DeArdo

Greetings, MORE magazine:

I've been a loyal subscriber of MORE since it's inception, but have decided not to renew or purchase your magazine from this point forward.  Every issue seems to have more "problem" articles:  how to deal with aging parents, children with problems, financial issues for the 40+ woman.  That's fine and needed, but it is very tiring to be looked at as a generation of problems that never seem to end.  Where is the fun?  Where is the inspiration?  Where is the fashion other than a quick 5 page spread?  My friends and I are NOT represented in the advertising, choice of fashion models or zest for life.  In other words, your magazine has become so serious it takes energy to even read the articles.  It seems you have lost the initial balance you had of enjoyment in life vs. addressing common problems we all have to face every day.  Please--we are not on our last breath and bit of energy from post menopausal issues; reading your magazine is like attending a funeral every time I pick up an issue.
--Dorothy Pedersen

Dear Meredith,

I recently made a life changing move to Southern California after raising children and caring for family in Tucson, Arizona for the past 25 years.

Shortly after moving into our California condo in November of 2012, I began receiving issues of More Magazine in the mail.  I found this odd because I dont think I purposefully subscribed.  I would become irritated each month as the issues came in the mail and felt as if someone was forcing this magazine upon me.  I felt guilty if I did not at least flip through it because of the trees involved and all the other ecological implications attached to its arrival in my mailbox.

Let me tell you, I am a pretty simple person and reading about what I can slather on myself or how I'm supposed to dress at my age doesn't hold my interest for long. I have serious stuff going on in my life. 

I'm 59 years old and I need a job.  I have lots of education but have not worked in my field for  many years.  Early in our marriage I chose to work only part-time and stay home with my 2 daughters.  I tried to work retail at one point  recently but was told by the 20 somethings that I worked with that I looked "good for such an old person".  I really love teaching meditation and educating anyone who will listen about alternative healing--but you can imagine that does not pay much.  So, all of this can create a sense of existential dread and anxiety in the middle of the night--even for someone like me who knows better.

Then came your May 2013 issue on a day when I was especially feeling the empty nest.  I was in need of empowerment and humor -- and I got them both.  The articles were exceptionally powerful this month.  "The Fierce List," "The Rebel Priests" and The art of fearlessness" especially stood out to me.

Delia Ephron reminded me that we are all sisters united in this "lifelong battle of empowerment versus insecurity, calm versus anxiety, positive versus negative".  Her suggestions made me laugh but also rang true for me.  Fix your hair, put on some jewelry, those biker boots really do feel powerful, and muster up your boldest female friend and say to yourself: "If she can do it so can I".

Find courage in humor.  Understand that feelings come and go.  Therapy in wonderful but in the end, life is much less complicated if you find your own healthy and creative ways to cope.

So, you have a convert to More. 

Sincerely,
--Lucy Peerenboom

Dear Editor,

The article "The Boy Who Can't Wake Up," in the May issue, made me realize how lucky I am to see my son grow up. It made me think of all the times this mother is missing out on: baseball games, recitals, learning to drive a car, having girlfriends, and just experiencing life with her son. I wish her and her family the best, and I hope they find a cure or remedy, which will allow her son to live a happy and productive life.

Sincerely,
--Bunny Arlotti

 

Dear Editors:

I recently became a "lady of a certain age" and subscribed to More because it was - well - classy.  I outgrew Cosmo and Glamour years ago, Vogue was too ethereal, and Elle was just getting unreadable.  As a married 40+ professional without kids, I've never really resonated with "ladies" magazines like LHJ, Good Housekeeping, and Redbook.  Then I found More and really appreciated the balance between fashion and lifestyle and the smart writing - and subscribed.

Now, as many readers do, I'm writing to complain a little.  I got the latest issue (May) with the lovely Lauren Graham.  There was a little decolletage showing on the cover but nothing too blatant.  Then I get to the the cover story about her and BAM!!, I am faced with full on, middle of the page, centered so my eyes are staring right at her, cleavage like there's no tomorrow.  I was actually as embarrassed as if I'd bumped into her in person and accidentally caught a peek down her blouse (and I'm not the prudish type). 

That photo wasn't really necessary and frankly demeans the subject of the article.  Here's this lovely, intelligent lady - and the first full page shot is focused on her cleavage.   Tacky.

Next time, why not focus on the beautiful smile, graceful walk, or a sitting beauty and bypass the boobs?  I have 2 of my own, and I don't really need to see someone else's when I'm reading a magazine (like yours) for the great writing and substance.

Otherwise - totally love your publication.

Best regards
--M. Zabriskie

Dear Lesley,

I love the concept of MORE magazine and have been a loyal subscriber
for many yrs.
Having long been a fan of women's magazines starting with Glamour when
I was a teen,
I was thrilled to see a publication celebrating women over 40.  I am 56.
But there is one glaring problem with MORE which I have overlooked for
many yrs until now.
The layout, font and overall page design ( for lack of a better word)
makes it very difficult and downright aggravating to read.
The font is too small, ( I compared it to People and Oprah and it IS
smaller!)
There is too much on each page and the graphics to most articles
are so busy and crammed together, I just want to turn the page quickly
to escape- my interest in the article or whatever was on that page
gone......
An excellent example of this it the graphic associated with the
article on stay-at home moms vs those who work.
There is a page of "dueling comments"  which is busy, chaotic with
mixed font and colors making it almost impossible to read.
The reader actually has to WORK to wade through it due to the layout.
I have found this "graphic" mess in all of your issues associated with
many articles.
In fact, at the beginning of the magazine, there is a page fun facts,
percentages, quotes and etc.
It is a messy , impossible page to read!
I have never in my life written to a magazine editor with feedback of
any kind, but i care enough about what you are doing to let you know
that no matter
how good the magazine is, if it is graphically unappealing and
difficult to read, no one will.
I have not renewed my subscription because of this- many of my friends
share my sentiments.
I just find the magazine increasingly unpleasant to read-
PLEASE overhaul the layout and graphics and MORE will be a favorite to
those of us who value what you are trying to do.
Thanks for listening,
--Elise Israel

Dear Editor:

This is to bring to your notice that content in MORE magazine has continued to deteriorate, and I didn't think it could get any worse. 

 

Specifically, your attack on my church, the Roman Catholic Church, in Julia Duin's article The Rebel Priests, was especially offensive.  You are forgetting that 1.2 billion of the world is Roman Catholic.

1. Your article wrongfully assumes that there are a great number of women wanting to be priests. Where's the data that supports that viewpoint?

2. You assume that there are a great number of Catholics that are urging for women to become part of the priesthood.  Where's the source data that shows this to be the case?

3.  Why was no representative ("in communion with the Church" as opposed to these non-practicing so-called rebels) of the Church quoted to explain why women are not priests?  Because no one from the opposing side was quoted, I assume that Ms. Duin did not want to have to address that information in her article.  As a result, her article reads as very biased and does not contain the facts.  This in my mind equates to bad journalism.  Every good argument should address the opposing side. 

4.  Your author clearly does not have a thorough understanding of the topic she is writing about.  Was any research done at all into the actual teachings of the Church?  It also seems that the author could be a fallen-away Catholic with some unresolved hostility against the Church that is clouding her ability to report the facts.  If I was a journalist covering a faith group or religion whose beliefs were different from my own, I would certainly show more respect toward that faith than Ms. Duin has shown in her article.

I am very upset with MORE magazine's choice of article topics as well as the advertising that is published in the magazine.  The views expressed in your magazine are not representative of me and the majority of women.  In fact, I feel betrayed by your magazine and narrow range of viewpoints represented within.  Women are smarter than you seem to think!  Why not present both sides of an issue and let women use their intellect to make a choice instead of trying to force her views upon others.

To be sure, I am grateful that my subscription is up for renewal.  I won't be renewing my subscription.  I don't want to see your magazine in my mailbox or in my home.  I certainly would not subscribe to it again or purchase it for my mother, aunt, or any female member of my family. 
--Erin Parker

Dear Ms. Seymour,

When I recently began my subscription to your magazine devoted to women and our lives after 40, I did not anticipate viewing copious amounts of Hollywood stars' cleavage. I was disappointed last month to see the very funny Julia Louise-Dreyfus bowing over to show her ta-tas to us readers. Today I was, again, dismayed to see Ms. Graham's dangling boobs on display (pg.86). These women are so much More (pardon the pun) than their cleavage. Please keep your images respectful and leave the gratuitous breast shots out your stories...TV has that covered.

Thanks for listening,
--Keri Konold

Thank you for the article about Roman Catholic Women Priests in the May issue.  It is too bad the photographer didn't get it that this was an article about WOMEN priests.  I am a member of the Compassion of Christ Catholic Community co-pastored by Monique Venne.  I would not have recognized her in the magazine picture except her name was on the page.  The photographer appears to have tried to make the women look as masculine as possible, apparently his stereotype of a priest.  The RCWP members I know are joy-filled because they have answered the Holy Spirit's call.  Their eyes sparkle.  They wear makeup and enjoy their femininity and careers.  One would never know it from these pictures. Thank God the photographer couldn't tame the curls of Donna. Rougeux!  
--Pauline Cahalan

Dear More,

Read some of your readers' letters. I am over 60 and agree that there is so little for 60,70, 80s. I feel young and active and vital, and thought More was a magazine with me in mind, rather than the myriad of other women's magazines that I rarely look at. (At the moment you are my only subscription). I too am discouraged by your emphasis on 30 and 40 somethings and implications that 50 is over the hill!  One more comment... I would not consider spending $400 on a purse, blouse, shoes, etc. The clothing prices are over the top. Most of us are lucky to buy plane tickets to visit our adult children for those prices. Thank you for listening!
--MK

I just received my first issue of More and started leafing thru it when I came across this statistic that is bantered around so much it always makes me ask another question.  The statistic is that women in Arizona make 89% of what a man makes.  (page 21)  The question I have is whether anyone really thinks that if companies could get exactly the same work done for 11% less money that they wouldn't let go all of their male employees and only hire women????  I'm sure as a manager and responsible for a budget that if these statistics were actually true, you would not have one man on your payroll... Is it true??? By gosh I see it almost is... you just need to get rid of Mark and Paul and it will be an all girl magazine... of course that would leave you quite open to a discrimination lawsuit so maybe you'd better keep a token 2 men on the staff. (By the way, do the women on your staff get paid exactly the same as men at other magazines?)   Statistics are so easily manipulated they really should be ignored by anyone other than an actual statistician.

I'm sure this won't make it into print, but I am so glad I got it off my chest.

Sincerely,
--Joan Golinar

I just finished reading the May issue of MORE magazine and must let you know when my subscription needs renewal I won't be continuing it.  I have been a subscriber for many years, in fact accidentally buying the first issue off the stand, not realizing it was was designed for women my age.  Since then I have looked forward to each article with anticipation. The day it came In the mail you often found me slipping home from work early to enjoy each page, advertisement and article.

What I have seen in the past year or so is a much different feel I get from reading the articles.  You seem to include so many articles of women who mistrust, have chips on their shoulders and are just plain angry.  This month is no exception. Why feature women in the "Fearce List" as those that stood up against men or the establishment. I truly believe these women did the things they chose to do because they believed in their hearts that was the right thing to do, not because they needed to pave a path guarded by others in their way. 

Give us a break and quit making women appear weak!

In fact, I originally subscribed to your magazine for the articles about fashion, beauty tips, etc. but for women like me.   If you want me back and maybe others, please bring more of "take me away" articles and less of political, anti-others kind of articles.

I have often given your magazine as a gift but if you continue to try and prove women are angry and downtrodden, I won't be doing that either. 

I have never written a letter like this so I hope you find this helpful and will rethink your path. Life has enough reasons to find turmoil and disgust, please leave it out of your periodical.

Thank you, 
--Nancy L

 

Good Afternoon Ms. Seymour,
I am writing to you with regards to the article "Fierce" in your May 2013 issue.  My wife subscribes to your magazine and I generally peruse it looking for interesting items.  I was intrigued by the women that you highlighted in that article.  It truly depicts women who have done amazing things and it is important that they be recognized for their accomplishments.   
But, I would like to call attention to a woman whom I believe deserves to have been on that list or perhaps deserves a separate article all on her own.  That woman is Jennifer Maier and she is the township administrator of Union Beach, NJ.  This is a town that was totally devastated by Hurricane Sandy.  Ms. Maier had literally taken the job of administrator just months prior to that tragedy.
Since that awful day last year she has worked seven days a week (only recently starting to take off half a day on Saturday and all day Sunday) to bring that town back from this disaster.  She has worked tirelessly to solicit funds and grants from an incredible number of organizations.  These include the American Red Cross and the Robin Hood Foundation just to name two that are prominently known.  Jennifer has been successful with the Robin Hood Foundation because she has spearheaded an effort to have sustainable and green houses designed and built specifically for Union Beach.  The Red Cross is, in fact, interested in these designs because they might have applications world-wide.  These houses will be pre-fab and built elsewhere and put together on site in Union Beach.  

Jennifer has also been working with FEMA and every governmental organization that has been available.  Dealing with the frustrations of the arms of various government entities has become her stock in trade.  While doing all of this she has continuously worked with the people of Union Beach to ease their suffering, while endeavouring to get them back on their feet as quickly as possible.  
Might I also mention that she is a single mother raising two teenaged children.  
I realize that these problems are manifest all along the Jersey shore, but I truly believe that Jennifer stands out from the crowd.  As she said to me a while ago, for the first few months after the hurricane she found that at some time during each day she would have to go into her small office and just cry for a while as the suffering of the people in the town just overwhelmed her.  Her humanity and compassion adds a level of depth to her involvement with the people of Union Beach.
I have had the pleasure of working with her and the people of Union Beach because I am a volunteer in an organization that works to assist Union Beach in their recovery efforts.  Her job is no longer just a job, it is a passion that she works hard at every day to improve her town and the people who live in it.  
Jennifer is truly a "Fierce" woman and her efforts need to be recognized as an extraordinary example of the women that "More" magazine writes about.  
Thanks you in advance for any consideration that you might give to this e-mail and this AMAZING WOMAN.
Sincerely,
--Ernest Janssen

I just had to say that the photos of Lauren Graham were terrible. She 

didn't look like herself, so I'm guessing she was photoshopped a lot. 

The poses were so off target for her personality that if I was her I 

would never let that photographer near me again.  While I appreciate 

your goal is to show successful, accomplished women who still have sex 

appeal, that bent over angles were simply hideous.

She's a great subject for a cover and I know she's been on your cover 

before, but please have some class and make these people look like who 

they are. I don't care if you erase a few lines or even a double chin. 

I do care when you try to make them look like pole dancers. So 

disrespectful to their accomplishments. I must sound like a prude but 

that;s not the case. Sexy is wonderful, obliterating an identity is not.

Cheers,

--Tomi

I have been a reader of more magazine for many years but have never felt compelled to respond to an article. Your article on women priests upset me greatly.No matter what they say, they are not priests. To be a priest in the Catholic Church you can only be a man. These women are not priests. You can not choose what you believe in the Catholic Church . To be a true Catholic you must embrace it all. If these women want to be priests join a different church. Jesus did not say to Mary Magdalene come join me and be a priest. She loved him and followed him.

Yes, we are placed on this earth to love and serve each other but not as we decide but as the Catholic Church ,which has existed for over 1,000 years decrees. I believe as do other faith filled people of God that when we follow Gods will ,not our own we are fulfilled in our Life. I have been an RN for over 25 years and live this every day in my care of patients.

Sincerely,
--Rosemary B. Sullivan

Dear Lesley,

I found the article "Cancer: A Huge Leap Forward" in More February 2013 eye-opening. As a breast cancer survivor, I have researched the disease, treatments and so-called progress a great deal, as well as the fund raising and spending. I follow it all in awe.

I was astonished that this article confirmed my suspicions with a medical professional admitting the truth. They don't want to cure the disease.

According to Dr Brian Drucker, "the goal is to turn cancer into a chronic disease like AIDS." The goal is not to cure cancer. I firmly believe this to be true. How despicable!

Cancer is an enormous business that is critical to the "success" of the ever-powerful pharmaceutical industry, not to mention the medical industry, fund raising organizations and limitless other leaches. If they cured it, the trillions of dollars they've had at their disposals would go away.

I knew it. I just didn't ever think I'd live long enough to hear someone say it, and you printed it.
--Joan Centanno

Hi,

I am writing about the "Secrets of Gorgeous Hair". I can guarantee that if I had the hair of any of these women, I could consider it gorgeous, even if I let it air dry without any product. Here's an idea for a story; how about secrets for those of us that do not have thick, glorious locks? So many of your readers (or soon to be former readers, judging from the online letters about the May issue) have thin, sparse hair from chemo or menopause or just life. How about giving us some tips on how to make our hair look great?

I have been a subscriber for many years, but I am doubtful that I will continue. Your magazine is just not relevant to my lifestyle or budget.

Sincerely,
--Ellen Musgrove

I cringed when I saw this title.  I have treatment resistant bipolar I with mixed episodes, complicated PTSD, ADHD, borderline personality disorder, and somatization disorder (I am a hot mess).  I also obtained a Master's from a prestigious university and rose through the ranks to be a Director of Human Resources focusing primarily on employee relations.  A few years ago I could have been in your article. 

However, the reason I cringe, is that after a horrific year, I was forced to disability retire.  My very creative psychiatrist has given up.  I have literally taken every medication but two, had electroconvulsive therapy 3 times in 10 years, been in weekly therapy for 12 years, been hospitalized at least 15 times, tried CBT, DBT, Hypnotherapy, group therapy, art therapy, etc.....

When I see "recovery", I am both glad and saddened.  Glad because in my lifetime I have seen an increase in awareness about mental illness and that many people can be valuable, contributing, successful people who happen to suffer with a chronic, life long illness. 

I am saddened because using the word recovered implies people can overcome and control their illness if they just do the "right" thing.  This is paradoxically both empowering for the newly diagnosed struggling to integrate the illness in their lives and disheartening for those of us who can't.

Love your magazine!
--Lisa Milne

I felt so energized and empowered after reading the articles about strong, "fierce", courageous women in the May issue. Then I turn to page 86 and see the photograph at the beginning of the article about Lauren Graham.  There she is in a stereotypical, provocative pose better suited to a men's magazine. So, you really haven't decided what your message is to women, have you?
--Eileen Kelly

I cannot convey to  you how offended I am about the article on "women priests."  As a lifelong Catholic, I can assure you that only males can be ordained priests.  Just as Our Lord, (who showed little interest in adhering to the political correctness of his day) ordained only men as apostles, so men, and only men, can serve in that role today.

How sad that some women can find fulfillment only in pretending to be men.
--Connie Worthman

As a 48 year old mother of two teens, I have an obligation to model quality periodical reading in my home.  Although I find many of the articles in MORE to be inspiring and provocative, the photographs of Lauren Graham were disappointing at best.  Whom are you targeting with a magazine cover that displays generous cleavage?  Even worse, the full page photo of Graham inside the magazine has her in such a ridiculous unnatural bend-over position (how do you like these breasts) that one is led to believe she might be preparing to urinate in the grassy field where the photo takes place.  What gives More?  Don't you know that when it comes to sharing our bodies, LESS truly is MORE.
--Megan Morris

I take HUGE issue with the inclusion of Candy Crowley in your Fierce List. Seriously? You can love her all you want for her “balls,” but she did a serious disservice to all who tuned into the debate that night. In a blatant attempt to provide cover for the President regarding the Banghazi debacle, she wrongly said the President immediately called it an “act of terror” when Romney was trying to make the point he hadn’t (does "spontaneous" violence ring a bell)? It was completely out of bounds for a moderator to interject him or herself into the debate in defense of a candidate. Worse yet, she got it wrong. He hadn't called it an act of terror until much, much later. And Crowley eventually admitted she was wrong. You gave her props for keeping the candidates "on point" when what she actually did was "create points" for her one, favored candidate. The Debate Commission even said they made a mistake asking her to be the moderator, and disappointingly, you applauded her for it.
--Anonymous

I just cancelled my subscription to your magazine after my first issue since the print size is so small it is very difficult to read.  I have 20/20 vision but now in middle age need glasses for reading.   The font is a couple points smaller than other magazines, and I would think that a magazine who is aiming at a good part of its market to be the 40+ crowd would take readability into consideration.
--Susan Jamieson

By the way, this survey thing is ridiculous, signing up for who knows what, forgetting what one wants to say in the meantime.

I like your magazine.  I do not like the covers of the last two issues.  Here are two fine actresses falling out of their bras and onto the covers. Demeaning dismissive of their real talent.  Shame on you.

I don't like the photograph of the two women fighting in last month's issue; its ugliness took away from the real substance of the research you did.
--Jane Juska

Hello- I am not sure this is the correct contact point but the web goes around in a circle basically when you click on “contact us”  and it never get’s anywhere.

So- while reading the May issue, specifically the “Fierce” article I had to write to someone at the magazine to ask...Are you serious?

To applaud Candy Crowley for her behavior at the Presidential Town Hall debate and actually state she “had the balls” to keep the candidates on point and on their toes is so far into the crazy zone I am still shaking my head.

In my opinion the woman should have been fired for her conduct and her incredibly rude and disrespectful behavior toward Mr. Romney, not commended.

Have we really gone so far down that any expectation of professional behavior is gone forever?

I expected better from your magazine which is why I subscribe to it but I may have to rethink that one when it comes time for renewal.

So sad.
--Diane Parodi

Hello,

I’ve been a MORE subscriber for many years and am very disappointed to see that the two most recent issues are showing more skin than I’ve seen in the past. Perhaps, at 75, I’m finally becoming a fuddy-duddy! Julia Louis-Dreyfus’ photo on page 8 of the April issue seems unnecessarily revealing and Lauren Graham on page 86 of the May issue is ridiculous. Does your reader research show that is what “women of style and substance” want to see?

I appreciate the informative articles, book reviews, and skincare and fashion advice, though it is geared for younger women -- but am beginning to think I have “outgrown” the magazine. I know I’m not your primary target audience, but I do buy stuff.

Yours truly,
--Nancy

Unbelievable. I subscribe to your magazine because of the inspiring stories you feature of mature women regardless of ethnicity, looks or other.

Imagine my dismay while enjoying "The Third Fierce List" (May 2013) and reading the paragraph entitled, "Magnetically Hilarious".  The "boldly chunky Rebel..."    Really? A talented, hysterical actress, and your writer feels the need to include 'chunky' as part of her description? Why is that a necessity?  Would you include that on her male counterparts? There was only one paragraph- actually one lengthy sentence to be exact. So, in reviewing Rebel Wilson, your writer felt that in that one sentence featuring this person, that 'chunky' contributed to a reader's understanding of her in a meaningful way?

I am truly disgusted, what a notch your magazine was taken down with such petty name calling. I guess it's okay to discriminate against a person's size still- because it's not a protected class. I expected better from "More."   Women of style and substance should be above such treatment to our fellow sisters and mankind and general.
Sincerely,
--Tracy Weber

Dear Lesley,

I thoroughly enjoy MORE Magazine.  However, I have been completely offended by the photographs of the celebrities in your recent cover stories.  I started noticing it with Katie Couric.  The photos just seemed overtly sexual.  Then Julia Louis-Dreyfus' breasts were jumping off the pages.  Now the lead photo for Lauren Graham's article might as well have a man standing directly behind her.  Your readers don't want to see these photos; Playboy's readers do.  MORE is supposed to be For Women of Style & Substance.  There is no style or substance to these photos.  Please let the photography reflect the classiness of the magazine itself.

Kind regards,
--Shelly Davis

I am a devout Catholic and the article on The Rebel Priests was so upsetting to me that I will not be renewing my More magazine subscription.   It seems to me that over the last year or so More is changing by including articles that make some of us very uncomfortable.  An article on changing an institution that has been around for over 2000 years and has over a billion followers...really???  I wish you would stick to fashion, health, makeup, book/movie critiques and non-controversial inspiring stories.
--Anonymous

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